A Good Parent Is Firm ~ Fair ~ Fun!Be a good parent! NeedEncouragememt.com

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Being a good parent is not an easy task, but it’s one of the most rewarding experiences in life. To be a good parent, start by understanding that your child needs guidance and discipline to grow into a responsible adult. It can be tough to set boundaries and enforce them consistently, but remember that these rules are meant to keep your child safe and teach them important values. By being firm yet fair and having fun with them, you create a stable environment where they can thrive. Teaching manners and respect is also crucial as it helps children learn how to interact with others positively. Encouraging empathy and kindness will go a long way in shaping their character.

Spending quality time with your child is another key aspect of being a good parent. Take the time to listen attentively to their thoughts and feelings, no matter how trivial or insignificant they may seem at times. Show genuine interest in what they have to say, fostering open communication from an early age. Through this connection, you’ll build trust and strengthen your bond with them. Equally important is showing love, support, and encouragement toward your child’s interests or passions. Whether it’s sports, music, art, or academics – celebrate their achievements big or small! Your unwavering belief in their abilities will instill confidence within them as they navigate through life. As parents ourselves, we must always remember that we are role models for our children; therefore making conscious efforts toward personal growth becomes paramount for us too. We may face difficult moments when parenting feels overwhelming or confusing. In conclusion, being a good parent I learned through my experience requires a parent to be FIRM, FAIR, and FUN displayed in practical ways by practicing patience, dedication, consistency, and hard work; however it is worth every effort in the end because there is nothing more fulfilling than watching your child grow up into successful adults themselves who went through life equipped with everything they needed thanks to their upbringing at home! ~ Bill Greguska

Ephesians 6:4  Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

 

 


 

 

How Can I Be A Good Parent?


 

The Elements Of Time And Effort!

It takes time and effort to raise children who will grow up to be responsible adults, but it’s worth every moment spent with them. The key to being a good parent is to strike a balance between love and discipline. It would help if you showed your children that you care about them deeply, while also teaching them how to behave properly and respect others.

This means setting boundaries for your children and enforcing consequences when they break rules or misbehave. It may seem harsh at times, but remember that you are doing this out of love for your child’s well-being and future success in life. Additionally, take the time to teach your children important manners like saying “please” and “thank you,” as well as showing respect towards others regardless of their differences or beliefs. By instilling these values early on in life, you are providing your child with solid foundations for their future relationships both personally and professionally – making all the hard work worth it! ~ Bill Greguska

 

 


 

Be A Good Parent!

Be A Good Parent By Using Discipline! NeedEncouragememt.com

My motto while raising my kids was to be “Fair, Firm, and Fun!” Bill Greguska

A good parent, a wise parent! Do you want to know how to be a good parent? Then you must find answers to that question in God’s word and teaching and live out biblical principles the best you can. Be sure to be firm, fair, and fun with your children. That was my motto when I raised my children, which encompasses almost everything, and it seemed to work very well for me as a parent and is beneficial to my kids.

Being a good parent does not come by just wishing it to happen. Work, teaching, dedication, patience, and much love and forgiveness are needed to be a good parent. Again, the idea of raising good healthy kids, in my experience, is to be firm, fair, and fun with your children! When you have questions, the place to go is to God’s Word to find the answers.

You can not buy your way into being good, and you can not necessarily be their “friend” while raising them. This relationship will happen later when they are grown and out of the house. Not being their friend does not mean you do not love them; on the contrary, you love them so much that there need to be boundaries set and respect expected. ~ Bill Greguska

 

 


 

How Can I Discipline My Child Without Breaking Their Spirit?


 

 

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Be A Good Parent Is To Be In Control Of Yourself And Situations!

Many Scriptures promote physical discipline, but also love! NeedEncouragememt.com

I have always tried to be a good parent to Chris and Sherry!

One of the best ways Christian parents can teach their children is to be fair, and firm, and have fun with them. (I made up these three words because I felt it covered all bases of parenthood.) Discipline children best can be a difficult task to figure out, but it is essential to have a plan. Some parents claim that discipline (corporal punishment) such as spanking is the only method the Bible supports. Others insist that “time-outs” and other restrictive punishments that do not involve discipline are far more efficient.

Do we know what the Bible says? The Bible teaches that control is proper, beneficial, and necessary. Do not be confused—we are by no means advocating child abuse. A child should never be disciplined physically to the point that it causes actual harm to them. According to the Bible, though, the appropriate and restrained physical training of children is a good thing and contributes to the well-being and correct upbringing of the child.

 


 

 

 

How To Be A Better Parent Without Yelling?


 

 

Children With Little Respect For Authority WILL GET INTO TROUBLE!

Furthermore, children will find it challenging to obey willingly and follow God. Although God, Himself uses discipline to correct us, lead us down the right path, and encourage repentance for our wrong actions.
  • Proverbs 1:7 
  • Isaiah 38:16
  • Hebrews 12:9

To apply training correctly and according to biblical principles, parents must be familiar with the scriptural advice about training a child. Discipline must have as its goal the good of the child and must never be used to justify the abuse and mistreatment of children; it should never be used to vent anger or frustration. Discipline is used to correct and train people to go in the right way. “No discipline seems pleasant at the time but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” Hebrews 12:11.

 

 


 

Some Parents Find That Their Children Do Not Respond Well?

Some parents believe that “time-outs,” grounding, and taking something away from the children are more efficient in encouraging behavioral change. If that is indeed the case, by all means, a parent should use the methods that best produce the needed behavioral change. The Bible undeniably advocates physical discipline. A mother’s love is extraordinary, yet the Bible is more concerned with the goal of building godly character.

 

 


How I Tried to Teach And Discipline Our Son

Early in my role as a stepfather, I raised my stepson from ages 4-14. I was not just firm as a dad, but I was fair and fun with him. I spent an enormous amount of time with my son Chris not only working on homework, choirs, and wheelchair ramps with him (I built ramps for a ministry called Faith Indeed for ten years), and he came with me during the summertime quite often since we had no one to watch over him while we worked. On the other side of the coin, we spent lots of time playing basketball together in the backyard with neighbors and friends. Basketball was a high priority for both of us, which was an excellent bond we had back then. He also enjoyed baseball, football, skateboarding, fishing, swimming, etc. 

What Does The Bible Say About Being A Good Parent?


 

 

Scriptures Promoting Physical Discipline.

  • Don’t fail to correct your children.
  • They won’t die if you spank them.
  • Physical discipline may save them from death Proverbs 23:13-14; Proverbs 22:15.
  • The Bible strongly emphasizes the importance of discipline.

 

 

 


 

 

My Parents:

(This part is from The Book I wrote)

Lord, thank you for giving me the parents that you did. They loved me, provided for me, protected and comforted me — they were almost too good to me. My mom was always by my side, helping me or defending me. My dad was a great guy, too, very patient and wise. You equipped my mom to handle the problems I created, tenderly, and with the patience of a saint. Most of the time, I tried to honor my mother and father as they taught me. Other times, to my disgrace, I did not honor them but lied, stole, talked back, and deceived and disrespected them during my years of alcohol and drug abuse.

Lord, my parents’ forgiveness and patience were remarkable, but they pale in comparison to the love you have shown me. I did not deserve the unconditional love of you or my parents, but I am remarkably thankful for it. You forgave me, restored me, and saved me from my sins and hell, while always loving me more than anyone could.  How amazing!  Other than you, my mom was my most significant support, helping me stay out of trouble, comforting me when I got into trouble, and helping me find the way out.

Lord, my mom, and dad visited me at drug and alcohol treatment centers when I was in my teens and twenties. Even when I was in long-term treatment, they drove 180 miles round trip to see me each weekend for two years. Because of her faithfulness to me and your faithfulness to us,  I was able to fulfill my mom’s biggest request not to put her in a nursing home but to care for her at home for the last eight years of her life. I thank you, Lord, for enabling me to do that.

Ephesians 6:1  Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

My mom has always been kind of my backbone. She keeps me strong. ~ Aerin Lauder, style and image director for The Estée Lauder Companies.

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Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

Proverbs 22:6 ESV

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 6:4 ESV

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Psalm 127:3 ESV 

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

Matthew 18:10 ESV 

“See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven.

Proverbs 17:6 ESV 

Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers.

Isaiah 54:13 ESV 

All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.

Proverbs 20:11 ESV 

Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright.

Colossians 3:20 ESV

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

 


 

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