Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?
My older sister Pat told me many times that her husband Gary was her best friend, and Gary was her best friend. Often, people overlook the importance of loving their spouse and liking them as their best friend. That thought always stuck in my mind, and I wanted to share that with you to make you look at your spouse in even higher regard than you do now.
If, by chance, your spouse is not your best friend, you now have some homework to do. You need to start to think of your spouse as your best friend above anyone in your life, including your children, parents, or anyone. Attempting this effort, you will discover your bond between the two of you will start to grow. Keep it up, and you will not be sorry that you did. Consider making your spouse your best friend if they are not already your best friend. ~ Bill Greguska
Here Are Some Helpful Links:
- Can I overcome having a critical spirit?
- Is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” a biblical statement?
- What does the Bible say about love?
- Why is praying for others significant?
Secret To Understanding Your Spouse!
Specific Relationship Resource Links:
Loving Your Spouse Is Privilege, Do You Respect Your Spouse?
Are the things I plan to say to others today: kind, true, and necessary? Remember that we must always try to think before we say or do something.
Consider if it matters if you’re right. Sometimes we respond to the plan of defending the side we stand on. If you find yourself arguing for the sake of being right, ask yourself, “Does it matter that much if I am right?“
Avoid heated discussions. When we’re emotionally charged, we don’t think clearly and argue out of the impulse to be correct, to defend ourselves, and save our egos. If a discussion is necessary, wait until you and everyone else have cooled off before diving into any further conversation.
Remember what is critical. List the things in your life that are the most important to you. Then ask yourself, “Will a reaction to this person contribute to the things that matter the most to me?”
You get more bees with honey than with vinegar. Try offering a kind word and not emotionally dumping your feelings on the other person you are dealing with. Work on understanding others. Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.
Don’t respond. Many times when your spouse initiates a negative message or rude attitude, they’re trying to trigger a response from you. When we react, we’re giving them what they want.
Stop talking about it if the discussion is going nowhere! When you have a problem or a conflict in your life, don’t you find that others love talking about it? The more we talk about how much we dislike a person, the more hatred we will feel towards them, and the more we’ll notice things about them that we dislike.
Helpful Ideas For Better Relationships With Your Spouse!
Have you put yourself in your spouse’s shoes? Try it, and you may understand how you may have hurt their feelings. This is an excellent way to understand others better.
- Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry! We have been given two ears and one mouth. A good rule to follow is to listen twice as much as we speak. This, too, will help to avoid unnecessary anger with others. You must try to Understand a Friend better.
- Practice forgiveness! Ask yourself, “What is it about this situation or my spouse that I can seek to understand and forgive?” God says that if we do not forgive others’ sins against us, he will not forgive our sins. At the same time, we need to ask God for wisdom and patience with those we don’t see eye-to-eye with.
- Get some exercise and care for your health! Go for a walk, run, swim, or some other workout and invite a friend to join you. Keeping healthy allows you to handle stressful situations better. If you smoke cigarettes, try to quit smoking. If you drink alcohol or use other drugs, those can be a negative reason for you to consider stopping as well.
More Helpful Ideas For You And Your Spouse
- Practice an act of kindness today towards your spouse or someone you know or even someone you don’t know. Do something kind for someone today without expecting anything in return. Understand that others need to be considered significant, which will develop much more quickly into healthy friendships.
- Sometimes your spouse or people, in general, are struggling with issues of their own – it may be an alcohol or drug addiction or mental illness, such as depression. It could be taking their frustration out on you with irrational, or even rude, out-of-line behavior. Try to use kindness to get along with them better instead of what comes naturally, which is getting frustrated or angry.
- Keep in mind that when we point our finger at our spouse or another person, thinking that the problem is their problem, three fingers are often pointing back at ourselves. Try to practice patience for your spouse and others and humility for yourself.
- Try to be patient, try to be loving, try to handle situations like Jesus would want you to through the teachings of the Bible. All of these ideas we have shared for getting along with others will pay off as you practice them in your daily life.
- There are excellent ways to get to know each other better. Some examples are asking questions, being interested in your spouse or any other person more than who you are talking with, being aware of other people’s needs. To get along well with others, there must be effort involved.
Your Spouse Is Someone Very Special!
“Make new friends, keep the old, the new are silver, and the old are gold.
Real friends do not keep score in the friendship; they understand that true friends are real friends no matter what happens in the relationship.
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