Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?

Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?

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Your spouse is meant to be your partner forever! My older sister Pat told me many times that her husband Gary was her best friend, and Gary was her best friend. Often, people overlook the importance of loving their spouse and liking them as their best friend. That thought always stuck in my mind, and I wanted to share that with you to make you look at your spouse in even higher regard than you do now.

If by chance, your spouse is not your best friend, you have some homework to do. It would help if you started thinking of your spouse as your best friend above anyone in your life, including your children, parents, or anyone else. By attempting this effort, you will discover that your bond between the two of you will grow. Keep it up, and you will not be sorry that you did. Consider making your spouse your best friend if they are not already your best friend. ~ Bill Greguska


Proverbs 17:17  A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.







Secret To Understanding Your Spouse!


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Your Spouse May Be Negative Because You Treat Them That Way!



Loving Your Spouse Is A Blessing. Do You Respect Your Spouse?

  1. Are the things I plan to say to others today: kind, true, and necessary? Remember that we must always try to think before we say or do something.

  2. Consider if it matters if you’re right. Sometimes we respond to the plan of defending the side we stand on. If you argue about being right, ask yourself, “Does it matter that much if I am right?“ 

  3. Avoid heated discussions. When emotionally charged, we don’t think clearly and argue out of the impulse to be correct, defend ourselves, and save our egos. If a discussion is necessary, wait until you and everyone else have cooled off before diving into any further conversation.

  4. Remember what is critical. List the things in your life that are the most important to you. Then ask yourself, “Will a reaction to this person contribute to the things that matter the most to me?”

  5. You get more bees with honey than with vinegar. Try offering a kind word and not emotionally dumping your feelings on the other person you are dealing with. Work on understanding others. Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.  

  6. Don’t respond. When your spouse often initiates a negative message or rude attitude, they’re trying to trigger a response from you. When we react, we’re giving them what they want.

  7. Stop talking about it if the discussion is going nowhere! When you have a problem or a conflict in your life, don’t you find that others love talking about it? The more we talk about how much we dislike a person, the more hatred we will feel toward them, and the more we’ll notice things about them that we dislike. 




Helpful Ideas For Better Relationships With Your Spouse!

Have you put yourself in your spouse’s shoes? Try it, and you may understand how you may have hurt their feelings. This is an excellent way to understand others better.

  • Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry! We have been given two ears and one mouth. A good rule is to listen twice as much as we say. This, too, will help to avoid unnecessary anger with others. It would help if you tried to Understand a Friend better. 
  • Practice forgiveness! Ask yourself, “What is it about this situation or my spouse that I can seek to understand and forgive?” God says that if we do not forgive others’ sins against us, he will not forgive our sins. At the same time, we need to ask God for wisdom and patience with those we don’t see eye-to-eye.
  • Get some exercise and care for your health! Go for a walk, run, swim, or some other workout and invite a friend to join you. Keeping healthy allows you to handle stressful situations better. If you smoke cigarettes, try to quit smoking. If you drink alcohol or use other drugs, those can be a negative reasons for you to consider stopping. 
  • Practice an act of kindness today towards your spouse, someone you know, or even someone you don’t know. Do something kind for someone today without expecting anything in return. Understand that others need to be considered significant, quickly developing into healthy friendships.
  •  Sometimes, your spouse or people, in general, are struggling with issues of their own – it may be an alcohol or drug addiction or mental illness, such as depression. It could be taking their frustration out on you with irrational, or even rude, out-of-line behavior. Try to use kindness to get along with them better instead of what comes naturally, which is getting frustrated or angry.
  • Keep in mind that when we point our finger at our spouse or another person, thinking that the problem is their problem, three fingers often point back at ourselves. Try to practice patience for your spouse and others and humility for yourself.
  • Try to be patient, try to be loving, and try to handle situations like Jesus would want you to through the teachings of the Bible. All these ideas we have shared for getting along with others will pay off as you practice them daily.
  • There are excellent ways to get to know each other better. Some examples are asking questions, being interested in your spouse or any other person more than who you are talking with, and being aware of other people’s needs. To get along well with others, there must be effort involved. 





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Real friends do not keep score in the friendship; they understand that true friends are real friends no matter what happens in the relationship.



Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

1 Peter 3:7 ESV 

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Genesis 2:24 ESV

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Hebrews 13:4 ESV 

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Matthew 5:27-28 ESV 

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Isaiah 62:5 ESV

For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.

Proverbs 10:12 ESV

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

1 Corinthians 7:11 ESV 

(but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV 

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

Mark 10:11-12 ESV 

And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”

Colossians 3:9 ESV

Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices

Philippians 4:19 ESV

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Ephesians 5:25 ESV 

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

Ephesians 5:3 ESV 

But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.

1 Corinthians 7:39 ESV 

A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.


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