Are You A Lover, Or A Hater?Lover or hater? Be honest with yourself.

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All relationships take some work, but the question to ask yourself is whether you are a lover or a hater. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a friendship or something more significant like marriage; without love, one cannot get far in life. God commands us to love one another, and we should follow that commandment wholeheartedly.

If you find yourself being a hater, don’t worry because God knows our hearts and forgives all of our sins. With His help, we can become lovers instead of haters! We need to think outside the box and consider all the ways we can show love to others. Even small gestures like saying “thank you” or “I appreciate you” can make someone feel loved and valued. So ask yourself today: would I rather be a lover or a hater? Choose wisely because your decision could impact your relationships for years to come! Anyone who knows the Lord, should clearly see that God want us us to be lovers not haters. ~ Bill Greguska

Matthew 5:43-44  “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.








Have You Ever Asked Yourself If You Are A Lover Or A Hater?



Choose To Be A Lover Or Hater?

  • John 13:34-35  “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this, everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.”
  • Matthew 5:22  But I tell you that anyone angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.


Stop Hating Everybody By Simply:

  • Learn to chit-chat with people. Learn to find joy in having a conversation and connecting with another person instead of looking at everyone who talks to you as someone who’s wasting your time or wants something. Keep in mind that when you smile and are friendly, it demonstrates that you’re open to conversation, and they’ll be more likely, to be transparent with you. There’s nothing wrong with small talk. It leads you to build deeper relationships and get to know people more intimately down the road.


To Learn To Stop Hating Is Not That Difficult With Love!

  • Give others compliments. Make a habit of giving at least one or two compliments daily to an acquaintance or a perfect stranger to show that you care and help you look for the good in people. A random compliment you give to a person can make that person’s day. Maybe it might be the only positive interaction a person has all day, and it is so easy to do. 



God Commands Us To Love Each Other, But We Need To Hate Sin!


How To Stop Hating A Particular Person?

  • Let your feelings off your chest. If you want to stop hating a particular person in your life, whether an ex-friend or someone who irritates you, it’s essential to be open and honest about how you feel before you can get rid of those negative feelings. Take your situation to God in prayer. You can also talk to a close friend or even a counselor about it, write your feelings down, or make sure that you’re open and honest about why you dislike that person; you may find that the person hasn’t done anything wrong or that the real reason why you feel badly about the person isn’t what you expected. If you deny your feelings about the person, you’ll never really be able to deal with your feelings. The sooner you, in a controlled way, get your feelings off your chest, the sooner you’ll feel better.


Stop Hating, And Start Loving

  • Do not gossip about the person you have ill feelings about. Though you may think that spreading your hatred toward a particular person can help you get over the situation, doing so will make you feel worse about the whole situation. Other people may reinforce your negative feelings, and you’ll only feel more justified in hating that person; plus, talking about how much you hate the person will get you worked up and even more filled with hatred.


Look At The Bright Side Of Things!

  • Turn the page on to something that makes you happy. One way to stop hating a specific person is to focus on something good in your life instead. This can be hanging out with your other friends, working out, baking, reading for pleasure, hiking, or doing whatever makes you smile. Though it can be hard to distract yourself when you hate somebody entirely (or should I say hate what they did or said), just making an effort to go through the motions and throw yourself into something else can be far more effective than sitting there and stewing.


Do Others See You As A Lover Or Hater? 



Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

1 John 4:20 ESV 

If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.

Proverbs 10:12 ESV 

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

1 John 3:15 ESV

Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.

Proverbs 6:16-19 ESV 

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.

Proverbs 8:13 ESV

The fear of the Lord is hatred of evil. Pride and arrogance and the way of evil and perverted speech I hate.

John 15:18 ESV 

“If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.

Leviticus 19:17-18 ESV

“You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him. You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.

Psalm 97:10 ESV

O you who love the Lord, hate evil! He preserves the lives of his saints; he delivers them from the hand of the wicked.

Proverbs 10:18 ESV 

The one who conceals hatred has lying lips, and whoever utters slander is a fool.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Matthew 10:22 ESV

And you will be hated by all, for my name’s sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.

Psalm 11:5 ESV 

The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.

John 13:34-35 ESV

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this, all people will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another.”



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