WHAT IS LOVE?
The Question, “What Is Love?” Can Be Answered…
What is Love?
There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved. ~ George Sand
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts always hopes, always perseveres.
The Four Types of Love
- Romantic Love (Eros)—This is the feeling of “being in love,” physical passion, a feeling. Often people think of this kind of love when they think of “love.” Romantic love is healthy when it is a one-man/one-woman monogamous relationship within the bounds of marriage.
- Affection (Storge)—This is the natural bond between parent and child. It is the most natural (it just happens!) and emotive (children can’t help it!) But it can “go wrong” and people can get hurt when it becomes unhealthy. Affection, too, can be based on feelings.
- Friendship (Phileo)—This is the love between friends. Friendship is the strong bond existing between people who share common interest or activity. But feelings are involved in this kind of love too—cliques can be formed, friends can hurt friends, pride can ruin a friendship.
- Unconditional Love (Agape)—This is the love that cares and loves regardless of the circumstance. It never fails. This is the kind of love Jesus was talking about, the only always-healthy kind of love. It is seeking the welfare and the best for another person, regardless of how we feel about them. The other three types of love aren’t sufficient! What makes agape love the only love that is always healthy? It is the same kind of love with which God loves us! Jesus displayed agape love when He went to the cross and died for you and me regardless of how He felt, and in spite of our sinfulness. That is true love!
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What is love all about?
Demonstrate God’s Love Every Day of Your Life?
- Being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of others without impatience or anger.
- Actively fighting the temptation to be critical and judgmental toward another while looking for ways to encourage and praise.
- Making a daily commitment to resist the needless moments of conflict, that come from pointing out and responding to minor offenses.
- Having a lovingly, honest and humbly approachable in times of misunderstanding.
- Being more committed to unity and understanding than you are to winning, accusing, or being right.
- Making a daily commitment to admit your sin, weakness, and failure and to resist the temptation to offer an excuse or shift the blame.
- Making a daily commitment to grow in love so that the love you offer to another is increasingly selfless, mature, and patient.
- Being unwilling to do what is wrong when you have been wronged, but looking for concrete and specific ways to overcome evil with good.
- Being a good student of another, looking for their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs so that in some way you can remove the burden, support them as they carry it or encourage them along the way.
- Being willing to invest the time necessary to discuss, examine, and understand the relational problems you face, staying on task until the problem is removed or you have agreed upon a strategy of response.
- Being willing always to ask for forgiveness and always being committed to granting forgiveness when it is requested.
- Recognizing the high value of trust in a relationship and being faithful to your promises and true to your word.
- Speaking kindly and gently, even in moments of disagreement, refusing to attack the other person’s character or assault their intelligence.
- Being unwilling to flatter, lie, manipulate, or deceive in any way to co-opt the other person into giving you what you want or doing something your way.
- The willingness to have less free time, less sleep, and a busier schedule to be faithful to what God has called you to be and to do as a spouse, parent, neighbor, etc.
- Staying true to your commitment to treat another with appreciation, respect, and grace, even in moments when the other person doesn’t seem deserving or is unwilling to reciprocate.
- The willingness to make regular and costly sacrifices for the sake of a relationship without asking for anything in return or using your sacrifices to place the other person in your debt.
- Being unwilling to make any personal decision or choice that would harm a relationship, hurt the other person, or weaken the bond of trust between you.
- Refusing to be self-focused or demanding, but instead looking for specific ways to serve, support, and encourage, even when you are busy or tired.
- Daily admitting to yourself, the other person, and God that you are unable to be driven by a cruciform love without God’s protecting, providing, forgiving, rescuing, and delivering grace.
What is Love Stronger Than in Your Life?
Christian Love is Unconditional, Selfless, and Giving
Christian love acts toward others in the same way that you would want them to act toward you. It’s selfless. It’s giving, even if they can’t pay you back. It’s doing so especially if they can’t pay you back! Christian love is respect for others. It loves them even if they don’t deserve it. God’s love is unselfish and unconditional toward us. Now we know what is meant by Christian love. It loves others in the same way that God loves us!
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Now, go live a life of love since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul. ~ Saint Augustine
The most important thing in the world is family and love. ~ John Wooden
Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’