Avoid Bad Counseling

Avoid bad counseling at all cost!

It is very wise to avoid bad counseling at all costs, think before you let someone into your life, and help you make sense of personal your situation!

Prayer Is Never Bad Counseling!

 

 

Avoid Bad Counseling From Good Intended People!

I recall when I was going through my divorce, a Christian from church volunteered to come to my house to talk with me. It turned out that he spoke so much and did not understand my hurt and pain at all that I was experiencing. All he wanted to do was quote scriptures at me over and over relentlessly.

Unfortunately, I had to ask him to leave my house. This bad experience taught me that when people seek counsel, they need to be heard. And directed after being heard.

People can mean well, but actually do more harm than good. Be careful who you allow to counsel you. Avoid bad counseling at all costs! Let the Lord be your direct line of counsel. Allow the Lord to put the right people in your life to help you.

~ Bill Greguska

 

Acknowledgment Helps More Than You Can Believe!

Common Bad Counseling Mistakes

When you advise a friend, it’s easy to harm your effectiveness by making one (or more) of the following mistakes.”

Mistake #1: Bad Counseling Is Giving Advice Without Truly Listening

One of the biggest mistakes Christians (and others) make is giving quick counsel or advice without carefully listening. When we listen, people trust us more, and we can provide better information and advice.
  • My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. (James 1:19)

 

  • The first to present his case seems right, till another comes forward and questions him. (Proverbs 18:17)

 

Mistake #2: Bad Counseling Is Displaying A Judgmental Spirit

The person with whom you are speaking, mentoring, or counseling may have sinned in almost unthinkable ways or made serious mistakes. However, if you give the message that you are in judgment of them, he or she is unlikely to benefit from your advice when they seek counsel from you.
Show concern for people who have sinned, reflect on your own life before you knew the Lord. They should sense that you care, not that you condemn.
  • For this reason, he had to be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people. Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted. (Hebrews 2:18)

 

  • For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. (Hebrews 4:15)

 

Mistake #3: Bad Counseling Is Talking Too Much

Has someone ever given you a long speech about your mistakes? If so, you probably tuned out partway through. Speeches rarely work! People seek counsel, not a lecture.
When you get people involved in a discussion, they are more likely to change. Remember to ask questions. It’s often useful to ask people about what is on their mind, instead of turning them off with your sermon.

Mistake #4: Bad Counseling Is Giving Worldly Advice

It’s easy to give “worldly” advice, for it is all around us on talk radio, television shows, self-help books, Etc.
  • See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ. (Colossians 2:8)

 

  • All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. (2 Timothy 3:17)

 

  • For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12)

 

Mistake #5: Bad Counseling Is Not Suggesting Homework

Help others choose something to do as “homework.” People are much more likely to change if they make plans to follow up by studying something or doing some activity related to what they have discussed. People seek counsel and have certain expectations.
Homework is most likely to be completed if it is mutually agreed on. Try to come up with something that seems reasonable to the person you are counseling or advising.

Bad Counseling Exposed!