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When dating, make sure you take your time and get to know your partner, ideally for a year or more, before committing to marriage! When I was dating, my first hope was to find someone who was a Christian; we would get along with well (like a best friend, as my sister Pat used to tell me about her husband, Gary). Someone who could be a teammate, honest, and had a sense so humor would be like-minded and respectful. All the good qualities you are looking for you may or may find. Hopefully, you will find almost all of them, and the other ones hopefully can be talked about during dating. To find that special dating partner, you must be ready and available for your partner. Dating is meant to lead to marriage and should not be taken lightly. Keep in mind that there is no place for sex outside of marriage. If you are not ready to date for some reason, maybe recently divorced, or have other issues, then be patient, honest, and pure while being friends with those of the opposite sex. But if you feel you are ready now, take it to God in prayer and if He says yes, then get out there and let the Lord lead you, and you will not be disappointed for doing so in the long run. ~ Bill Greguska
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
A Christian Movie About Really Getting To Know Someone!
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15 Things Before You Get Into A Relationship With Someone!
I encourage you to think before you enter your next relationship. Ask yourself a few questions and ask God to give you clear direction and plan. If you believe that a relationship will heal you, make you whole again, and make you happy, you better think about that. Happiness starts from within, not from others, although if you are whole in the first place, others can add to your joy in life. Please look at these ideas before venturing out to find the love of your life.
1. What Are Your Expectations For A Relationship?
2. What Are You Looking For?
3. What Is A Good Relationship Mean To You?
4. Your Friends Are Important, Do Not Abandon Them!
5. How Do I Know If I Am Ready For A Relationship?
6. Are You At Negotiating And Compromising?
7. What Are Your Goals And Dreams?
Knowing your goals and letting your partner know what they are is essential. You will want to have a plan when it comes to achieving them. Having the right partner will help you achieve those goals, and you can help them with their dreams too, but sometimes your plans can get lost in a new relationship. Sometimes that is okay, depending on how important the goal is for you or them. It is crucial to let the skeletons out a little at a time. In doing so, your partner can feel free to share their weaknesses or blunders in their life too. Being transparent and honest are wonderful traits, but not all on the first date, if you know what I mean. Philippians 3:13-14 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Top 10 Dating Mistakes Christians Need To Avoid!
8. Are Finances A Problem At This Time For You?
9. Do Not Let Your Ex Be A Factor In Your New Relationship!
10. Do You Have A Drinking Or Drug Problem?
11. Are You Comfortable Being Alone?
12. Do You Have Pretty Good Balance In Your Life?
You have to establish your sense of balance before entering a relationship. Naturally, a new relationship will tip your balance a little, but you should be able to bring balance back relatively quickly. Your friends will help with this since they know you pretty well, and talking to them about this can be very helpful ,so you doo t lose yourself in your new relationship. Balance is an excellent thing! Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens.
13. What Do I Do To Find The Right Person?
14. What About Your Hobbies And Interests?
15. Rome Was Not Built In A Day. Take Your Time!
Want To Start Dating? Taking Time To Know One Another Is Critical!
Don’t you think it makes sense to be dating the right person? Another way of looking at it is to ensure you are the right person. Practical tips on how to find the right person! If you are interested in knowing how to date someone, you will find much helpful information on this page. Proper dating is based on honesty, excellent communication, respect, and being open to your date while always being yourself.
The purpose of exclusive dating should be married as the ultimate goal. However, some people agree to be close friends without being romantically driven toward one another, which is different. Be the right person, and date the right person. Before a couple even thinks about getting married, they should consider going together at the very least for one year before making that commitment. Make sure you do not go too quickly. Remember that it takes some time to grow a tree. ~ Bill Greguska
Once You Find Someone, You Like, And They Like You! My Prayer Is That You Will!
- Guard your heart and take things slowly.
- Don’t get too emotional.
- Not get carried away by run-away thoughts too far ahead of the relationship.
- Keep all that happens in an open palm, 1 Peter 5:7.
- be grateful for walking alongside, breathing the same air, taking one step at a time, and waiting, waiting, WAIT on the LORD.
- Be an observer, a collector of information, a learner, realizing that each person is a DEEP WELL and no one but God is Omniscient!
- Remember that kissing or holding hands can cloud rational thoughts!
- So pray that God reveals in His time all you need to know about your date and all they need to know about you so you can make a rational decision about going further.
How Do You Know Someone Is “The One?”
Here Are Some Helpful Links:
- Is sex okay before marriage?
- Sex only okay after marriage?
- Should a Christian use a dating service to find a spouse?
- What does the Bible say about dating?
- What is the difference between dating and courting?
Do Not Rush Things When Dating!
Would you please slow down when dating if you feel pressured and want to get married? If you go too fast, you will likely make emotional decisions that you will regret later.
Get to know and like the person you are dating. Getting the other person sees them in different settings to see how they react.
A person can and will put their best foot forward for a while, but in the end, you will get the real person, which is why it is essential to take time to get to know and understand the person you are dating. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not just something to take lightheartedly and end up in a divorce.
Don’t Be Naïve, Because Roses Do Have Thorns Too!
- Do not pursue a serious dating relationship until you are ready to marry. Until people are mature enough to get married, they ought not to be in a serious romantic relationship. But, in the meantime, they should use their time growing as a person.
- Be yourself and guard your heart until you know another person. Make sure the other person is worth your time and energy to get involved in a deeper relationship.
- Talking about marriage immediately is an excellent way to scare off someone you care about, especially if they do not feel as attracted to you as you are to them.
- When you date a friend, you will see your date in many situations, such as handling stress and treating their family and others.
- A sense of humor is not only enjoyable but is an excellent tool to be able to handle what life hands out.
Ephesians 5:3 But among you, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any impurity, or greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
30 Questions To Get To Know The Person You Are Dating Better?
Here are a few suggestions, not necessarily in this order, but as it naturally comes up or in a lull in the conversation when prompted by the Holy Spirit:
- How did you come to know the Lord? i.e., What were the circumstances that brought you to the realization or understanding of the Gospel/Good News?
- What are your favorite things to do?
- What books have marked your life? – as a child, as an adult? (Were you read to as a child?)
- Mention some influences that made a positive impact on your life?
- What places have you lived/traveled to?
- What friendships made a difference in your life?
- Have you learned some valuable lessons from people/friendships?
- Was there a teacher/class from a school that you remember with fondness & why?
- What was the most challenging year(s) in school? [Dr. James Dobson says the Middle School years are often the hardest, and many bear the scars of those years.]
- Siblings? Birth order?
- Favorite time of the year?
- Do you have a favorite color/number?
- What’s your favorite bird & why?
- Are your parents alive?
- Did you take vacations with your family? Where? Favorite places, etc.
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