Single Or Married… That Is The Question?

My encouragement for singles is to wait on the Lord and not be dictated by your emotions or hormones!

I have been single 47 out of my 57 years of life, I have learned that no matter if you are single or married, you need to be content in every situation that God allows for your life.
 
Like a lot of Americans, or people in general, we have a desire to have someone to call our own. God has created us to be relational beings, and for the need to be loved and to love someone else. Being single does not restrict a person from loving others, it just restricts a person from having sex with them.
 
Unfortunately, the divorce rate in the US has reached epidemic proportions, including myself who is also divorced.  I do not believe in divorce (except for extreme situations) and I did not want one, although my ex-wife gave up trying and 2 years later, divorced me. Before you even think about getting married, make sure you can commit to what it takes to stay married. Breaking up can be very emotionally draining, so be wise when you start dating.
 
Keep in mind that you can be used by God being single a lot easier than if you were married. To be married takes a lot of work and commitment. That is something that many people do not understand when seeking a spouse. ~ Bill Greguska

 

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Are You Sure That You Are Ready For Dating?

Married men live longer than single men. But married men are a lot more willing to die. ~ Johnny Carson

1 Corinthians 7:28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

 

What Should Singles Know About Love?

I’m Lina AbuJamra, and this is Today’s Single Christian! Glad you stopped by! I’m guessing you heard me on Moody Radio, or maybe you’re just looking for great resources for Christian singles. You came to the right place.

If love is all a person needs, then the Christian singles have a big problem. Whether you’re in the seventh grade (I hope you’re not reading this if you’re in seventh grade). Or just turned seventy, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You and I were made for love. We want love. We seek love. And we’re disappointed when we don’t fall in love. The Beatles crooned their lyrics “Love is all you need,” mesmerizing a lost world desperately in search for love and convincing us that the answer to all of our problems in life is to fall in love. If love is all a person needs, then the single Christian has a big problem. Why would God create you to love and not provide an object for your love?

What kind of God would place in you a longing for oneness with another being, and then leave you hanging? The tension that Christians singles face is palpable. The questions loom, becoming whispered prayers but are rarely spoken out loud. Can the single Christian thrive without love? It is a question that demands an answer. If love is necessary for your soul to prosper, then where in the world do you find love? Surely God’s perfect plan for the single Christian extends beyond a life of unrequited love and unfulfilled longings reminiscent of my seventh-grade heartbreak!

 

For Singles How Far is Too Far to Go When Dating?

 

What Does True Love and Singles Have In Common?

Don’t you think it’s time we move beyond head knowledge and tackle the heart part? I’d say it’s time for every single Christian to reclaim true love. You can’t love someone you don’t know. I thought I loved my seventh-grade crush, but all I had was the dreamy-eyed fantasy of a thirteen-year-old hormonal nerd. My mind took on a life of its own but had no basis in reality and led to great disappointment and utter failure.

Christ’s love is different. It is real. lasting, and it is abundant life. And it is everything you’re looking for in your life and more. God’s desire for every single Christian is a thriving relationship with Him through the perfect love of Jesus Christ. It is only as you understand Christ’s love for you and start drawing from it that you will thrive. The best way to understand Christ’s love for you is by getting to know Him and by understanding His unchanging character. YOUR PROBLEM is not that you don’t know the Lord Jesus Christ and His love, but that you’ve forgotten all about it.

Jesus Christ

The story of Christ’s love for you is a simple story that you may or may not have heard before. God loved you so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, to be born of a virgin named Mary. He lived perfectly for thirty-three years until He was unjustly crucified on a cross. It was horrible, but it was the whole reason for His coming to earth in the first place. 

So He sent His Son to earth as God incarnate with one purpose in mind: to die on a tree for your sin and mine. As unjust as His crucifixion was, it was done for you. It was done to give you eternal and abundant life, and it was done because of love. It was Christ’s death on the cross that purchased your forgiveness. If you’re looking for true love, you don’t need to look any further. Whether you’ve heard the facts before or if this is the first time you hear them, now is the time you receive them.

 

Thriving With God Before And During Marriage

Why don’t you stop reading right now and pray this prayer: Father, I know I’m a sinner and desperately need a Savior. I believe that You sent Your Son to die for my sin. I believe that Christ lived a perfect life and died without cause, simply to take away my sin. I receive this free gift You’ve given me and accept your gift of love. From here on out I want to trust You as my Savior and Lord, and I give You my life. In Jesus’ name, I pray, Amen. If you just prayed this prayer, then you’ve turned a whole new page in your life.

You just took your first step toward thriving. In fact, you may want to go back and read this book all over again. It will make a lot more sense to you now. Most of you who picked up this book have already accepted Christ’s love into your hearts. But somewhere between accepting Christ’s love and waking up a single, your love for Christ has waned, and your trust in Him has wavered. You’re disillusioned by God, and you’re not sure why you pray since God never seems to answer. Christ on the cross 4 was perfect for your salvation but appears to have little effect on your day-to-day life. Your problem is not that you don’t know the Lord Jesus Christ and His love, but that you’ve forgotten all about it. You need a basic reminder of who Christ is. 

~ Lina AbuJamra

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God created us to live in relationships no matter how you look at it. If you are single be sure to reach out to others, if God has someone special for you, you will learn that by staying close to God. If you are married, stay married. Continue to put your energy into a strong relationship with God first, and your spouse right after. Bill Greguska

1 Corinthians 7:36 If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.