Solutions To Solve Conflicts With Others! Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

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Every successful marriage or relationship has to learn the skill of finding solutions to the problems that come up in everyday living, whether it needs to make a decision that affects both the husband and wife (or boyfriend and girlfriend) or if it is something one of you have an issue with. There must be a way to come to a resolution or compromise that both can accept. Are you tired of having conflicts with others? Let God help you through your difficulties and resolve them before they grow from a molehill to a giant mountain.

Too many people wait until they have exhausted all their ideas before praying to God. God should be the first place we take all our concerns, for He loves us and wants the best. It takes self-control and also patients to find solutions and compromises. We all get into conflict with others from time to time. I have found a tool to analyze my part in any dispute and what I can do to be responsible for my own words and behavior. We need to use God’s Word, honest reflection, transparency, humility, and prayer so we will be able to resolve conflicts with others in a much more straightforward way. ~ Bill Greguska

Isaiah 43:26  Review the past for me; let us argue the matter together; state the case for your innocence.





Take A Closer Look At What YOU Say And Do.

  1. Maybe you mean to say something innocently, but others may take it differently.
  2. Maybe you may say something a little too harsh or direct.
  3. Maybe what you mean to say is joking. Others may take you seriously.
  4. Maybe you should keep in mind your tone of voice.
  5. Maybe what you say or do is normal for you but might offend others.
  6. Maybe you come on too strong in how you talk or act.
  7. Maybe you talk too much, do not listen enough, and need to listen more and be quiet sometimes.
  8. Maybe you are not respectful to them by the way you talk with their ears.
  9. Maybe you said or did something rude.
  10. Maybe you are pushing your agenda on them too much.

Take A Look At What OTHERS Say And Do.

  1. Maybe they might not mean anything by what they said to you.
  2. Maybe they might be going through some stress or problems of their own and not realize how they are talking to you.
  3. Maybe I am being too sensitive to what they are saying.
  4. Maybe what they say is correct.
  5. Maybe what they are saying is partially correct.
  6. Maybe what they say is their point of view even though it conflicts with your point of view.
  7. Maybe what they are doing is how they have been raised.
  8. Maybe their political or religious beliefs are different from yours.
  9. Maybe their ways of talking and doing things are the polar opposite of yours.
  10. Maybe you need to give the person the benefit of the doubt.

Seven Principles to Strongly Consider!Followers of Christ have been called to peace!

  1. Try to stop focusing on the problem so much.
  2. Focus on the solutions instead be proactive.
  3. Try harder to understand the other person’s perspective.
  4. Learn to develop compassion and empathy for others.
  5. Seek to find compromises when possible.
  6. Create strategies to avoid or resolve conflict before it gets out of hand.
  7. Through prayer, learn to forgive others and gain reconciliation and healthy relationships.


Resolving Conflict with Others ~

1. What did I do to the other person to upset them?

  • Did I possibly say something to upset the other person?

  • Was I respectful to the other person in any way?

  • Have I had any past conflict with the other person that was not resolved?

List three insights and possible solutions below!





2. What did I perceive that the other person did to upset me?

  • Did I clearly understand the other person? And did I ask for clarification?

  • What is what the person said true? Could I have overlooked whatever it was?

  • Has the other person insulted or disrespected me in the past?

List three insights and possible solutions below!




3. What did I possibly say that might have caused the conflict?

  • Did the other person not understand what I was trying to say?

  • Was I disrespectful or unkind to the other person?

  • Did I blame the other person in some way or another?

List three insights and possible solutions below!




4. What did I perceive that the other person said that caused the conflict?

  • Did I clearly understand the other person?

  • Did I overreact to what the person said?

  • Could I have overlooked it and shown grace to the other person?

List three insights and possible solutions below!





Scriptures That Support Each of The Four Questions Above.

  1. Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
  2. James 5:6 You have condemned and murdered the innocent one, who was not opposing you.
  3. Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
  4. Luke 6:29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. Ifone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.




Peace Is The Solution




Steps to Practice When We Face Conflict:Do you try to understand other peoples perspective?


1. Remove the Log Out of My Own Eye First.

You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:5


2. Admit Weakness and Be Humble.

Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy. Proverbs 28:13


3. Don’t Promise Beyond Your Ability.

But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation. James 5:12


4. Give Others Grace no Matter Who is Wrong.

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31


5. Strive to find Solutions, Not Blame.

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness. 2 Timothy 3:16


6. Seek to Reconcile All Your Relationships if Possible.

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18


Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You: 

John 16:33 ESV 

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV 

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

Matthew 10:16 ESV

“Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.

1 Peter 5:7 ESV

Casting all your anxieties on him because he cares for you.

Romans 8:28 ESV

And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

John 10:10 ESV 

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.

Proverbs 12:25 ESV

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

2 Corinthians 5:17 ESV 

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Luke 14:28 ESV 

For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?

Psalm 46:1 ESV

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

Philippians 4:6 ESV 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.



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By |2023-01-07T08:11:12-06:00November 20th, 2021|RELATIONSHIPS|0 Comments

About the Author:

In 2007, my pastor Ron Sauer and his wife Sue encouraged me to encourage others, knowing that I was struggling in my own life. They were wise to know that if I reached out to help other people, my problems would be put into perspective. I did, and it helped! Read 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. And If you do not have a relationship with God, I encourage you to learn about Him here. I trust you will find the encouragement you need here on this website. You can also call 800-633-3446. ~ Bill Greguska

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