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To have a good friend, you must be a good friend to them! There are many good ways to encourage a friend, and one great idea is to spend time with them, call them on the phone, email or text them, or send them a card in the mail. Knowing that you are thinking of them and caring for and loving them is beautiful! A good rule of thumb that can help you encourage a friend is to consider what would encourage you and then decide if that is something that would encourage them. When we were little, many of us were taught, “Do to others as you would want them to do to you.” ~ Bill Greguska
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.
Seven Ways to Encourage Others
- Pray for them when you are together and at home alone.
- Point them to a saving knowledge of who Jesus Christ is.
- Show them in tangible ways that you care about them.
- Tell them verbally that you care.
- Tell them in writing that you care.
- Offer to spend time with them or help them with a project.
- Please share with others how much you care about them.
- Trust them with more responsibilities.
- Remind them about their good qualities.
- Help them be the best that they can be.
One Motivational Way To Encourage A Friend!
25 Ideas To Encourage A Friend, Or Make A Friend:
- Bake something and share it with friends.
- Be a bingo caller. Nursing homes are filled with people who have very few visitors.
- Buy something for someone else. Buy the person’s hamburger in a drive-through. Pay for someone’s gas.
- Buy someone some flowers.
- Celebrate accomplishments. Large or small.
- During your quiet time, lift friends in prayer.
- Give a hug. Studies have shown that hugs lower blood pressure and heighten your sense of belonging.
- Give a sincere compliment.
- Help a friend move. With the help of a friend, the burden drastically gets reduced.
- Lend a helping hand anywhere and at any time.
- Listen. Sit down with a friend for a soda or cup of coffee and let them talk.
- Make a meal for someone.
- Mow a yard, rake some leaves, and shovel snow for an elderly or disabled person.
- Pass along a book that changed your life to some degree.
- Praise a parent.
- Pray a short prayer with someone immediately when they share a need.
- Please send a card in the mail, letting someone know you’re thinking of them.
- Send someone serving in the military a care package.
- Tell someone how they have encouraged you in the past.
- Thank someone. Many people work behind the scene, so let them know you are grateful for their help.
- Use social media to pass along thoughtful words.
- Volunteer to watch kids. Let parents have a date night.
- Volunteer. This almost turns into a selfish act because of how amazing you feel at the end of assisting. Make a difference with Special Olympics, the local food bank, or the homeless shelter.
- When you introduce someone, please share a few words about their talent or gift.
- Write a handwritten letter, or email someone’s boss for someone who went out of their way to serve you in a particularly thoughtful way. Let the boss know how happy that made you.
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Encourage A Friend Or Family Member Today!
When encouraging someone, there must be trust and respect! Encourage a friend when they reach out to you or even when you see them not being themselves. You know, when they seem down or preoccupied with something on their mind. God says we ought to love and encourage one another, which is what we should do! You can help someone by just spending time with them!
Share encouragement with them whenever you have the opportunity. Relate to their struggles by sharing how you dealt with a similar situation you had. ~ Bill Greguska
How Do I Grow In Being An Encouragement To Others
There isn’t only one “right way” to encourage each other, but here are a few ideas to help you get started.
- Pray for God to make you an encourager. Ask him to give you a heart that loves others and the creativity to know how to show it. Ask him to help you die to self-centeredness and grow in a desire to build others up. Because God delights in helping his people obey his commands, we can trust His Spirit will teach us how to bless others for his glory and their spiritual good.
- Study Barnabas and ask God to make you like him. Barnabas was nicknamed the “son of encouragement” by the early church (Acts 4:36). He was the kind of guy you wanted to have around as you were serving the Lord. He wasn’t just a spiritual cheerleader but a man of great conviction who wanted to see the church flourish and did all he could to make it happen. Ask God to give you and your church a heart like Barnabas.
- Make encouragement a daily discipline. For some of us, motivation comes naturally; for others, not so much. I have a reminder in my calendar each day to send someone an encouraging note, email, text, or phone call. I need this reminder to pause, pray, and then intentionally try to spur someone on in Christ.
- Pray for God to show you who to encourage. Ask God to bring someone to mind that you should reach out to. One way to do this is by praying through your church’s membership directory.
- Use Scripture if you’re able. Nothing encourages us like promises from God’s Word. Make a list of Scriptures that God has used to bless you personally or an excerpt from something you read in your daily devotional. Mine are the Psalms, Romans 8, and the Gospels. Find and share the riches of God’s grace with others.
- Be specific in what you say. My friend’s note included two particular ways he had seen evidence of grace in my life. When I read them, I was humbled and reminded that God works in and through me. I needed that.
- Regularly encourage your pastor. If your pastor says something that God uses, tell him about it. Don’t expect him to write you back, but send a few lines in a card or an email. Nothing encourages a pastor like hearing specific ways God used a sermon or counseling session to work in your life.
- Pray that God will create a culture of encouragement in your church. Ask God to make your church a community that loves each other in specific, tangible ways like encouragement. Ask God to use you to help fan that flame. Don’t get discouraged if people don’t return your motivation (Matthew. 6:3-4; Ephesians 6:3-8) or if you don’t see fruit from it (Galatians 6:9-10). Creating a church culture that glorifies God takes a long time, prayers, and abundant grace. I encourage you to keep at it.
- Be wise. If you want to encourage someone of the opposite sex, use discernment in how best to do it. If I’m going to promote a single sister in the congregation, I will tell my wife and copy her on the email. If I were encouraging a married sister, I would again tell my wife and copy her and the husband of the person I’m encouraging. You can also use that as an opportunity to encourage both the husband and wife.
- Get started. Who can you encourage right now? Who has blessed you recently that you can thank? What verse can you share with them? How might God use it?
Above All, Find Simple Ways To Honor God And Help Others!
- Be kinder to those who irritate you.
- Forgive someone who has wronged you.
- Trust God has a plan for your life.
- Take better care of yourself (exercise, diet, sleep, etc.).
- Help those in need; pray for yourself and others.
- Look for the good in others and your situation.
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