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Since we are social creatures, finding good, healthy friends is a skill to acquire if you have not realized it yet. Finding friends does not have to be a difficult thing to do. It does take a little confidence and trust that God has a plan for your life, and a part of that plan is to have people in your life.

Don’t be afraid to reach out, but first pray and ask God to put the right people in your life. Also, remember that being friendly is the best way to find friends. I believe it takes about the same amount of energy to be nice to others as it does to be mean or grumpy ~ Bill Greguska

Proverbs 18:24  One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

 

 

 

 


 

Finding Friends Can Be Easier Than You Thought!


Finding Friends In Life Does Not Have To Be That Difficult!

  • Don’t be afraid to do things alone, especially if you feel lonely. Don’t be scared to go places by yourself sometimes.
  • If you go out to eat or have coffee alone, try bringing a book or your smartphone to keep yourself company when there is no one to talk to. Getting out and about is better than staying home alone night after night.
  • Consider possibly getting a pet. This is an excellent idea if you’re lonely and would love to have a dog, cat, or another type of pet. Animals can be perfect companions. They are great to come home to talk, play with, and spend time with.
  • Call people you know. Being with others is crucial to human relations, even if they aren’t who you want to be with. Practice doing more listening than talking. 
  • Take the initiative in social relationships. Take a risk by being the first to say hi and smile at others. Do not think that just being there is enough.
  • Be complimentary and not critical. It has been said, “If you don’t have something good to say, then don’t say anything at all.” Find something honest to see the person, and then let them know.
  • Differentiate between loneliness and solitude. Isolation is when you are unhappy with being alone. Privacy is when you are happy to be alone.
  • Consider joining a gym. Working out and caring for our health are among the first things that get neglected. If you’re spending less time with other people than usual, try using that time to exercise.
  • Realize you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. It may be challenging to see your friends dating others. But you don’t have to date to feel part of a group. Be open to finding friends, but the only date when you’re ready. Practice being happy and at peace with yourself and with others. 

 

 


 

A Person Can Be Lonely In A Crowd

  • Humans are social creatures who need one another for love, friendship, companionship, and support. Understand that we all get lonely at times. It is a natural part of life. 
  • Loneliness can seem to hit hardest when going through a transition in life, such as the break-up of a relationship, the death of someone close to you, or even a new job or school change.
  • Reach out to God in prayer, and He will put someone into your life. He is always with you even if you feel lonely and sad; He can help you turn your sadness into joy! 
  • Trust that God has a plan for your life. Take time to figure out what that plan for your life is and follow it; after all, it is critical to deal with loneliness effectively. 
  • Be sure to get yourself involved in activities. Choose to join a sports team or take a class on something interesting. You can also volunteer for many exciting things in your community.

 

 


 

 

How To Choose Good Friends?

Who we surround ourselves with makes a big difference in who we will become.

There are four kinds of people we all need in our lives. (Ideally, one person can accomplish all four.) That said, be with these kinds of people:

Life’s journey isn’t about how far we go — it’s about who’s with us.”

1. Be with those who help you be you.

You are wired the way you are for a reason — to make this world better and bring God glory with your unique gifts. Surround yourself with people who want to nurture that person.

2. Be with those who believe in your dreams.

We need cheerleaders on our journey. We need people who will see the best in us. We need friends who will help us stand up when we fall — because they believe in our dreams as much as we do.

3. Be with those who make you better, not bitter.

There’s enough negativity in the world; try not to insulate yourself with people who see the worst in everything. Negativity is contagious, but so is positivity. Find positive people, and be one of those people.

4. Be with those who aren’t afraid to hold you accountable.

Often, the people who believe in you the most — the ones “who help you be you” — aren’t afraid to speak the truth when it needs to be told. Keep those friends especially close.

And lastly, it’s not enough to surround yourself with these people. BE one of those friends to the people in your life.

Your turn: What kind of friends do you need most?

Taken from Dayspring Devotionals by Jennifer Dukes Lee 

 


Friendship Quotes To Make You Smile!


Have Friends And Family, But Still, Feel Alone?

  • Don’t set out to attend these individual functions to find friends or meet people. Plan to go with no expectations and enjoy yourself no matter what happens.
  • Treat those of the opposite sex as a brother or sister in Christ, which means getting to know their hearts and what makes them tick.
  • Do not try to rush any relationship because of feeling romantically attracted right off the bat. Relationships take time and need to be put to the test of time to know whether or not it is correct.
  • Make sure you don’t start feeling sorry for yourself if you feel lonely, but instead, do things to get your thoughts of loneliness off your mind.
  • Choose to do something like take a walk or think of things you could do to help others less fortunate, such as volunteering at a nursing home to visit the elderly or getting involved with Big Brothers Big Sisters or different organizations.

Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

Proverbs 18:24 ESV 

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

John 15:13 ESV 

Greater love has no one than this that someone lay down his life for his friends.

Proverbs 27:17 ESV

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.

Proverbs 17:17 ESV 

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV 

Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV 

Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV 

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

Proverbs 27:9 ESV 

Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.

Proverbs 27:6 ESV

Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.

Job 6:14 ESV 

“He who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.

Proverbs 13:20 ESV 

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.

Proverbs 16:28 ESV 

A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.

 


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