Broken Relationships Hurt, But Can Be Healed From!

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If you are currently going through a tough time due to broken relationships, it is important to surround yourself with supportive family and friends. They can provide the comfort, love, and guidance that you need during this healing process. Remember, trying to recover on your own can lead to feelings of isolation and depression that may only worsen the situation. So, lean on those who care about you most; they will be your pillars of strength throughout this journey. To ensure that you maintain good health throughout this challenging period, make sure you prioritize self-care by eating healthy food, and avoiding alcohol and street drugs which can seem to offer temporary relief but hinder true healing in the long run.

Stay socially connected by spending quality time with loved ones or joining support groups where individuals have experienced similar hardships and understand what you’re going through. Additionally, begin each day by walking close to God in quiet reflection through prayer, bible reading or other spiritual practices such as journaling. – no relationship is immune from breakage. Although our focus here primarily revolves around those who give up easily when faced with deal-breakers like broken agreements or infidelity – let us acknowledge that regardless of circumstances surrounding a severed bond; all broken relationships hurt deeply and frustrate immensely. Don’t hesitate to ask God for help when feeling overwhelmed – he is always ready and willing to guide us during our darkest moments! It’s also advisable not rush into new relationships until all wounds have healed from previous experiences because carrying baggage from past hurtful experiences will only create more problems down the road. It is hard to navigate in any relationship, but when things from the past have not been dealt with, it can add extra stress and potential hard ache. ~ Bill Greguska

Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit.

How To Overcome Breakups!

It Doesn’t Need To Be That Painful To Get Over A Broken Relationship?

Principles For Dating After A Broken Relationship For Next Time!

Learn what their relationship with God means to them. Hear their testimony.
Find out about their past, especially if they are divorced, have children, etc.
Don’t give up your personal life and friendships.
Only talk about marriage initially (only to see if they are open to it someday and if that is something you want).
Can you see them as a possible teammate?
How important is God to them in their life?
Don’t be misled by good looks.
Is physical attraction the main attraction, or is spiritual, emotional, and intellectual attraction important too?
Take enough time to get to know each other and their likes and dislikes.
Look for Godly character and let them know you like that.
Take a lot of time before you kiss; at least four months of dating or more would be wise.
Sex before marriage is not an option.
Wait to tell them you love them until you know it is true love.
Are they friendly, like-minded, respectful, kind, honest, transparent, loyal, and have integrity?
Do they generally seem to be more naturally positive or negative?
Are they emotionally stable, generally speaking?
Do they have any past or present addiction or issue that needs to be discussed?
Do they have a good sense of humor?
Do they communicate well, both listening and talking?
Try to limit three dates per week max. Start slow you can always increase later.
Pay attention if they tend to argue or debate quickly.
Enjoy your time together, hang out with one another, and try to have a purpose.
Keep both eyes open while dating, then one eye shut if you were to get married.
Always be the best person you can be and help improve them.
No matter how the relationship develops, make knowing each other brings them closer to God.
Listen to them well and show love for them with your actions and kind words.
How do they talk about others, and do they seem worthy of your trust?
Encourage open communication and transparency.
Keep the relationship a little private until it is more established.
Ask a mentor, a close friend, or even a counselor or pastor for their advice when needed about your situation.
Remember that just because you are dating someone does not mean it will turn into a marriage.
Enjoy getting to know them as a brother or sister in Christ whether or not you stay together.
Do they act, talk, and dress appropriately?
Be honest about why you are attracted to them and if that is substantial enough for a healthy relationship.
Remember that you want God’s will to be done, not your will!
Can they freely ask for forgiveness and also forgive you?
Remember that it is okay to be single. Yet marriage can be excellent with the right person.
What are their standards, values, and morals? Is it compatible with yours?
Go slow emotionally, and do not count your chickens before they are hatched.
Be sure that how you treat them is pleasing to the Lord and that your conscience is clear.
Please pay attention to them while determining their character. Tell them what you admire about them.
There is no such thing as a perfect girlfriend or boyfriend.
Don’t email, text, or call too often or not enough. Ask what is comfortable for them.
Give and take healthy space for one another. Have healthy boundaries.
Pay attention to red flags. Talk to them calmly, non-judgmental way as you would want to be talked to.
Determine if any negative trait can not be acceptable to you. Try to negotiate or make other arrangements.
Remember that you are not perfect, and they will not be perfect, either.
Think of what you consider a deal breaker before dating someone.
Pray about the relationship. Do not make any decisions based only on emotions.
Ideally, wait all four seasons before getting married to know them well enough.

~ Bill Greguska

How To Heal After Broken Relationships And Heartbreak?

Five Stages Of Grief

Letting go of a bad relationship can be complicated. That’s because the end of a relationship is, in some ways, like experiencing a death. Even if you are the one that initiated the breakup—and even if you believe that the breakup is the best thing for all involved—letting go of a relationship follows the same process as mourning a death.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., in her groundbreaking book On Death and Dying (1969), outlined the phases of grieving experienced when one learns that they are dying. Her stages have since been aptly used to describe the process of grieving the death of a loved one.

A similar thing happens when grieving the end of a relationship. The following are Dr. Kubler-Ross’ stages of grief applied to a breakup. (The pronouns he and she can be used interchangeably.)

1. Denial

In this phase, our heart—rather than our head. Even though we know the relationship is over, we don’t believe it. Against the better judgment of everyone around us, we can’t help but entertain fantasies of things somehow working out. We see hidden glimmers of hope buried in clear indications that it’s over. (Unsurprisingly, this is the phase where we are most susceptible to late-night texting.)

2. Anger

Anger can manifest in many different ways—anger at your ex (“How could he do this to me? Why can’t she stop being selfish?”), anger at God or the universe (“Why can’t anything ever work out for me? Why am I cursed?”), anger at people or situations associated with the break-up (anger at the “other woman”; anger that your partner lost her job because that is when she “changed”), and anger at other people who don’t agree or stand with your anger (“Can you believe George and Jane still want to be friends with him after what he did to me?”).

This is the phase where we think it’s a great idea to tell anyone and everyone how “crazy” or “psycho” our ex was. This is also when we believe it’s crucial to send our ex-hateful emails because we don’t want him to think he got away with anything.

3. Bargaining

Bargaining often goes hand in hand with denial. Bargaining can be looking for any possible way to make the relationship work through negotiation, threats, and magic—for example, telling your ex that you will change, move, or go to therapy or telling him he is hurting the children, his family, your family, and the dog by leaving. And, of course, this phase is not limited to bargaining with your ex. Many people bargain with The Powers That Be, promising to be a better person if only the ex would come back. You may take a new interest in astrology, tarot cards, or any voodoo that will forecast a reunion during this stage. This is also when we attempt to enlist all friends and family to “talk some sense” into them.

4. Depression

Depression, like anger, also surfaces in many different forms, for example, feeling tired all the time, not wanting to do anything but lay in bed, feeling disconnected from people even when you’re with them, being on the verge of tears most of the time, trouble sleeping or sleeping too much, loss of appetite or overeating, increase in drug or alcohol use and—the big one—hopelessness. Hopelessness is the most pervasive and debilitating; it is the thing that leads us to believe that nothing will ever be or feel different than it is right now. Hopelessness makes it feel like you will never move on and that nothing will work out for you.

5. Acceptance

Finally, this is the phase in which we can make peace with the loss. It doesn’t always come on suddenly; it often happens gradually, bit by bit, interspersed with other phases. Acceptance doesn’t always involve harmony and flowers—there is almost sure to be lingering sadness. Acceptance entails making peace with the loss, letting go of the relationship, and slowly moving forward with your life. Sometimes it feels like this phase will never come, which usually means you’re still struggling in an earlier phase. Knowing your phases of grief can help normalize your break-up experience. It’s also important to know that there are no time limits and no rushing the process. Grieving is like digestion: You can do nothing to hurry it along. It takes time, and the only thing you can do is try to get through it. But take heart that this, like everything else, will eventually pass.

Jennifer Kromberg, PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist.

Biblical Hope For Broken Relationships

10 Things That Will End A Relationship Before It Begins

By Almie Rose

10. Being available all the time

9. Texting or calling too frequently

8. Getting caught Facebook stalking them and their ex

7. Asking them almost every day what their plans are and if they’d like to hang out/go out

6. Making or planning significant events or trips too far ahead

5. Being too familiar and too intimate (in a non-sexy way)

4. Having “the relationship talk” WAY too soon

3. Overanalyzing everything

2. Worrying about the future

1. Falling too hard, too fast — and telling them

God Knows What Is Best For Us!

Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Genesis 2:18 ESV

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

2 Corinthians 6:14 ESV

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV

Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Galatians 5:19-21 ESV

Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Proverbs 17:17 ESV

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Ephesians 5:25 ESV

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

Proverbs 4:23 ESV

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

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