Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit.
How To Overcome Breakups!
It Doesn’t Need To Be That Painful To Get Over A Broken Relationship?
Principles For Dating After A Broken Relationship For Next Time!
- Learn what their relationship with God means to them. Hear their testimony.
- Find out about their past, especially if they are divorced, have children, etc.
- Don’t give up your personal life and friendships.
- Only talk about marriage initially (only to see if they are open to it someday and if that is something you want).
- Can you see them as a possible teammate?
- How important is God to them in their life?
- Don’t be misled by good looks.
- Is physical attraction the main attraction, or is spiritual, emotional, and intellectual attraction important too?
- Take enough time to get to know each other and their likes and dislikes.
- Look for Godly character and let them know you like that.
- Take a lot of time before you kiss; at least four months of dating or more would be wise.
- Sex before marriage is not an option.
- Wait to tell them you love them until you know it is true love.
- Are they friendly, like-minded, respectful, kind, honest, transparent, loyal, and have integrity?
- Do they generally seem to be more naturally positive or negative?
- Are they emotionally stable, generally speaking?
- Do they have any past or present addiction or issue that needs to be discussed?
- Do they have a good sense of humor?
- Do they communicate well, both listening and talking?
- Try to limit three dates per week max. Start slow you can always increase later.
- Pay attention if they tend to argue or debate quickly.
- Enjoy your time together, hang out with one another, and try to have a purpose.
- Keep both eyes open while dating, then one eye shut if you were to get married.
- Always be the best person you can be and help improve them.
- No matter how the relationship develops, make knowing each other brings them closer to God.
- Listen to them well and show love for them with your actions and kind words.
- How do they talk about others, and do they seem worthy of your trust?
- Encourage open communication and transparency.
- Keep the relationship a little private until it is more established.
- Ask a mentor, a close friend, or even a counselor or pastor for their advice when needed about your situation.
- Remember that just because you are dating someone does not mean it will turn into a marriage.
- Enjoy getting to know them as a brother or sister in Christ whether or not you stay together.
- Do they act, talk, and dress appropriately?
- Be honest about why you are attracted to them and if that is substantial enough for a healthy relationship.
- Remember that you want God’s will to be done, not your will!
- Can they freely ask for forgiveness and also forgive you?
- Remember that it is okay to be single. Yet marriage can be excellent with the right person.
- What are their standards, values, and morals? Is it compatible with yours?
- Go slow emotionally, and do not count your chickens before they are hatched.
- Be sure that how you treat them is pleasing to the Lord and that your conscience is clear.
- Please pay attention to them while determining their character. Tell them what you admire about them.
- There is no such thing as a perfect girlfriend or boyfriend.
- Don’t email, text, or call too often or not enough. Ask what is comfortable for them.
- Give and take healthy space for one another. Have healthy boundaries.
- Pay attention to red flags. Talk to them calmly, non-judgmental way as you would want to be talked to.
- Determine if any negative trait can not be acceptable to you. Try to negotiate or make other arrangements.
- Remember that you are not perfect, and they will not be perfect, either.
- Think of what you consider a deal breaker before dating someone.
- Pray about the relationship. Do not make any decisions based only on emotions.
- Ideally, wait all four seasons before getting married to know them well enough.
How To Heal After Broken Relationships And Heartbreak?
Five Stages Of Grief
Biblical Hope For Broken Relationships
10. Being available all the time
9. Texting or calling too frequently
8. Getting caught Facebook stalking them and their ex
7. Asking them almost every day what their plans are and if they’d like to hang out/go out
6. Making or planning significant events or trips too far ahead
5. Being too familiar and too intimate (in a non-sexy way)
4. Having “the relationship talk” WAY too soon
3. Overanalyzing everything
2. Worrying about the future
1. Falling too hard, too fast — and telling them
God Knows What Is Best For Us!
Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Genesis 2:18 ESV
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
2 Corinthians 6:14 ESV
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
Galatians 5:19-21 ESV
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Proverbs 17:17 ESV
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Ephesians 5:25 ESV
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Proverbs 4:23 ESV
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
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