Fix Marriage Problems With God’s Help, And A Humble Attitude!

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I wanted to fix my marriage problems to make things all better, and unfortunately, my marriage ended up in divorce. Even though I did all I could to keep the marriage alive. I want to make sure you know that there is hope. Maybe my marriage failed, but that does not mean yours has to also! Take an inventory of your marriage and your responsibilities.

The marriage problem issues listed below can help you identify the cause(s) of the unrest you find in your marriage today.  The first place to go is to God in prayer. Then reflect on your part in any marital problems you may be experiencing. If you see a few of these problems, do not be too concerned, but let it be a warning that your marriage needs attention and daily effort. The list below is some typical general issues that cause couples problems. When there are multiple problems, you need Christian counseling or consider seeking professional help. People generally have baggage they bring into a marriage, and things go from bad to worse without God directing their lives. Allow this list to identify problems, and then I encourage you to be willing to work your problems out with God’s help.~ Bill Greguska

Philippians 2:5  In your relationships with one another have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:






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Common Problems Couples Face With Each Other!

  1. Being habitually late.
  2. Bickering has reached a high degree.
  3. They are breaking promises.
  4. They bring up other past problems and difficulties during arguments.
  5. I can only see a little in common now.
  6. You can’t talk to your spouse about your problems.
  7. I can’t talk without fighting.
  8. They are regularly changing plans at the last minute.
  9. Cheap.
  10. Comparing your relationship to others.
  11. Complaining about your relationship on social media.
  12. Controlling.
  13. I could care less about your spouse’s day.
  14. Different opinions regarding kids.
  15. Doing something in spite, knowing it bothers your spouse.
  16. We don’t express gratitude.
  17. Don’t go to your spouse for emotional support.
  18. I don’t trust my spouse with money.
  19. You don’t want to listen to your spouse’s problems.
  20. They are dressing too sexy or too sloppy.
  21. Feel exhausted after spending time with each other.
  22. I feel like you’re losing your best friend.
  23. Feel like your spouse is holding you back.
  24. I am feeling lonely.
  25. Fights turn into personal attacks.
  26. Find excuses to do things without your spouse.
  27. You need to remember a birthday or anniversary.
  28. Friends are concerned about your relationship.
  29. Goals don’t include your spouse.
  30. Have trust issues.
  31. Having a physical affair and won’t it.
  32. Having an “emotional affair.”
  33. We are having sex way less frequently.
  34. Hold your spouse to unrealistic standards.
  35. Ignore one another, specifically when you’re in the same room.
  36. Ignoring in general.
  37. Jokes and criticisms cut to the core.
  38. Jump to the idea of divorce when you’re upset.
  39. They are not compatible, growing apart.
  40. Keep secrets from one another.
  41. Keep trying to change your spouse.
  42. Keeping secrets from your spouse.
  43. Late all the time.
  44. I am leaving the toilet seat up.
  45. Letting your spouse make all the decisions.
  46. Little to no interest in working on your marriage.
  47. I live like a single person, not a married person.
  48. Look to find reasons to start an argument.
  49. I lost a lot of respect for your spouse.
  50. Love alcohol, but your partner doesn’t.
  51. Lying.
  52. Make excuses to spend time without your spouse.
  53. Making major money moves without your spouse’s knowledge.
  54. Messy.
  55. You are micromanaging your spouse.
  56. More glued to your phone than usual.
  57. Nagging.
  58. Negative.
  59. Neglecting Hygiene.
  60. I never get their undivided attention.
  61. Never have deep conversations anymore.
  62. Never take any blame for anything.
  63. You are not allowing for personal time and space.
  64. They are not considerate of small things.
  65. Not empathetic.
  66. They need to be helping with chores.
  67. Do not pay attention when your spouse asks you to do something.
  68. Not willing to be on the same page in general.
  69. Not willing to invest in fixing marriage problems.
  70. On different pages, sexually.
  71. One of you has entertained the idea of cheating.
  72. You are only thinking about yourself.
  73. Oversharing.
  74. Passive-aggressive toward one another.
  75. I prefer to spend time alone than time with my spouse.
  76. Problems communicating.
  77. Problems listening or paying attention.
  78. They are putting children above the marriage.
  79. They are putting other friendships above your marriage.
  80. They refuse to ask for help.
  81. Refuses to compromise.
  82. Refuses to express emotions.
  83. They refuse to talk about issues.
  84. The relationship is full of secrets.
  85. Rely on body language to convey your feelings.
  86. Rely too much on your spouse for validation.
  87. Repetitively being unthoughtful or mean.
  88. You are resorting to silent treatment.
  89. Rude to each other.
  90. Saying, “I told you so.”
  91. Saying, “I’m fine,” when you’re not.
  92. Self-Centered.
  93. Selfish.
  94. Serious disagreements about money.
  95. You are sharing your spouse’s flaws with others.
  96. Significant life events rocked the relationship.
  97. Snoring.
  98. Someone cheated.
  99. Spend too much time together.
  100. Spouse isn’t the first person you call when something wrong happens.
  101. I was staying too friendly with an ex.
  102. Stopped going on dates.
  103. We stopped having sex.
  104. We stopped listening to each other.
  105. Take your anger out on each other.
  106. Taking your partner for granted
  107. Therapy isn’t working.
  108. There are too many awkward silences.
  109. Thinking about getting married was a big mistake.
  110. I thought that you got married too soon.
  111. You are trying to change your spouse to fit your needs.
  112. Turn to your vices as a source of comfort.
  113. Unresponsive.
  114. Using the excuse, “That’s Not My Job.”
  115. Using the excuse, “I Was Just Joking!” when saying something hurtful.
  116. Utterly unreliable.
  117. View your partner as inferior.
  118. I am walking away during a discussion.
  119. When you picture the future, it’s hard to see them in it.
  120. I Will not apologize.
  121. Will not participate in activities your partner is passionate about.
  122. Withdraw during arguments.
  123. Won’t compromise in terms of finances.
  124. They won’t forgive or forget.
  125. Won’t go to counseling.
  126. You and your spouse have stopped talking and are acting like roommates.
  127. Your relationship needs more respect.
  128. Your spouse has substance abuse issues and won’t get help.

There are many more problems married couples face. If your particular situation was not listed, that is not a surprise. We know that each person has issues, multiply that by two, and you will discover many possibilities. Be patient with yourself; remind yourself why you married your spouse in the first place. Keep going to God in prayer. Prayer does work. Follow the promptings that He gives you and wait on the Lord.




Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

James 5:16 ESV 

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

Ephesians 5:25 ESV 

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

1 Peter 3:7 ESV

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life so that your prayers may not be hindered.

1 Peter 3:1 ESV

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.

Proverbs 10:12 ESV

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

Hebrews 13:4 ESV 

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Proverbs 3:1-35 ESV 

My son, do not forget my teaching but let your heart keep my commandments, for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. 

Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV 

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Matthew 19:4-6 ESV 

He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Acts 8:22 ESV 

Repent, therefore, of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that, if possible, the intent of your heart may be forgiven you.

Ephesians 5:33 ESV

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.




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