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In order to have a better marriage, it’s crucial that both partners are good listeners and talkers. It may sound simple, but it’s not always easy to put into practice. God has given us two ears to hear and one mouth to speak for a reason – He wants us to listen twice as much as we talk! However, many of us struggle with this balance in our daily conversations.

One key factor in healthy communication is maintaining a positive attitude, avoiding negative body language or tone of voice that can detract from the message being conveyed. Remembering to treat others how you would like to be treated is an essential part of building strong relationships through effective communication. If we all make an effort to improve our listening skills and approach conversations with kindness and respect, we can create happier marriages and stronger connections with those around us. ~ Bill Greguska

Philippians 2:5  In your relationships with one another have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:






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Common Problems Couples Face With Each Other!

  1. Being habitually late.
  2. Bickering has reached a high degree.
  3. They are breaking promises.
  4. They bring up other past problems and difficulties during arguments.
  5. I can only see a little in common now.
  6. You can’t talk to your spouse about your problems.
  7. I can’t talk without fighting.
  8. They are regularly changing plans at the last minute.
  9. Cheap.
  10. Comparing your relationship to others.
  11. Complaining about your relationship on social media.
  12. Controlling.
  13. I could care less about your spouse’s day.
  14. Different opinions regarding kids.
  15. Doing something in spite, knowing it bothers your spouse.
  16. We don’t express gratitude.
  17. Don’t go to your spouse for emotional support.
  18. I don’t trust my spouse with money.
  19. You don’t want to listen to your spouse’s problems.
  20. They are dressing too sexy or too sloppy.
  21. Feel exhausted after spending time with each other.
  22. I feel like you’re losing your best friend.
  23. Feel like your spouse is holding you back.
  24. I am feeling lonely.
  25. Fights turn into personal attacks.
  26. Find excuses to do things without your spouse.
  27. You need to remember a birthday or anniversary.
  28. Friends are concerned about your relationship.
  29. Goals don’t include your spouse.
  30. Have trust issues.
  31. Having a physical affair and won’t it.
  32. Having an “emotional affair.”
  33. We are having sex way less frequently.
  34. Hold your spouse to unrealistic standards.
  35. Ignore one another, specifically when you’re in the same room.
  36. Ignoring in general.
  37. Jokes and criticisms cut to the core.
  38. Jump to the idea of divorce when you’re upset.
  39. They are not compatible, growing apart.
  40. Keep secrets from one another.
  41. Keep trying to change your spouse.
  42. Keeping secrets from your spouse.
  43. Late all the time.
  44. I am leaving the toilet seat up.
  45. Letting your spouse make all the decisions.
  46. Little to no interest in working on your marriage.
  47. I live like a single person, not a married person.
  48. Look to find reasons to start an argument.
  49. I lost a lot of respect for your spouse.
  50. Love alcohol, but your partner doesn’t.
  51. Lying.
  52. Make excuses to spend time without your spouse.
  53. Making major money moves without your spouse’s knowledge.
  54. Messy.
  55. You are micromanaging your spouse.
  56. More glued to your phone than usual.
  57. Nagging.
  58. Negative.
  59. Neglecting Hygiene.
  60. I never get their undivided attention.
  61. Never have deep conversations anymore.
  62. Never take any blame for anything.
  63. You are not allowing for personal time and space.
  64. They are not considerate of small things.
  65. Not empathetic.
  66. They need to be helping with chores.
  67. Do not pay attention when your spouse asks you to do something.
  68. Not willing to be on the same page in general.
  69. Not willing to invest in fixing marriage problems.
  70. On different pages, sexually.
  71. One of you has entertained the idea of cheating.
  72. You are only thinking about yourself.
  73. Oversharing.
  74. Passive-aggressive toward one another.
  75. I prefer to spend time alone than time with my spouse.
  76. Problems communicating.
  77. Problems listening or paying attention.
  78. They are putting children above the marriage.
  79. They are putting other friendships above your marriage.
  80. They refuse to ask for help.
  81. Refuses to compromise.
  82. Refuses to express emotions.
  83. They refuse to talk about issues.
  84. The relationship is full of secrets.
  85. Rely on body language to convey your feelings.
  86. Rely too much on your spouse for validation.
  87. Repetitively being unthoughtful or mean.
  88. You are resorting to silent treatment.
  89. Rude to each other.
  90. Saying, “I told you so.”
  91. Saying, “I’m fine,” when you’re not.
  92. Self-Centered.
  93. Selfish.
  94. Serious disagreements about money.
  95. You are sharing your spouse’s flaws with others.
  96. Significant life events rocked the relationship.
  97. Snoring.
  98. Someone cheated.
  99. Spend too much time together.
  100. Spouse isn’t the first person you call when something wrong happens.
  101. I was staying too friendly with an ex.
  102. Stopped going on dates.
  103. We stopped having sex.
  104. We stopped listening to each other.
  105. Take your anger out on each other.
  106. Taking your partner for granted
  107. Therapy isn’t working.
  108. There are too many awkward silences.
  109. Thinking about getting married was a big mistake.
  110. I thought that you got married too soon.
  111. You are trying to change your spouse to fit your needs.
  112. Turn to your vices as a source of comfort.
  113. Unresponsive.
  114. Using the excuse, “That’s Not My Job.”
  115. Using the excuse, “I Was Just Joking!” when saying something hurtful.
  116. Utterly unreliable.
  117. View your partner as inferior.
  118. I am walking away during a discussion.
  119. When you picture the future, it’s hard to see them in it.
  120. I Will not apologize.
  121. Will not participate in activities your partner is passionate about.
  122. Withdraw during arguments.
  123. Won’t compromise in terms of finances.
  124. They won’t forgive or forget.
  125. Won’t go to counseling.
  126. You and your spouse have stopped talking and are acting like roommates.
  127. Your relationship needs more respect.
  128. Your spouse has substance abuse issues and won’t get help.

There are many more problems married couples face. If your particular situation was not listed, that is not a surprise. We know that each person has issues, multiply that by two, and you will discover many possibilities. Be patient with yourself; remind yourself why you married your spouse in the first place. Keep going to God in prayer. Prayer does work. Follow the promptings that He gives you and wait on the Lord.



A Better Marriage Is Not Built Overnight!

Let’s be honest, having a better marriage starts with healthy communication. To achieve healthy communication, one must be both a good listener and a talker. It is very important to remember the wisdom of God who gave us two ears to hear and only one mouth to speak. It’s essential to listen twice as much as we talk if we want our marriages to thrive. However, this isn’t always easy; many people struggle in this area all the time, myself included! Nevertheless, good communication involves various factors that everyone needs to realize.

If you desire a better marriage, try your best always to have a positive attitude when communicating with your partner. Ensure you make eye contact and use an upbeat tone of voice while speaking because these things can significantly impact how well you communicate with each other. Also, remember always to treat your spouse like you would want them to treat you – with kindness, respect, and love! So let’s commit ourselves today towards building healthier communication habits in our relationships for the sake of our marriages’ longevity!





Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

James 5:16 ESV 

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

Ephesians 5:25 ESV 

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

1 Peter 3:7 ESV

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life so that your prayers may not be hindered.

1 Peter 3:1 ESV

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.

Proverbs 10:12 ESV

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

Hebrews 13:4 ESV 

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV 

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Acts 8:22 ESV 

Repent, therefore, of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that, if possible, the intent of your heart may be forgiven you.

Ephesians 5:33 ESV

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.


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