Are You In Love Or Lust?Is it really love or it it lust?

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You need to stop and ask yourself, “Do I love this person for who they are or the sexual feeling I get from them? ” Only you and God honestly know if you are experiencing love or lust in your heart. But if you are in a healthy marriage or dating relationship, it requires falling in love over and over but always with the same person and for pure intentions.

Our society that has pushed sexuality and sex as a tool to sell their products is obviously NOT something from God, but Satan himself. Sexual temptations can lead to temporary pleasure but also leads to death in terms of sexually transmitted diseases, abortions, and broken families. So I encourage you to think twice before you allow your sexual temptations to overcome you. Ask God to give you the wisdom and strength you need to choose correctly. ~ Bill Greguska


Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed because these are improper for God’s holy people.



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Is Your Relationship Based On Jesus Christ?

How To Date The Right Person?

  • Like in fishing, circle the worm on the hook sometime before taking a bite of the bait. Amen!
  • Don’t let yourself get emotionally involved with looks or words, but present all those things to the Lord for His evaluation first!  Realize that your heart is in His hands, and don’t take your heart out of His hands.
  • Do not fall madly in love because you will get hurt. Precisely!  The word “Madly.”
  • Practice Open Palm a little more seriously (holding everyone and everything to God, not grasping on to it.  Absolutely!  But not just ‘a little’!  Don’t let fear have anything to do with it unless it is the proper fear of God.

~ Sue Sauer



How To Deal With Lust?



God’s Way, Or Satan’s Way?

God intended sex to be beautiful between one man and one woman to keep the world populated. Our sinful world has attempted to change what God meant for good. Here are a couple of definitions of how sex has gotten distorted and sinful.

Definition of Debauchery = extreme indulgence in bodily pleasures, especially sexual pleasures: behavior involving sex, drugs, alcohol, etc., that are often considered immoral

Definition of Lewd = crude and offensive in a sexual way. “she began to gyrate to the music and sing a lewd song.”

Definition of Lascivious = filled with or showing sexual desire: lewd, lustful, lascivious acts/thoughts



Real Love Has The Best Interest In Mind For The Other Person!

  • Keep your eyes wide open!Is it lust or is it love? Be honest with yourself!
  • Do not let the conversation go to marriage within the first 3 to 6 months? Amen!  Six months is vastly better than 3, and a year is better than six months unless The Lord makes it very understandable with many “signs and wonders” and advice.  You will know.
  • I don’t trust a man/woman with my heart until I know I can trust him/her.
  • This knowing happens little by little, Not all at once, unless you want weeds that are “here today and gone tomorrow.”
  • Keep learning how to guard your heart and wait on the Lord who strengthens your heart.”     
  • Falling in love is not necessarily a romantic thing. It is learning and growing together under the umbrella of God, but if love turns the corner to lust, that is a recipe for trouble.
  • 1 John 2:16  For everything in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.


Some Final Thoughts To Take Away!

Real love has the best interest in mind for the other person.

There is attraction involved in any relationship, but when the draw is the primary factor, that can often be described as lust, which is not the only trouble. It is sinful. 

  • Be careful, but do not be afraid.
  • Guard my heart because it’s the wellspring of my life. This is well worth your deep meditation on this verse: take each word and meditate – let it become part of your thoughts’ bedrock!
  • I may want a man/woman, but I don’t need a man/woman to have a whole life.  Allowing your thoughts to race ahead makes you vulnerable to trashing all your logical thoughts in the numbers we just covered! 
  • Prepare your heart!  Make these more than a backpack you can throw off when your emotions take over!  Chew them and digest them so they become nourishment for your very being, the part of who you are by the grace of God! 
  • Then, you will be ready and able to enjoy a relationship with an eternal sister/brother for however long God wants you to walk alongside him/her.  The time will benefit you both.




Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:

Matthew 5:28 ESV 

But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

1 John 2:16 ESV

For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world.

Galatians 5:16 ESV 

But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.

Colossians 3:5 ESV

Put to death, therefore, what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

2 Timothy 2:22 ESV

So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

Job 31:1 ESV 

“I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?

1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV 

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Peter 2:11 ESV 

Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.

Proverbs 6:25 ESV 

Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes;

James 1:14-15 ESV 

But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully grown, brings forth death.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 ESV 

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;

Galatians 5:19-21 ESV 

Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 13:4 ESV 

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Romans 13:14 ESV 

But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.




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