Are You Recovering From Cancer?
National Cancer Institute 1-800-422-6237
American Cancer Society 1-800-227-2345
Personal Friends of Mine Went Through Cancer Recovery
In the last couple years now, I have personally experienced the healing of 4 close friends who had cancer. With the modern technology that we now have, over 40 years later. I have a better outlook for the word “cancer” since many people I know have recovered from it. My niece, Lora Kesselhorn, my former boss, Ron West, my friend and pastor, Mark Mallwitz, my pastor’s wife Sue Sauer, my friend from my Bible study Terri Stephen, all had cancer in the past couple years, and all made a full recovery, thank God!
Plus thousands of others who successfully go through treatment and are living healthy lives today! This too shall pass, and with the technology that doctors have in the medical field at present and of course with faith in God. Disease and illness still can be scary, but have faith because God is in control.
What to Say or Do With Someone Battling With Cancer:
- Show empathy, and do it simply. A hug and a simple “I’m so sorry,” or “Praying for you and love you!” made a real difference for me. Don’t compare to others’ struggles or minimize their pain. (Avoid: “It could be worse. Time heals all wounds. It’s all part of a bigger plan so don’t worry…you wouldn’t believe what happened to, it’s not that bad.” or anything else that suggests that what they’re feeling is wrong. It’s OK to grieve.)
- Offer specific help, and let them say yes or no. Instead of a general let-me-know-if-I-can-help offer, be specific. It can be as simple as making a few phone calls on her behalf or running an errand or two. Why not offer to keep the kids for a few hours while she rests? Go by and fold some laundry for the family. Walk the dog. Bring over a hot meal for the family or some easy-to-microwave frozen meals for later. (Whatever you offer, be OK with his or her answer. If they decline your help, that’s OK. Let the decision be theirs.)
- Support; don’t fix. A phone call, text message, a simple note or card with a few encouraging words can mean so much. It can completely turn a dark day around, in fact. (“Thinking of you and praying for you!” are often enough.) Resist the urge to “fix” the situation for them (e.g. “You know what you need to do is…”); let God handle the “fixing” part.
- Be present and willing to listen. Just be there. Wow, doesn’t that sound simple? Let them know you’re around and you’re still part of their life. Above all, listen. If they want to talk about it, listen and hear what they say. If they want to be silent, be willing to stay with them in the quiet. Still, don’t fix! Be prepared to say, “This stinks, and I’m so sorry you’re going through it,” and stop there.
Cancer Might Have Slowed Kevin Down, It did NOT Stop Him!
My family and friends were definitely the keys to my recovery. One thing that I do suggest is that anyone dealing with a life-threatening illness like cancer chooses a point person for people to call to find out how you are doing – a sister, brother, mother, father, daughter, son, or close friend. ~ Olivia Newton-John
Matthew 4:23 Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people.
Related Pages of Encouragement:
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Kubler-Ross 5 Stage of Grief Concerning Cancer:
When going through these stages of grief, we encourage you to walk closely with God daily, and moment by moment. Make sure you also rely on your support system and the help of others in your life during this difficult time.
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Find Victory With Cancer Recovery!
Only God knows why He allows cancer to attack real people like my friends that I mentioned. But, even though cancer can be a frightful bit of news to have to hear about, the thing to remember is that God will never leave you, Deuteronomy 31:6 because He loves you and me. Yes, there are times when things feel dark and depressing, but after the surgery or chemotherapy is over, life has a new meaning.
Please contact us if you have any questions or comments or would just like some encouragement?
My cancer scare changed my life. I’m grateful for every new, healthy day I have. It has helped me prioritize my life. ~ Olivia Newton-John