Grief Is A Necessary Part Of Healing!
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During my days of deepest grief, in all of my shock, sorrow, and struggle, I sat at the feet of God. I spent hours each day reading God’s word, meditating on scripture, and praying. I intentionally spent a significant amount of time being still before God. Rick Warren
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
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Understand Why Christians Grieve!
Definition Of Grief = Grief is a continuing process of mourning through which one learns to live with loss.
What Is Grief?
Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or think straight. These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more intense your grief will be.
Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved one—which is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause grief, including:
The Mourner’s Bill of Rights by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do. So, when you turn to others for help, don’t allow them to tell what you should or should not be feeling.
2. You have the right to talk about your grief. Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk as much as you want, as often as you want, about your grief. If at times you don’t feel like talking, you also have the right to be silent.
3. You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions. Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt, and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey. Others may try to tell you that feeling angry, for example, is wrong. Don’t take these judgmental responses to heart. Instead, find listeners who will accept your feelings without condition.
4. You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits. Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals. And don’t allow others to push you into doing things you don’t feel ready to do.
5. You have the right to experience “grief bursts.” Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerful surge of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening but is normal and natural. Find someone who understands and will let you talk it out.
6. You have the right to make use of rituals. The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. More importantly, the funeral is a way for you to mourn. If others tell you the funeral or other healing rituals such as these are silly or unnecessary, don’t listen.
7. You have the right to embrace your spirituality. If faith is a part of your life, express it in ways that seem appropriate to you. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you feel angry at God, find someone to talk with who won’t be critical of your feelings of hurt and abandonment.
8. You have the right to search for meaning. You may find yourself asking “Why did he or she die? Why this way? Why now?” Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not. And watch out for the clichéd responses some people may give you. Comments like “It was God’s will” or “Think of what you have to be thankful for” are not helpful and you do not have to accept them.
9. You have the right to treasure your memories. Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. You will always remember. Instead of ignoring your memories, find others with whom you can share them.
10. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal. Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. Neither you nor those around you must forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever.
Even Subtle Losses In Life Can Trigger A Sense Of Grief.
For example, you might grieve after moving away from home, graduating from college, or changing jobs. Whatever your loss, it’s personal to you, so please don’t feel ashamed about how you feel or believe that it’s somehow only appropriate to grieve for certain things. If the person, animal, relationship, or situation was significant to you, it’s normal to grieve the loss you’re experiencing. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life.
The Grieving Process
Grieving is a highly individual experience; there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith, and how significant the loss was to you.
Inevitably, the grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried—and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to unfold naturally.
How To Deal With The Grieving Process
While grieving a loss is an inevitable part of life, there are ways to help cope with the pain, come to terms with your grief, and eventually find a way to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.
- Acknowledge your pain.
- Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.
- Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.
- Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.
- Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
- Recognize the difference between grief and depression.
Typical Stages People Go Through When Grieving:
In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.” These stages of grief were based on her studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness, but many people have generalized them to other types of negative life changes and losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up.
The Five Stages Of Grief
Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return, I will ____.”
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”
If you are experiencing any of these emotions following a loss, it may help to know that your reaction is natural and that you’ll heal in time. However, not everyone who grieves goes through all of these stages—and that’s okay. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to go through each stage to heal. In fact, some people resolve their grief without going through any of these stages. And if you do go through these stages of grief, you probably won’t experience them in a neat, sequential order, so don’t worry about what you “should” be feeling or which stage you’re supposed to be in.
Kübler-Ross herself never intended for these stages to be a rigid framework that applies to everyone who mourns. In her last book before her death in 2004, she said of the five stages of grief: “They were never meant to help tuck messy emotions into neat packages. Many people have responses to loss, but there is no typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our grieving is as individual as our lives.”
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Deep feelings can overcome us like a title wave, and sometimes it can be very damaging to a person emotionally, physically, and mentally.
Many people do not do what they ought to do to deal with it to grow through it.
The feeling people experience while going through traumatic type experiences can affect them in ways they never thought possible.
These types of emotions can affect our overall performance and daily functioning in life. Grief can happen anytime because of loss of any kind, such as divorce, the breakup of a significant relationship, the death of a loved one, loss of physical health, diagnosis of a medical situation such as cancer, etc.
We All Need Help At Times
During potentially sad times, a person needs comfort, support, and help. The first place to look for this type of advice is from God, who created us and sustained us to make it through every situation we find ourselves in.
I had experienced a significant amount of grief, tears, depression, sadness, and anger when my ex-wife moved out so that she could “find herself,” which ripped a massive hole in my life! It was very peculiar because she and I were not getting along for years (basically since our honeymoon), but there was a deep sadness for me for her breaking our vows in front of God and all our family and friends.
Our marriage lasted ten years. This loss devastated me emotionally, so I reached out for help from Pastor Ron and his wife, Sue Sauer. They pointed me to Jesus and His teachings to get me back on the right path. God puts the right people in our lives to help us in times of great sadness and need. ~ Bill Greguska
Seven Ways You Can Get Through Grief Or Loss!
- Express your thoughts and feelings to God through prayer.
- Contact a close friend, counselor, pastor for emotional, spiritual, and mental support.
- Allow yourself a reasonable amount of time to feel sad and process your thoughts and feelings.
- Keep your routine generally going as possible such as work, social, and daily self-care.
- Sleep 7-8 hours per night, keep a healthy routine overall.
- Avoid unnecessary medications or alcohol.
- Eat healthly, drink plenty of water, avoid overeating or undereating.
There Will Be No More Tears In Heaven Revelation 21:4
Revelation 21:4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4 Promises That! We can stand on His WORD! I look forward to the hope of knowing one day, all we have faced on this side of heaven will be wiped away.
We Can Stand On God’s Promise That:
- God is with us.
- Will sustain us
- He is and will carry us through each circumstance we face in this life and forever. ‘
- Will NEVER leave us nor forsake us
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