Do You Want to Stop Complaining?
Not all complaining is bad or unhealthy, sometimes a problem has to be talked about before it can be resolved. Each one of us is guilty of complaining not getting our wants or needs met, or feeling like you are being treated unfairly.
Most likely you are aware that there basically two types of complaining? One type of complaining is healthy, and the other is very unhealthy. When we complain in a healthy way, we state what is going on to the other person or persons, with the expectation that they might have a solution to the problem. Unhealthy complaining happens when it becomes more of a habit or lifestyle or built into your personality. It is when people avoid you because they know you are a complainer.
Also with good complaining, we are looking for a remedy, not just complaining to relieve stress or anger. Making yourself ready to offer a solution is what is considered healthy. ~ Bill Greguska
Why is it Hard to Stop Complaining?
You are not alone if you have a problem with complaining or grumbling. Many people in our society do, and they have made it almost a reasonable thing to complain. An individual who is usually dissatisfied with the circumstances that God has allowed into their lives will be the one who becomes a complainer. The solution starts by understanding that complaining is anti-productive and that no one likes to hear it anyway.
Maybe you tend to be a negative person, and it has become a habit over the years; some people are naturally negative, there are also some individuals who are usually cheerful. Even so, it doesn’t excuse your behavior, nor should it keep you from wanting to change. Your life will be much happier and so will the people around you be happier too.
Stop Complaining By Changing Your Heart!
Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems. Zig Ziglar
Philippians 2:14 Do everything without grumbling or arguing.
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Start Focusing on The Solutions, Not The Problems
The first and most obvious thing to do is to, “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips” Psalm 141:3. Also, ask God to help you work on your attitude to start focusing on whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8 I’ve never met a genuinely satisfied person who was also a complainer!
Make a Plan on How to Stop Complaining:
- Learn to be content with your life. No one is perfectly happy with their life. All humans know by instinct almost that life is not as it should be.
- Keep a gratitude journal. If you have a tendency to forget all the blessings in your life, try writing them down every day. Write out ten things every day that you are thankful for.
- Be thankful. “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5.
- Lower your expectations. You might have too high of expectations about how things should go in your life. But, instead of expecting a lot, be happy, if you get anything good in life
- Learn to rejoice in all things: “A joyful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22. Apostle Paul wrote, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” Philippians 4:4.Get plenty of sleep. The world always looks a little grayer when you are tired. If you are feeling down, try taking a nice long nap. Most people feel much better after a good sleep.
- If you can change whatever it is that is bothering you, then change it. If not, then learn the Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Amen.
- Ask for help. Ask people in your life to let you know when you are starting to complain about things. Ask people you know to remind you to stay positive. If you are a complainer, you will need help from others to break that bad habit.
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You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas. Shirley Chisholm
Philippians 2:14-15 Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky.