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Complaining, is not necessarily a terrible thing. We all have moments when we feel the need to express our dissatisfaction or frustration. However, what becomes problematic is when complaining turns into an ingrained habit that we struggle to break on our own. It’s like a tangled web that ensnares us in negativity and prevents us from appreciating life’s blessings. But fear not! There exists a beautiful remedy for this ailment of the soul. Someone once imparted upon me these wise words: “Be happy that the thorn bush has roses instead of complaining that the rosebush is full of thorns.” In essence, it reminds us to shift our perspective and focus on gratitude rather than complaints.
To truly conquer this habit, we must turn to God and seek His divine intervention. God possesses the power to free us from the clutches of constant complaining. Through prayer and reflection on His Word –the Bible– He can open our eyes to see things through His lens of love and wisdom. Within its pages lie countless stories and teachings that reveal how even amidst trials and tribulations, there are hidden blessings waiting to be discovered. Moreover, as we examine our tendency to complain, let us also pause for introspection. Are we offering any solutions alongside our grievances? Complaining without making an effort towards finding resolutions only perpetuates dissatisfaction without purpose or progress. Let’s challenge ourselves by enhancing every complaint with proactive thinking; let each concern be accompanied by creative suggestions. ~ Bill Greguska
Philippians 2:14-15 Do everything without grumbling or arguing so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky.
Do Not. Complain, But. Work Harder And Trust God!
There is a difference between positive and negative complaining. Positive looks for solutions, and negative instead bathes in negativity and drags others down with them. Sometimes a problem has to be talked about before it can be resolved. Each one of us is guilty of complaining about not getting our wants or needs met or feeling like we are being mistreated. It is time to evaluate if you are protesting too much. If so, it is time to make a change and start trying to be more thankful.
Most likely, you are aware that there are two types of complaining. One kind of complaining is healthy, and the other is very unhealthy. When we complain healthily, we state what is going on to the other person or persons, expecting they might have a solution to the problem. Unhealthy complaining happens when it becomes more of a habit or lifestyle built into your personality. It is when people avoid you because they know you are a complainer. Also, we are looking for a remedy with good complaining, not just complaining to relieve stress or anger. Making yourself ready to offer a solution is what is considered healthy. ~ Bill Greguska
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- How can I overcome having a critical spirit?
- How should a Christian respond to all the negativity out there?
- To guard your heart, what does that mean?
- What does the Bible say about bitterness?
- What does the Bible say about complaining?
Stop Complaining And Start To Change Your Life!
Is complaining something you need to stop doing? The first and most obvious thing is to “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips” Psalm 141:3. Also, ask God to help you work on your attitude to focus on what it says in Philippians 4:8. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
I’ve never met a genuinely satisfied person who was ala complainer! Plus, make it your personal goal to encourage others by using your words. The Bible says in Ephesians 4:29, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what helps build others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Just because things are not going the way you would like them to go does not mean that God is not in control or does not know what He is doing. Let God be God, and pray that if you have a complaining attitude, He will take it from you and fill you with peace, joy, and a new heart to share encouragement with others!
Make A Plan On How To Stop Complaining:
- Learn to be content with your life. No one is perfectly happy with their life. All humans know by instinct almost that life is not as it should be.
- Keep a gratitude journal. If you tend to forget all the blessings in your life, try writing them down every day. Write out ten things every day that you are thankful for.
- Be thankful. “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5.
- Lower your expectations. You might have too high expectations about how things should go in your life.
- Learn to rejoice in all things: “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22. Apostle Paul wrote, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” Philippians 4:4. Get plenty of sleep. The world always looks a little grayer when you are tired. If you are feeling down, try taking a nice long nap. Most people feel much better after a sound sleep.
- If you can change whatever is bothering you, change it. If not, then learn the Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Amen.
- Ask for help. Ask people you know to remind you to stay positive. If you are a complainer, you will need help from others to break that bad habit.
Is Complaining Hurting Or Helping Yourself And Others?
Has complaining helped or hurt your relationships? When you complain about things in. your life, you might think that it is good to get them off your chest. Yes, on the one hand, it is good that you do not allow negative thoughts or feelings to eat away at your peace of mind.
But on the other hand, if you complain and are not even seeking a solution to your problem, you are just adding to it and making others miserable by making them listen to your gripes and hurtful words.
Do everything without grumbling or arguing. Philippians 2:14 In other words, stop complaining, but instead, take your concerns to God!
Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:
Philippians 2:14 ESV
Do all things without grumbling or disputing,
James 5:9 ESV
Do not grumble against one another, brothers, so that you may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing at the door.
1 Peter 4:9 ESV
Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
Ephesians 4:29 ESV
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Romans 12:2 ESV
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing, you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Exodus 16:8 ESV
And Moses said, “When the Lord gives you in the evening meat to eat and in the morning bread to the full because the Lord has heard your grumbling that you grumble against him—what are we? Your grumbling is not against us but against the Lord.”
Philippians 2:14-16 ESV
Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain.
Romans 8:28 ESV
And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Proverbs 17:22 ESV
A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
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