1) Factors In Unwise Friendships!

1. The Gossip. “One who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets; therefore, do not associate with a gossip” (Proverbs 20:19). One who slanders others will eventually gossip about you.
2. The Quick-tempered. “Do not make friends with a person given to anger, or go with a hot-tempered person, or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself” (22:24-25).
3. The Disloyal and Discontent. “My son, fear the Lord and the king; do not get involved with those of high rank, for their disaster will rise suddenly, and who knows the ruin that can come from both of them?” (24:21-22). Those with a rebellious spirit, especially toward authority, are often unstable and prone to anger.
4. The Undisciplined. “He who keeps the Law is a discerning son, but he who is a companion of gluttons humiliates his father” (28:7). This refers not only to food but to any lust that is out of control.
5. The Immoral. “A man who loves wisdom makes his father glad, but he who involves himself with prostitutes wastes his wealth” (29:3). An immoral person is a bad influence who drags us down into sin.
6. The Fool. “One who walks with wise people will be wise, but a companion of fools will suffer harm” (13:20). A fool is someone who rejects God and spiritual matters.

2) What Are Building Blocks For The Value Of Good Friendships?

If we want a relationship to develop and endure, we must use the proper building materials. When put together, these building blocks convey a love for our friends.

• Time. No relationship will flourish without investing our time in a friend’s life.
• Talk. Every friendship is founded upon two-way communication.
• Tears and laughter. A genuinely open relationship requires the sharing of both our joys and sorrows.
• Triumphs. We must be willing to share each other’s accomplishments, victories, and all that the Lord is doing in our lives.
• Trials and tragedies. Difficulties, hurts, hardships, sorrows, and disappointments are part of life; we need each other to share the burdens.
• Thankfulness. We must thank our friends for their companionship and the Lord for blessing us with such a good relationship.
• Thoughtfulness. Being thoughtful means considering how we can help the other person. Our love and care can manifest in various ways, depending on our friend’s needs or circumstances.
• Tolerance. Being a genuine friend requires tolerance of the other person. We need the patience to overlook annoying habits or ugly attitudes.
• Touch. A godly touch is a beautiful way to convey our love, tenderness, and care for a friend.
• Transparency. We must be willing, honest, and open to building an intimate friendship. Instead of trying to hide our weaknesses and faults, we should freely share our struggles with our friends.
• Truthfulness. Without a foundation of truth, we cannot build a relationship. We must be honest with ourselves and each other.

3) What Behaviors Damage Friendships?

• Selfishness. Always focusing on ourselves and our needs will eventually ruin a friendship.
• Manipulation. We should never use or try to control a friend for our own ends.
• Jealousy. Jealously trying to limit the other person’s friendships will smother the relationship.
• Criticism. If we continually look for shortcomings and find fault with our friends, we’ll drive them away. Plus, criticism hurts us because we don’t want to hurt our friends with it. Major issues should be addressed, but we can let minor ones pass.
• Explosive temper. Pent-up anger that explodes in rage can do irreparable damage to a relationship.
• Covetousness. To envy what someone else has is the opposite of focusing on what’s best for them.
• Disloyalty. Unfaithfulness is not only painful and disheartening, but it also breaks apart relationships.
• Dishonesty. Lies destroy trust. If we’ve been dishonest, we need to admit it and seek our friend’s forgiveness.
• Busyness. The relationship will wither if we are too busy to spend time with friends.

Good Relationships And Repairing Damaged Friendships!

If you have a relationship in trouble but worth rescuing, you must be willing to take steps to make it right.

• Address it. Tell your friend you want to work on the friendship.
• Determine what went wrong. How did the relationship get off track?
• Apologize. Take responsibility for whatever you may have done to damage the friendship.
• Refuse to blame, and don’t defend yourself. The goal is to save the relationship, not to prove who’s right.
• Ask what you can do to repair the relationship. This will open the door to the other person’s suggestions.
• Commit to change. I promise to make the changes required to be faithful and committed.