I am sorry to hear you are struggling to get a counselor. Did you consider contacting your pastor? Maybe he could sit down and talk with you? If you do not have a pastor or church, here is a link to find a good Bible-believing church in your area. https://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/
Also, here is a phone number. They are not counselors, but they are Christian, and their ministry makes phone conversations. The ministry is called Need Him. The phone number is 800-633-3446
I am not sure why Focus on the Family was not able to communicate with you?
Since you seem to need someone to talk with, let me ask you if you have taken your problems to God recently?
If you need to bounce something off of me, and what I have said has been of some help to you, feel free to email me back, and maybe I can be of some help to you?
God bless you and trust Him to comfort you and give you wisdom.
Proverbs 30:5 “Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.
yeah, I’m looking for counseling but unable to fill out the counseling call back form via a focus on the family. I’m in Canada so do I just keep looking on google cause I have been doing that on and off for like 3 years tried to reach out to a few but no luck, so any help.
It sounds like you are in a storm right now. The first thing I would suggest is to stop right now and pray to God. Tell Him what you are going through, and ask Him to give you the wisdom you need to get through this time. James 1:5 If anyone f you lack wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
The next thing I would suggest is to contact your pastor and ask him for help. If you do not have your own church, check out this link to find a good Bible-believing church for yourself in your area, which will not only expose you to God’s word but will supply the fellowship you seem to really need. https://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/
For your physical need of money, I would suggest to call 211 and talk to someone there that could help you with that need. You can also call
Lord, I pray right now that Christy can find comfort in you and your word. I pray that you could draw some good people into her life. I also pray for Christy’s financial needs. Lord, you love Christy, and you will not leave her or forsake her, give her patience to trust you, Lord, for ALL of her needs!
If what I have shared with you has been of help to you, feel free to email me back if you have anything else on your mind that I can help you with. BUT make sure you pray and ask God to give you the wisdom and direction that you need.
May God bless you and comfort you during this time you are going through.
Subject: I AM HURTING AND NEED LOVE
I NEED SUPPORT AND PEOPLE TO LOVE ME AND I NEED PEOPLE TO LOVE ME PRAY FOR MY MONEY NEEDS TO BE MET AND PRAY FOR ME NOT TO BE ALL ALONE AND THANKS FOR BEING A FRIEND AND PRAY FOR PEOPLE TO BE AROUND ME THANKS
I have coined an expression for what you are talking about in your email. “People are people.” I am assuming that you are sensitive like I am. It is regrettable that those who call themselves Christians and behave in such a way. Remember that we as Christians need to try to be more and more like Jesus, but unfortunately, everyone is different in their faith walk.
You are feeling 60% like garbage because it has not been resolved…You need to take some pro-active steps starting with prayer!!!
You are right without a doubt that Jesus loves you and cares for you, probably more than you even realize. It sounds like you are asking me for my advice. I will give it to you, but please pray about what I say before you do anything.
- One of my concerns is for your spiritual heart not to become hardened, Matthew 6:15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
- My advice to you is to pray about this each day, asking God for His wisdom and insight into what is happening, and if there is anything on your part, you could find something you need to address with God.
- Pray for those “Christians” who have been making your life more complicated than it needs to be. When we pray for someone, God hears our prayers and will intervene, remember that the Lord is the Best Defence Attorney that there is!
- Go to your pastor to inform him of what is going on. Maybe he can do something to help you? Perhaps he would allow you to address the church on a Sunday?
- Romans 12:18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not allow your hurt feeling to cripple you.
- After doing all you can do to make peace with your church, and if there is no improvement in the situation, there is the option to confront each of those people peacefully.
- The idea is to stay at your church, but then leaving is an option if that is not possible. Make sure no matter what, if you decide to leave, I would make sure that the pastor knows what happened and leave peacefully if all you have tried fails. Also, you do not loan your lips to the devil and slander anyone. Just speak the truth in love.
- James 1:5If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
- If what I have shared has been helpful, feel free to email me back if you think it would help.
- I pray that you will be able to resolve this situation, and no matter what, you will be a better person for doing so.
May God bless you and give you wisdom and peace!
Subject: Church gossip?
I am becoming increasingly frustrated with my church; it’s a Baptist Church. I genuinely love everyone in the church, but it is clear many members in my small church disapprove of me. They are very caring towards my son, and that’s wonderful, but I feel if I didn’t attend at all and only he went, they would be ok with that. I have noticed the women will take turns reaching out to me as a friend, and I will talk openly and honestly, and then much of what I say is then in my pastor’s sermon the next week. Then the friend stops talking to me for a long period.
I know several members think I am not properly saved. I was asked to tell my story by the pastor’s wife, how I got saved, and the pastor mentioned in his sermon several times since those elements in my story are not how God works with me, though. I leave church feeling like garbage 60% of the time. One woman snaps at me over the simplest statements. I was shunned for about two weeks until I approached someone and asked what I had done? Why was everyone ignoring me? She told me it wasn’t me And not to worry about it.
Is this how the church is? Is this how God works? I thought I would find a community where otherwise, I have no one in the area I moved to. I have been attending the church for a year. I have made every effort to ” be good” I am afraid to talk to anyone about what is going on with me because it will end up in a sermon it’s a small church. If they’re telling the pastor, does everyone sitting around me know! And I’m just sat there like a fool! I believe that Jesus loves me and cares for me, but I don’t believe there’s a place for me among his people.
Things do happen, and the ball is in her court now to decide what she is willing or not willing to do. I have been where you are, and the good advice is what I already gave you in the other email. Here are a couple of scriptures and some more information to be of help to you.
1 Peter 5:7Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Hopefully, she will forgive you and be willing to work things out, but if she is willing to forgive you but not willing to take you back, that is possibly the other scenario.
Please do yourself a favor, and take care of “Joseph” right now. Concentrate on what the Serenity prayer says:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
In addition to the serenity prayer, here are a few more ideas to focus on…
- Focus on your relationship with God
- Focus on your other friendships
- Focus on your job
- Keep an open palm with Victoria. If the Lord puts her back with you or not, be open to His Will.
- Make sure you get some exercise to combat the stress in life.
- Find things that you enjoy, and do them.
- Make sure you eat healthy foods.
- Make sure you avoid alcohol and drugs.
- Be sure to get enough sleep each night, 7-8 hours.
- Stop obsessing about Victoria (attempt to write her a letter or call her to determine if she wants you back or not)
- Let all the results be determined in God’s timing and His Will, not yours.
You will be alright, just keep calm and level headed with your eyes on the Lord, not Victoria!
Subject: Re: “Help”
We broke up because I had a mental breakdown, and I took everything out on her. It was a day back in October I was being overworked with my job. I was depressed because she was no longer living with me due to my brother’s wife’s issues, and she said something to me. I forget what it was, and everything just came out, and I took it out on her, and I never meant it. I never wanted to break up with her.
I had a mental breakdown, and I had everything from her. When I see her walking somewhere, she stares at me. When I see her walking alone, she never looks happy; she always looks miserable. We broke up. After all, I did it by accident because I had a mental breakdown, and I never told her what was going on. I should have in my heart. I believe that she and I are getting back together in my heart. I believe that we can work this out. I know she still loves me the way that she looks at me when she’s walking. I asked God for signs. There are things I see after I asked him for signs. I had visions of me and her getting back together, visions of me and her having a family together. I pray every single day for us. I know she’s the one.
I know I feel, and I believe that me and her are not done yet. I believe that our story together is not over after I accidentally broke up with her. She was contacting me all the way up until about two weeks before Christmas, and because of everything going on with me, I shut down, but she still talks to my family is. She still asks my family about me. I know my heart, and I believe she’s the one I have tried to move on, and I cannot. Something stops me tells me it’s wrong. I am truly in love with her with all my heart, and I believe that we will work this that we are going to get back together. I just need prayers for her and me to work this out.
I need a miracle prayer for her and me to get back together. I know we’re meant to be the first time I saw her. I knew that she was the one I fell in love with her the first time I saw her. I remember exactly what she was wearing and what she was doing when I saw her for the first time, stores I can’t go into because I get too emotional cuz that was where me and her went. I enjoy fishing. I stopped going fishing. That was our thing. Some things just seem wrong for me to be doing without her I need a miracle prayer for her, and I get back together with you. Please give me a miracle prayer, please.
I am sorry to hear that you are struggling in this past relationship issue. You say that you have been praying about your situation, what do you hear God prompting you to do? It is apparent that you still have deep feeling towards Victoria. There must have been a reason why you guys broke up, and until that is resolved, there is probably not much that you can do. It has been almost seven months, and it might be time to either talk with her about your feeling or move on with your life.
Sometimes God allows a door to be closed, but it always seems that He has another door ever better to be opened. God will help you through this situation by either allowing the two of you to talk things out, or help you move past her.
In the meantime, keep praying to find GOD’S will rather than focusing on your own will. I can understand that it is hard, but there is a good chance that she has moved on obviously with a new boyfriend. That does not mean you can not talk to her one more time to attempt to resolve things, but after hearing her wishes, you need to respect whatever she wants.
If you do get to talk with Victoria, MAKE SURE YOU TALK LIKE A GENTLEMAN, AND ALLOW VICTORIA TO SPEAK, AND DO NOT ARGUE, OR BECOME UNRULY, IF YOU DO NOT THINK YOU CAN DO THAT, THEN BETTER LEAVE WELL ENOUGH ALONE.
There are many fish in the ocean, and I pray that the Lord will open the right door for you. Until then, keep walking close to God each day, reading your Bible, praying, and trying to do His Will.
If what I have shared with you has been helpful, feel free to email me back if you have anything else you would like to discuss. No matter what you decide to do, or what happens, I wish you all the best and I pray you grow closer to God because of what you decide.
God bless you,
Hi my name is Joseph I’ve been praying for me and my ex girlfriend Victoria to get back together ever since December and now she’s with someone I’m still in love with her she’s everything to me I feel lost without her I know I have God on my side I believe in God I believe in Jesus and I have my faith in God and Jesus and it’s strong I pray to them every single day I wear my crosses please pray for us to get back together.
I pray to God for him to reconcile mine and his relationship I pray that he helps me through things he has granted me my prayers before he has answered them before that helps me with my faith of thinking about the things he’s answered for me I know that this is a big one for him to answer for her and I to work this out she’s everything to me also I handed things over to God I pray to him to take us things over I don’t know if I pray to him in the right way for him to take everything over is there a certain way that I have to pray headed to take my worries over
It sounds like you are on the right path in life since you said you are reading God’s word! None of us are perfect. That is why we need a savior in Jesus Christ. Do not worry about having all your questions answered today. A relationship with God is an everyday type of thing that will last until we are taken home to heaven, then we will be with Him for eternity.
As far as your question about circumcision, here is what the Bible says about it in 1 Corinthians 7:19, Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts.
I hope what I have shared has been helpful to you. If it has another question, feel free to email me back, or you can go to GotQuestions.org, and they have a wealth of wisdom and Christian information that can help you in your walk with the Lord.
God bless you as you keep growing closer to Him!
My question is, how will son and father be able to keep a bond with god. When I was younger, I had a kid, and I didn’t understand many things. Still to this day, I get confused. But I never got my child circumcised, and now I read the bible and know plenty of mistakes on how to go about this situation. God bless
My advice is still the same.
- Get a pastor or counselor to get involved.
- Set boundaries.
- Have your husband regain trust.
- Work things out.
It sounds like you do not trust your husband, and I can understand that.
If you would approach him requesting that he does not see that woman anymore, what would he say?
Is there any reason that your husband needs to be around her? Employee or?
If you do not trust that he would not get angry or verbally / physically aggressive towards you, then for sure you need a pastor or counselor to help you!
What I have already mentioned, you might want to re-read and think about. It is hard to give you much more advice not knowing more details, but I think I basically have shared the truth with you for you to be able to make up your mind on the next step you need to take.
It is unfortunate to hear what you are dealing with, many women would get a divorce, but you obviously love him despite his unfaithfulness. Yes, healing is possible, but not if the sore keeps being pulled off by your husband and girlfriend. If your husband will not cooperate and insists on still spending time with her, he is not committed to you and your marriage.
I am against divorce, but if your husband is not willing to take any steps to regain trust, your options are cut.
BOTTOM LINE: PLEASE GET A PASTOR OR COUNSELOR INVOLVED ASAP.
I can only coach you to a degree, but you need a third person to negotiate between you and your husband. It is not a lost cause if you become proactive and get someone to help you guys!
- You did not tell me, or did I ask if your husband said he was sorry for what he did?
- Have you forgiven your husband?
- Have you been talking about the incident since it happened?
- When you ask him why he needs to spend time with this woman, what does he say?
Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
I pray that God gives you wisdom and courage to do what God wants you to do about this. When you pray, what do you hear God saying to you?
Here is a phone number you can call 800-633-3446 (if you do not get an answer right away, try again later)
Subject: Update on Question regarding Adultery
Hi Mr. Greguska,
I have to be honest with you. I do not have a friend who has been cheated on by her husband. I am the Wife that has been cheated on.
I really need someone to talk to. I made a decision not to tell Family and Friends. It would just become a source of gossip and condemnation.
There are other aspects of our lives we have to deal with.
Thanks for reaching out. I know that dealing with parents or step-parents can be challenging at times. When my 80-year-old mother got remarried, I had an angry stepdad. His personality went from angry to happy more often than you could believe, but usually, he was angry. I put up with him because my mom loved him, and I loved my mom. I pray that God gives you the wisdom to know how to handle things better than you have been. Here is a brainstorming list of things that might be of help to you.
Look these ideas over and try to implement as many as you can.
- Offer to help him around the house.
- Step aside when you see that he is getting on you.
- Ask to set up a time where your house members can all talk with the TV off and open to finding solutions.
- Please do all you can not let him push your buttons.
- Ask him to clarify what he wants out of you.
- Do not raise your voice or get an attitude.
- The things he is yelling at you about, can you do anything about it?
- If you can do something, then do it.
- Write down on paper what you think he is trying to say to you and share it with him;
- If he is upset about your drug and alcohol abuse, I can understand, but what are you doing to help yourself?
- What does your mom have to say about all of this? Can she be a peacemaker between you and your stepdad?
- Take some time to think if what your stepdad is complaining about if there is any truth to it?
- I am not sure of your age, but have you considered moving out?
- Are you paying any money to live at your parent’s house?
Jerry, if what I have shared with you has been of help, please feel free to contact me back, and maybe I can be more helpful to you? I am praying for you.
May God bless you and give you wisdom and patience,
Subject: Step Parent
I’m dealing with a step Parent that I have to live with no other choice. I realize my stepfather might not be happy I’m there, but life happens.. anyway, he’s constantly talking down to an adult and me. Though I live with my parents, I try hard to respect them. But the constant berating makes it hard to respect him, and when I bring it up to him, I’m somehow to blame.
He gets mad at me and demands I respect him. I tried to turn the other cheek and love him, but that only made the situation worse. I’m trying to recover from drug addiction and realize I have trauma I haven’t dealt with in a healthy manner. I opened up my hurts to God, and I feel vulnerable. What am I to do, and please pray for me?
You say that you are from India, although you did not mention anything about having faith in Jesus Christ. The only help I can point you to is that of Jesus Christ being your Lord and Savior before I believe you can have any real, lasting success in battling Pornography.
1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
Here are a couple of links that will get you started in your recovery.
Here is a phone number you can call to talk with a Christian who can help you. 800-633-3446
Sampath, I pray that God gives you the strength and self-control to gain some small victories in your battle against pornography. You need to really want the help and be willing to follow the Lord in this effort. Stay away from all temptations that drag you down. You can have victory, but remember that it will be a battle for you, but all things are possible with God. I pray that God gives you the grace you need. If what I have shared with you has been of help, feel free to email me if you have any questions I might be able to help you with.
God bless you,
Hi, dear team. I am Sampath from India, struggling with pornography addiction past a couple of years. I need specific counseling to commit, and I need to please God with my body and soul, and I need someone to confess my sin, and I need someone to help overcome my addiction.
Thank you for reaching out to us. Our ministry uses communication via email only, so please let me know what is on your mind?
To briefly respond to your concern about unforgiveness. God sent his Son to pay for our sins. Having faith in God, we are covered by the sacrifice that He made for us.
John 3:16For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall
not perish but have eternal life.
Candice, you say that you feel like you have done something that even God can’t forgive. The only thing that I am aware of that is unforgivable mentioned in the Bible is blasphemy.
“Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit” is conscious and hardened opposition to the truth, “because the Spirit is truth” (1 John 5:6). Conscious and hardened resistance to the truth leads man away from humility and repentance, and without repentance, there can be no forgiveness.
In a religious sense, blasphemy refers to great disrespect shown to God or something holy, or something said or done that shows this kind of disrespect; heresy refers to a belief or opinion that does not agree with the official belief or opinion of a particular religion. Both words are also sometimes used in general, not necessarily religious, contexts.
Matthew 12:31 And so I tell you, every kind of sin and slander can be forgiven, but blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven.
It would be very extreme if your heart were so very cold that you would blasphemy the Holy Spirit. We all sin against God regularly. That is one of the biggest things about having a relationship with Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior.
About blasphemy, only you and God know for sure. Still, I would guess that you are under condemnation for some sin you have committed or are committing that you did not confess to God about, and Satan is working hard to destroy your relationship with God.
1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
If what I have shared has been helpful to you, feel free to contact me back, or you can call 800-633-3446, and someone hopefully can get to you to talk. You might need to try calling several times because they are a group of volunteer Christians who try to point people to Jesus Christ and have been very busy lately.
Candice, another option is to check out this link and see if it would be of help to you.
God bless you,
Kindly please contact me. I need help during this time. I’m finding it difficult to wait on God. I feel like I’ve done something that even God can’t forgive.
I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your son’s father. As far as talking to someone on the phone, we correspond via email only in our ministry. I am sorry if you expect to talk on the phone, but that is how we are set up.
If your son has a specific question or concern, please have him contact us, and we will get back to him as quickly as possible. Does your son know the Lord as his Lord and Savior?
Are you or your son Christian? If so, I encourage you to pray and ask God for wisdom on how to handle your situation? If you are not Christian, I encourage you to look into it as soon as possible.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Also, this Psalm has been a comfort to me in the past.
Psalm 121:1-8 I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip—he who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord watches over you—the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. The Lord will keep you from all harm—he will watch over your life; the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.
Mary, If your son wants to contact us, please encourage him to do so. In the meantime, I pray that the Lord will comfort him and direct his way. Here are a couple of links that might be of help.
God bless you and your son during this difficult time in his life. I pray for comfort from God for your son’s loss of his father.
You can call to talk with a Christian about your faith and the death of your son’s father on the phone by calling 800-633-3446
Subject: grief counseling with a male Christian counselor
My husband, my son’s father, recently passed away, and he is having a very difficult time with the grief. Is it possible for me to set up a phone counseling session with a male Christan counselor?
I believe if I can get it set up, he will talk with the counselor.
Is Bill Greguska available for this type of counseling?
Thanks for any assistance you can provide.
I have found great strength and peace when I am walking with the Lord. In my life, when I have decided to take the steering wheel back from God, my life has suffered because of it. We need to submit ourselves to God and allow Him to run our lives. No longer can we afford to run our own lives.
Another thought I had, was to “KEEP IT SIMPLE” What I mean by that, it that if you are falling into sin in a certain habitual way, do not go down that road. Avoid it like the plague!!! You might still grab the steering wheel back from God, but hopefully, it will be less and less. Addiction is not easy to break, BUT it can be done, and it is so much worth it!!!
I can not say with 100% assurance that your addiction will go away today (that would be awesome if it would), but for me, it was a constant thriving to want to be free from drugs and alcohol, and sure enough, on June 25, 1986, the Lord freed me from my addictions. I struggled and fell a few times, but I kept getting back up. I prayed to God regularly, I had support, I had faith, and I was determined. Praise God that He rescued me from myself and addictions. I know that God can do the same in your life Misgana, set your mind to do so, and keep following God!
I can say with 100% assurance that when you pray, God hears your prayers, and he will answer them, we have no crystal ball to know the time of the day, but I do know for sure that God is faithful. This, I know, without a doubt!!!
Here are a couple of links that I think will be of help to you.
Keep on praying and reading your Bible. Plus, if you know someone who is a Christian and would be willing to help walk with you through this time in your life, that would be awesome! It is like being back on the playground and having someone help defend you from the bullies on the playground. We all need someone. I have a couple of Christian friends that I can go to with my problems and concerns. Sometimes just talking about it helps a lot. Other times, getting feedback helps a great deal too!
I will continue to pray for you. Please continue to seek after the Lord in prayer and trust Him to direct you in the way you ought to go and protect you! Keep trying, Misgana. You can do it, and if what I am sharing is helpful to you, feel free to email me back.
Subject: Re: “asking for advice.”
After I’ve read it, my life showed changing. I think I am in a good mood. as long as this addiction is with me, I won’t feel free forever, just for a few days before it comes again. Thank you so much for everything. What would you like to add?
Good morning Misgana,
I think that you might have a misconception. We do not have to make ourselves good first before we can come to Jesus. I suggest you get your thinking straight and come to God as you are (a sinner, just like me) and let the Holy Spirit work in you. You do not need to get good first to allow God to help you.
It sounds like you admit you are not strong enough to beat this problem, that is why you need Jesus to help you right now. (not wait until you get your life cleaned up, you need Jesus now!
Please think about and pray about what I just said…and read Romans chapter 6 (the whole chapter) and, in your own words, try to tell me what it is trying to say to you.
Dead to Sin, Alive in Christ
6 What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? 2 By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? 3 Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.
5 For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly also be united with him in a resurrection like his. 6 For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with,[a] that we should no longer be slaves to sin— 7 because anyone who has died has been set free from sin.
8 Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. 9 For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him. 10 The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God.
11 In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. 13 Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. 14 For sin shall no longer be your master because you are not under the law, but under grace.
Slaves to Righteousness
15 What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means! 16 Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness? 17 But thanks be to God that, though you used to be slaves to sin, you have come to obey from your heart the pattern of teaching that has now claimed your allegiance. 18 You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness.
19 I am using an example from everyday life because of your human limitations. Just as you used to offer yourselves as slaves to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer yourselves as slaves to righteousness leading to holiness. 20 When you were slaves to sin, you were free from the control of righteousness. 21 What benefit did you reap at that time from the things you are now ashamed of? Those things result in death! 22 But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life. 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Misgana, read this chapter at least twice to make sure you understand what you read, and then let me know in your own words what it is saying. To understand this will be a good start for you to have God remove your sins, shortcomings, and addictions! Our flesh is too weak, we need God’s help!
Subject: Re: “asking advice”
i do have some addiction, i want God to take a way those habits from me, i tried so much by my self but i couldn’t manage to get out. when i start living the right christian life with a holiness and being given to him then i get tempted and i again find my self in a thing i left. i want to go further with you if you willing to help me.
We all have things we are ashamed of. It is good that you are feeling shame for whatever it may be. Romans 3:23
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
Do you plan to turn away from whatever sin you have been committing? In God’s word, the Bible says in1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
I have given you a couple of scriptures to think about and apply to your life. You did not say much about what you did, but you want to stop doing it, then ask God in prayer, and He will give you the strength you need to overcome whatever it is. If what I have shared with you has been of help to you, please feel free to email me back. In the meantime, pray right now for God to help direct you and help you turn away from your sins.
May God give you the wisdom and strength to help you.
Subject: asking advice
i need help in my life for i am ashamed of telling anything bad about me to any one, i am facing a problem. i know Jesus is full of mercy but i couldn’t live a life that he deserved, i couldn’t be holy as i supposed to be, i am looking for someone to guide me to the lord of mercy and someone to tell about all my bad habit and get help.
Thanks for reaching out. I just want to tell you that you are not alone. Addiction to cigarettes can be challenging (yet very possible to quit, I quit back in 1988 after struggling for a couple of years).
I can tell you for sure that you need to change your thinking concerning cigarettes. They act like your friend, but they are NOT YOUR FRIEND at all. Cigarettes will not only steal your money, but cigarettes will steal your health!
Have you prayed about your wanting to quit smoking to God? That is where I would start if I were you!
Having someone to keep you accountable is very wise, someone you must report to and talk with if you are struggling. Unfortunately, I need to be honest with you. If your addiction is powerful like mine, you might have to quit and backslide a few times before getting it right. BUT DO NOT GIVE UP, YOU CAN QUIT…
Is there some way you could move out of your home since it seems to be a terrible trigger for you! Maybe find a roommate who does not smoke and move in together. If I were trying to quit smoking again, I would not want to be around smokers at all, even if they were my own family.
Another thought is to chew sugar-free gum as much as possible, also have something like a lollypop or pen in your hand to give your hand something to focus on instead of cigarettes. Have you considered buying the nicotine patch?
Your quitting smoking partially depends on how badly you want to quit. If you think it is a good idea to quit, that most likely not be enough to do it. You gotta really want to quit very badly and willing to do anything to do so.
Here are a couple of links that I put together to help others quit smoking. There is a lot of useful information on these pages, good videos, and links. If what I have shared has been helpful, and you would like to email me back, please feel free to do so.
I pray that God takes away your craving and desire to smoke like when you were in college. Remember that with God, all things are possible. I have been cigarette free since January 10, 1988, and I smoked between 2-3 packs a day. I have faith in God that you can quit too!!! BUT DO NOT GIVE UP, YOU CAN QUIT…
One day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time because they all add up to being cigarette free! You can do it!!!
Subject: Help from addiction
I want to be free from tobacco addiction. I tried several times, been impatient. My problem was when I was away from home for my studies for 11 months, I was OK without having tobacco, but when I came back home after a few days, I got into the habit. The thing is because tobacco is always around at home since one more member is using it. So it’s my weakness. Where will I go, where will I stay to be free? Maybe I am not strong.