Response Letters 8God bless America NeedEncouragement.com

Below are some of the questions people have emailed in to ask us about.

I am not a professional counselor, yet I have been a Born-Again Christian since 1986. Our responses are based on Biblical principles found in the Bible and through prayer and links to our website.

 

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Hi Brett,
It is wise of you to look for answers, especially after not having any church upbringing. If I were you, I would want to know why you need Jesus in your life. The simple answer would be that we are all sinners (you, me, everyone) and that God is holy and will not have anything to do with sin. 
Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Do you think you are a sinner?
That is why he gave his son Jesus to sacrifice his life on the cross for payment of the sins of the world.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Without Jesus, when you die, how will your sins be forgiven?
If you can understand your need for God, you will be on your way to seeing life differently than you have been seeing it.
Here are a couple of links that will be of help to you since you mentioned depression and anxiety:
I pray that what I have shared with you has been helpful. Please feel free to email me back if you have any questions.
I can help you if you have any specific questions that you would like to be answered.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
God bless you, and keep being hungry for answers!
Bill Greguska

 

Subject: Looking for someone to talk to in the Christian faith for starting my life over
Message Body:
Hi,
I’ve been looking for advice from the Christian Faith about how to change my life. quarter-life crisis is what I think It is called. Need help/guidance with Career change, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, etc. Never went to church or had religion growing up but I think there was always something missing. So I know that I want to change my life but I want to find someone to talk to to help me go in the right direction. Thank you

 


 

Hi Cindy,
I hope your therapy has been a help to you. Try to cooperate with the staff and ask questions when you do not understand something. Make the most of your time while you are there. You will not regret the effort you put in.
I hear what you are saying about your Dad’s anniversary. Anniversaries can sometimes be painful. I had a friend back when I was 16 years old, and every March 12th, I think of him, and I am now 61 years old. I believe it is healthy to remember those we love when they die, but if you can, try to think about the good memories that come to your mind and thank God for them. My mom died in 2014, and I was very close to her. She went through a lot on my behalf, above and beyond the call of a mother. Check out this page I made in honor of her. https://needencouragement.com/moms-legacy/
God has created us to live approximately 70 years, some of us longer and others shorter. If you think about it, our time here on earth is very short compared to eternity. Heaven is our real home, but until the Lord calls us home as He did with your Dad. We still have much to do. So y u take care of yourself, listen closely to the counselors, and get back home, for you are young, and God has a plan for your life.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
I hope what I shared was helpful to you. If you have any questions about what I mentioned, please feel free to email me back with your questions. I pray for your therapy to be successful. I was in drug and alcohol therapy back in 1986, and it was just what I needed to help me get my life back on track! Prai e God!
God bless you, Cindy,
Bill Greguska
Ephesians 6:10-18 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 P t on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 F r our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 S and firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.  18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

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Subject: Christian counseling/coaching
Message Body:
I am already in therapy but seem to be having a crisis of faith due to grief. Tomo row is the one-year anniversary of my Dad from covid, Sunday is his birthday, then Christmas. B

Hi Laura,
I can share with you where false guilt comes from. It comes from Satan since he is the one who is out to get in our heads and destroy us.
John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
God would never give us false guilt since God can not lie. So understanding that false guilt is from the devil, you are one step closer to a solution.
The solution would be to take all your concerns to God in prayer.
Since you asked me about someone having false guilt, I would tell you that I have recently experienced false guilt in my life concerning Christmas. I love my friends and family, yet I am not a wealthy man who can buy whatever I want to give to people for Christmas since many people give gifts to one another. My conscience bothers me since I disagree with how the world celebrates Christmas since I believe the real meaning of Christmas is the birth of Jesus Christ so that he could come to the world, show us the way, and then die on the cross for our sins. Therefore, I get false guilt on me at Christmas time. When the world is celebrating Christmas with gifts that they can not afford in the first place,
So let me ask you this, Laura, “What kind of false guilt are you struggling with?

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From: Laura <wordpress@needencouragement.com>
To: Billgreguska@aol.com
Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling”

Subject: Counseling
Message Body:
Do you know someone that had a problem with false guilt who got over it and would be willing to share about it?

Hi Tristan,
I can only imagine that the demons bothering you have made your life unmanageable. Up until now, I can be pretty sure that you have been focusing more on the demons than that of Jesus Christ. Keep your eyes on Jesus rather than this evil world or the devil. I pray that you take these scriptures seriously and consider what I have mentioned in this email. Here are a couple of scriptures that can be of great help to you.
James 4:7-8 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God, and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

Ephesians 6:10-18 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 F r our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Here are some reminders to consider following that will help strengthen you.
  1. Are you reading your Bible and praying each morning?
  2. Are you avoiding alcohol and street drugs?
  3. Are you taking your medication for schizophrenia as prescribed?
  4. Are you getting 7-8 hours of sleep each night?
  5. Are you getting any exercise?
  6. Are you eating healthy?
  7. Are you drinking enough water each day?
If what I have shared with you has been of help to you, feel free to email me back if you have any questions about what I have said.
God bless you,
Subject: Demons
Message Body:
I can barely type the subject heading it hurt my right ear that they’ve stuck me in the right ear for typing the word demons I’m tormented I need help I was diagnosed schizophrenic but it’s not that simple I have demons a lot of them probably the simple fact that they can’t get cast it out no matter how hard that anyone any pastor tries is a testimony to how many they are they’re laughing now I’m so tired of this.

Hi Ricky,
I try to let people know that sometimes problems in life can stem from the physical part of our lives. When was the last time you saw your doctor?
Here are a few things to think about.
  1. Are you getting any exercise?
  2. Are you eating healthy?
  3. Do you drink enough water?
  4. Do you read your Bible and pray each day?
  5. Do you get 7-8 hours of sleep each night?
  6. Are you finding things to laugh about?
  7. Have you been trying to be of help to others?
You can find a great deal of wisdom from the Proverbs since you said you did not know where to start.
Also, here is a page from my website that can be of help to you. https://needencouragement.com/anxiety/
I hope these ideas have been a help to you. If you have any questions about what I shared, please email me back.
God bless you,

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Subject: Anxiety Issues
Message Body:
I am a father of 1 and a husband. I feel l like I may be battling anxiety but not sure how to tackle it with God’s word. I need steps and help because I feel like my mind is trying to slip away from me. And it is starting to affect my health. Thank you for reading I appreciate it.

Hi Nicole,
I am glad you wrote to us. It would be helpful if you could be more specific, but I can offer you a few suggestions in the meantime.
  1. Pray each morning and read your bible, starting with the book of John and also Proverbs.
  2. Get involved in your church. We all need fellowship and to hear God’s word.
  3. Take care of your physical body, eat healthy, exercise, plenty of sleep, keep humor in your heart.
  4. Ask someone to be your accountability partner helping you through difficult times.
Here are a couple of links from my website that will help you.
If you apply what I shared with you, you will be much better off. If w at I have shared has helped, please email me back if you have any questions.
God bless you!

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Subject: Financial issues,confidence,encourage
Message Body:
I like to know more about the bible how to transform my life to pure life…how to deal with struggles

 

Hi Hannah,
We have free Christian counseling via email. Why do you think you need Christian counseling?
If you can let me know what is going on in your life, we can help you. I ta e it that you are a Christian which is very helpful since we use the bible for direction.
Feel free to email me back to let me know what you are struggling with. I wi l get back to you ASAP, no longer than 24-48 hours, or hopefully sooner if possible.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
God bless you,

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Message Body:
I’m looking for a free online Christian counselor

 


 

Bill,

You are such a blessing in my life. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for all your wisdom, time, and words you’ve allowed God to speak through you. I ca ’t tell you how much they mean, and what even your last email did for my heart. I’ll be praising God more than ever this Christmas, and your email was a wonderful reminder of exactly why.
 I’ll be excited to report back to you soon.
Thank you again, and Merry Christmas! I’ll be praying for you and all God has up ahead for you as well. 🙏🏼

 

 Bill Greguska <billgreguska@aol.com> wrote:


Hi Sarah,

It is good to hear from you, and just like a cat jumping out of a second-floor window, it sounds like you have pretty much landed on your feet! Prai e God!
I am so happy for you that you are counseling again. Keep in mind a lesson that I have learned: we can not overreact to a negative situation (like you were in) because we need to look at life as an aerial view since things change like the seasons. Kind of like the seasons, they change, and so do our situations. I am glad you kept focused and took some of what I shared with you to heart and applied it. Now you have made it a partway around the Monopoly board of life, and I think you can admit that things are looking good for you. Make sure you thank God for His blessing, (I believe that God works in a similar way that people work when someone does us a favor, and if we do not acknowledge the favor or gift, then next time the person might not hesitate to do us another favor or gift. It is not in the bible per se, but I have a hunch that there might be some truth to what I said.
I hear what you are saying about having a like-minded partner. I ha e a nice Christian lady friend that I am finding many common things between us that are similar, and the biggest is her love for the Lord! My concern is that even though it has been 14 years since my wife divorced me, I hesitate to get too emotionally involved with someone. “Once bit, twice shy,” but the season I am in right now with the few good friends that I have, I am in no rush to get hooked up just for the same of getting hooked up. I am referring to this woman I go to the mall and witness to people. I felt comfortable with her but not comfortable with the possibility of marriage with her or anyone. I ha e been praying to follow the Lord’s prompting, which I am doing. I suggest that you do the same thing. Be wise and keep making the next correct decision. You have landed on your feet, and it sounds like you are making some significant progress. Praise God!
Here is something I want you to read and realize how far the Lord has taken you…Sarah, I point this out to you below not to make you sad or live in the past, but on the contrary, to encourage you and remind you that God still is not done with you or any of us, there are more hills to climb and victories to experience, enjoy life and never forget what the Lord has done for you! Look at the big picture, it has been almost 2 months, and God has worked so much in your life with your cooperation. Think now how much better off you may possibly be in another 2 more months? God sure is good, isn’t He?
Remember that Christmas is the celebration of our Lord and Savior entering the world as God/man. Christmas Eve is in 2 days, so I encourage you to look at this Christmas as a special reminder of how much you are loved!
Subject: Counseling and coaching
Message Body:
Hi there,
I just really have fallen and am trying so hard to stand, but just could use something Godly help. I am a Christian counselor myself and the shame I am carrying and all of the weight of what I’ve done is a lot. Thank you so much.
Sarah

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling and coaching”

Hi Bill,
I am so so sorry it has taken me this long to get to you. Boy, what an update. The day you emailed me it was moving day and I was coordinating not just my things, but my sister drove a Uhaul down with her things as well, to go to Florida, and I completely forgot about your email, as It has been a crazy two weeks. My c  got shipped, but we drove my sisters all across the country. We BOTH decided to move out of California, and through my mom and her kind husband, God opened the doors to do so and fast. He just made it apparent that He did not want me planting roots down there. The celebrate recovery woman I spoke with ended up never getting back to me after emailing with her back and forth with was very disheartening, my job was at part-time hours (but God sure redeemed me in it and my boss was so sad I was leaving — they got to see my true self, and I was so thankful for that!) and I just had lost all desire to stay in Los Angeles and in the darkness around me that was getting worse.
I was and am still counseling and it truly has been a Godsend, and I am still so thankful for God bringing you into my life. I had planned to stay in CA until my lease was up, but I just knew in my spirit God didn’t want me getting another full-time job there, and so I was so grateful I got to get out early. However, 2 days into our trip, my good mentor, like a second father, and someone who was a huge part of me following the Lord, took his own life, after falling back into addiction a few years back, coming out, and just not being able to let go of the shame (and in my opinion, come clean about what was done in the dark to his wife). It has been very very very hard this week, struggling with just things I wish I could have done or said in the last days when he was struggling. He meant so much and brought so many people to the Lord, had such a gift, served at a recovery center, but once he stopped doing that, the enemy sure got it and took him out hard. We are flying back to CA Monday for his celebration of life service.
It really has lit something so powerful in my sister’s and I’s heart to go forward and serve Him with all our hearts, to make up for the enemy taking out one of our soldiers. I am grateful we are back together because it is so much easier to run the race when someone like-minded and with the same desires, is right there with you, doing the same. I can see why it is so important to have that in a marriage, because it is life-changing, and what I need. I see here I had gone before and I refuse to let the enemy back in to try to take me out…. your words echo in my mind so often, and I am so thankful God knew what I needed to hear through you! I already have had interviews and a couple looks pretty promising, so once I land one, I will be moving out of my mom’s, and my sister wants to come to move to the area I do too. I will keep you posted on it all!
I have 3 counselees I am counseling, and again, just so thankful to see God work before me. I also found a great Celebrate recovery, huge meeting, where my mom lives, and already scoped out a Calvary Chapel in my new area i will be living to get plugged in at. I won’  do the things I did before and set myself up to fall — I am NOT going back to that life or vomit, and will not allow anyone into my life that isn’t fully running after God (unless I need to minister to them :)).
So there is an update!
Thank you again for checking in, Bob — it sure blessed me to see your email, and I am so glad you did.
Talk to you soon!
Sarah


Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling and coaching”

Hi Sarah,
I wanted to check in on you, with anticipation to hear that things are going well for you overall. (I am not saying perfect, but well overall).
Sometimes, we need to factor in the time element in the laboratory of life when we are working on things. It has been about a month now, since the last time we talked.
It seemed as though things were heading in the right direction for you. Praise God!
Keep in mind that the holidays can be a source of anxiety and stress if you let them be.
Please drop me a quick note letting me know how you are doing? No matter how you are doing.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska
P.S. I am reading a book called “Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it is all small stuff.” (it is a very simple read, and full of many valuable insights on life!).
P..S.S. One more thing, I started a new web page I think you could use in your counseling. https: needencouragement.com/solutions/

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling and coaching”

Hi Sarah,

All I ask for you to do is keep focused on the Lord, and when you start counseling again soon, please let others know about my website. Thanks!
Keep smiling and laughing Sarah, you’re going to be just fine! I am praying for you, and our God is a good God!
Proverbs 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

God bless you richly and feel free to email back if you need to chat again.

 

Bill,

I can’t tell you how much I needed your words and this. And you helped me check off one that was to make me laugh! Telling me to stop feeling sorry for myself made me so burst into a smile through my tears. I’m buried in the Psalms as we speak, went on a walk today, and God used what you had to say to so help and so encourage me. Crazy h w one decision is all it takes, and I think that is so incredible you have had a sobriety date for so long… I’ll start again. That all need encourages me so much. And I a  not drinking now. I had to get a week’s worth of anxiety medication to help me sleep and get through the withdrawals,  but I am never going back to that vomit again and getting back to all I did before. Before responding to you just now, I texted an old counselee who asked to meet last week and to get her on the books. I’m going forward!! 
Thank you, Bill. So very very much for being God’s mighty instrument in my life today. I can’t tell you how much He did in my heart through you.
God bless all you do and your website — I’ll be on it a lot! 
A foresee so thankful sister in Christ, 
Sarah

 Bill Greguska <billgreguska@aol.com> wrote:

Hi Sarah,

Believe it or not, what you have just shared has encouraged me. I’ve been n clean and sober since June 25th, 1986 and what you’re going through could happen as easily to me as it did to you. (Thank you!)
Here are a couple of things for you I would like you to think about…
1. Cut your ties with anyone who is not helping you. That means using friends and acquaintances you need to cut ties with immediately.
2. Whatever the struggles you are experiencing, face them with God not on your own because on your own you are not strong enough.
3. Do you think you need to check into a hospital? I’m just asking… Are you still drinking and using?
4. There’s an expression that says, wherever you go there you are. In translation that means you can’t run from your problems. You have to either face them or turn your back to them.
5. I strongly encourage you to start counseling others again because that’s what my pastor and his wife suggested for me when my wife left me and I was very depressed. They said that when we encourage others we are self will be encouraged. Read 2n  Corinthians 1:3-4.
6. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get back into living! Start praying again each day! And read your Bible again!
7. Start getting some exercise.
8. Start e ting more healthy.
9. Start drinking more water.
10. Be sure to get seven to eight hours of sleep each night.
11. Practice living out 1st Peter 5:7 cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
12. This last one you might think is a little strange but make sure you laugh a little bit each day. 
Try these things, and if you need to get back to me, feel free to email me.

 

 

Bill,
Thank you for your email and already your words — they really helped touch my heart and get me to think and try to speak life to myself. I think the biggest things I am struggling with, is the things I did and the evil person I became when I allowed the enemy back into my life these past 5 months (I haven’t been counseling anyone this whole time, which was probably something that didn’t help). I moved to LA 5 months ago, from all my community and everything, and slowly the world started to become enchanting again. I lived a party lifestyle up until 26 when I was radically saved.
I am 36 now, and I have never desired any of my old life. I was sold out for Jesus in every single way possible. Well, I opened the door to who I once was, and I guess now that I am coming up for air and completely broken, and wanting nothing but Jesus on the throne on my heart once again, I am struggling with the shame of all I did, still coming off the binge of alcohol I went on, losing the years of the pure life I lived for my Jesus, and how it would blow the minds off of some of the people closest too, how far off I went, and how many substances I started going to, the lies I told…just all of it. It was torture in my heart this time around yet I kept doing it to numb what I had already done….just not fun at all.
I cannot believe the things that could have happened in it but knew God was protecting me. I know  Jesus is the only good in me, and without living for Him these past months, there was so not good in me. Nothing of what I was going to could satisfy me like Jesus could and yet I kept trying, realizing I was not headed in a good direction. Once you are His, there is nothing fun about sin. It just tore my heart up and I just wanted to numb myself. I haven’t fully surrendered again until a couple of days ago, and I know it was what I needed to do. 
I now feel like I lost my sparkle, and just am so sad and ashamed of who I have become, so far from what people know me as and who I have been the past years. I am trying to fight my way back. Trying to sit at His feet. But I l ft of a wake of irresponsibility behind me, also impacting my new job. I wasn’t the person they hired and now I honestly don’t know if it’s one I can stay at because of it because of how poorly I was performing. It’s just all embarrassing, and I just keep thinking, if anyone knew the things I did…. it was just so bad, Bill. I became so so evil, and maybe it’s what I needed to be reminded that the only thing I need or want in this life anymore is Jesus. I really took my eyes off of that and forget how awful my life is without Him at the center. I know doesn’t surprise Him, but it does break my heart I did that to His and that I have to live with what I did to myself. I am just so sad and ashamed.
So that is where I am at. Kind of j st a ball of emotions and a mess, and knowing as soon as my lease is up, I need to move out of this city, but in the meantime, just trying to allow God to mend my heart and rid me of all the past struggles I have invited in, and just get back to seeking Him more than anything. 
I appreciate any words, Truth, or advice. I from the bottom of my heart, appreciate you for being an ear I can confess some of these things to. It means more than you know.
Sarah


Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling and coaching”

Hi Sarah,

I am glad you have reached out for some help, just because you are a Christian counselor you are realizing that you still are a sinner saved by God’s grace.
One suggestion I would like to give you is to turn it around and say someone Like You came to You for advice. What would you tell them?
You may also check out my website, there are over 600 pages of encouragement, I’m sure you could find something that would help you specifically.
You may want to start by reading 1st John 1:9.
As far as counseling with me, I do not do it via phone just email. If you could share what you’re struggling with, hopefully, I can point you to the Lord by scripture and my own advice through What the Lord has helped me with.

God bless you,

 

Subject: Counseling and coaching
Message Body:
Hi there,
I just really have fallen and am trying so hard to stand, but just could use something Godly help. I am a Christian counselor myself and the shame I am carrying and all of the weight of what I’ve done is a lot. Thank you so much.

Hi Brett,
Please do not get too hard on yourself. The good news is that you realize that you have made some mistakes (we all have, I know I have), but when we confess our sins, God can take them away as far as the east is from the west.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
I understand your thoughts about some Christians, and I would encourage you to find a new church in a different area when you can. We need the fellowship of others in our life. I bounced from 7 different churches in the past 2 + years until I found the one I am going to right now since last March. It is still not a perfect church, but I look for the good in the church and not focus on the bad. People are people, and we are all sinners saved by grace, yet some people have not matured enough yet, and it would be in your best interest to focus on those who have a real relationship with Jesus. Here is a link that can help you find a church. https://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/
Here is a link to a site called https://www.biblegateway.com/, which is where you can put keywords of what you want to know, and you can find it in the bible.
 
Here is a website that I think is very good, it is called https://www.gotquestions.org/.
Here is another good site to find what you are looking for relatively quickly. https://needencouragement.com/need-understanding/
Here is a page from my site that can help you with your relationship with God. https://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/
These five links I shared with you should get you started.
God bless you,

Hi Bill,

Thank you for your response. I’ve been slowly transitioning my gmail to my new email, that’s why I’m coming from this address.
I think my need for God is coming from a confused existence and a desire to find my true purpose and drive. Another reason maybe I have come to realize that everything I worked for my whole life was for the wrong reasons.   I was doing everything for sinful desires.
I think the reason I need God is to show me the true meaning of life, to find courage in difficult situations, to be the man I was born to be. I think that the depression, anxiety, stress, pain that I’m feeling now is the consequence of choosing sinful life thus far. I know I need help, but I don’t know where to start. I don’t want to just join any church because I know there are lots of fake Christians in my area that lure people in then brainwash them with their extreme leftist ideals. So for now I’m just reading the bible. I don’t know if you can help me but maybe you know some resources on finding purpose, perseverance through the unknown, discovering God during adulthood? I’m still making a list of specific questions.
Thank you for your time,
-Brett
Hi Brett,
It is wise of you to look for answers, especially after not having any church upbringing. If I were you, I would want to know why you need Jesus in your life. The simple answer would be that we are all sinners (you, me, everyone) and that God is holy and will not have anything to do with sin. 
Romans 3:23for allhavesinned and fall short of the glory of God. Do you think you are a sinner?
That is why he gave his son Jesus to sacrifice his life on the cross for payment of the sins of the world.
Romans 6:23For the wagesofsin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Without Jesus, when you die, how will your sins be forgiven?
If you can understand your need for God, you will be on your way to seeing life differently than you have been seeing it.
Here are a couple of links that will be of help to you since you mentioned depression and anxiety:
I pray that what I have shared with you has been helpful. Please feel free to email me back if you have any questions.
I can help you if you have any specific questions that you would like to be answered.
James 1:5If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
God bless you, and keep being hungry for answers!
Bill Greguska
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Subject: Looking for someone to talk to in the Christian faith for starting my life over
Message Body:
Hi,
I’ve been looking for advice from the Christian Faith about how to change my quarter-life crisis is what I think It is called. Need help/guidance with Career change, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, etc.  Never went to church or had religion growing up but I think there was always something missing. So I know that I want to change my life but I want to find someone to talk to to help me go in the right direction. Thank you.

Hi Demetra,
I would love to be of help to you, yet I would need for you to let me know more about what is going on with you.
If you believe in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you will want to know what it say in which is why you might be having feelings of torment  Matthew 6:15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
If you can share a little bit about what you are experiencing, I will try to help you more if what I have shared already has been of help.
God bless you,

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Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “I need help”

Message Body:
I’m in need of help. I cant forgive and its been tormenting my mind

Hi Scott,
I am glad you reached out for some counsel, feel free to email me back and let me know a little bit about what you are going through that is weighing you down.
God bless you,

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Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “Christian counseling”

Message Body:
Looking for a Christian counselor to help me with what I’ve been diagnosed as bipolar PTSD symptoms and just life in general issues.

Hi BN,
Merry Christmas to you too! Christmas is about Jesus coming to the world to die for our sins! Praise God for that. Otherwise, if we do not accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we would never be able to go to heaven and end up in hell.
When you argue with your sister, have you noticed any improvement in how you speak to her? Or are you just saying what feels good at the time since you are angry? Let’s try to argue less and communicate more respectfully to her, even if she says hurtful things to you. If she is not going to be the mature one, then it is up to you to pick up your game to a higher level this coming new year!
We all get tempted, including me, but falling into temptation is different than being tempted. Whatever you have been falling into temptation about, think of other ways you could avoid these same mistakes over and over? Write them down on paper and put them somewhere to see them often. If you do not have a private place, put some initials on a piece of paper so that nobody else knows what it means, except you and God.
The more you keep falling into temptation, the longer it will take to get your relationship with God right!
Check out these two links and let me know what you learned?
MERRY CHRISTMAS
God bless you!

Hi BN,
It is nice hearing from you. I got home late, but I wanted to respond to your email.
It seems to me that you know what you need to do, and do not need for me to tell you what that is.
Having faith in God is not always a warm fussy feeling a person gets, but rather the deep understanding that God loves us and has a plan for our lives. Maybe the way you are reading your bible is not the best way for you. I would suggest proverbs or the book of John. Keep in mind that you do not have to read it from beginning to end. Sometimes I get more out of reading my bible for even a paragraph or two, just to get something out of it that you can chew on and call your own.
There was a man who was called doubting Thomas because he needed to see the holes in Jesus’ hands in order to believe. If you really have faith in God, you will not need to be like doubting Thomas and have to see a sign.
I know you know what you need to do, so I pray that you just do it!
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Hey! I haven’t been doing so well. I’ve been failing. Haven’t read my Bible, haven’t truly prayed, and haven’t felt that connection between God and Jesus and myself. I have no motivation, I get bored from it. I feel like if I’m going to try, I know I’m going to fail so why try. I keep asking for signs to prove God and Jesus are real but nothing happens really. I’m confused about everything, what are sins and what isn’t. I get annoyed quickly as well. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I do know something is wrong.

Hi BN,

Sometimes in my life, I know what the right answer is to do in certain situations, yet that does not always make it easy to do. My pastor taught me something years ago, “Discipline is doing what you know needs to be done, when it needs to be done, no matter how you feel about it.”
One thing I can suggest to you is to go up to your sister and tell her that you are sorry for your part in your argument (this does not mean you are taking the blame for everything, just your part in the conflict)
Please let me know how that strategy works, and if it works, which it ought to, you have just received a new tool in your box that will help you in future conflicts. Merry Christmas!
Hi Ally,
I am glad you have reached out for help.
Would you please describe what you have tried to do to stop it as of now?
Here are a couple of links that can begin to help you. Keep in mind that it is a spiritual attack against you that can only be fought with the help of God.
I hope what I have shared will start you finding victory over your pornography has been helpful. If you need anything else, please email me back if you have any questions.
Without help from God, you are battling something bigger than yourself.
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Subject: Addiction
Message Body:
I need help with my porn addiction, please.

Hi Dannette,
To answer your question, it may seem too simple, but call them and invite them over to your house, or meet somewhere?
God created us all to be social creatures, so keep in mind that you need to reach out to others.
Do not be afraid or shy. Get on the phone and get together with others!
God bless you and pray about things that are on your heart and mind.
1 Peter 5:7Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Bill Greguska
800-633-3446
Please Try To Encourage Someone Today, You’ll Both Will Feel Better!
Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
 
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Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “kids”

Message Body:
After I was grown, I didn’t really like hanging out with my mom.
Now that my 2 girls are grown and married, they are doing me
the same way. Am I being punished for this? I poured myself
into my kids’ lives, now I’m alone and single and I want to
talk on the phone and go see them occasionally, but they
never ask me over. When I try to arrange to come over, one
daughter is only 40 min away, she says they are always going
somewhere and don’t like to “just sit on the couch”,
I NEVER left my girls alone while growing up, so maybe they
think I sit on the couch now days too. I’m in a small town with
nothing to do. It broke my heart this morning when my daughter
that’s 40 min away says they are going to a friend’s house this
weekend, and that she does have a new hubby now and they
just don’t “sit at home on the couch”. I do not bug them, I do not
call them a lot, I do not try to see them every weekend, so I’m
struggling to know how to handle this. Why doesn’t she want
at least want to spend 30 min with me?
I have a cousin my age and her daughter lives in the same town
and they do everything together and are best friends. I want that
How do I do it?

Hi Kay,
You are very welcome and thank you for helping to let others know about us!
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Subject: YOUR EMAILS
Message Body:
THANK YOU SO MUCH  I APPRECIATE YOUR MINISTRY  YOU ARE HELPING THE PEOPLE GOD BLESS YOU.

Hi Chioma,
Well, the first thing I would have to ask you is, “Have you prayed about it?”
If you have and are still perplexed, ask yourself, what is it that he is not attractive to you? What do you mean when you say, “I’m not attracted to him.”
The term “DATING” is thrown around pretty freely. My understanding of dating has an ultimate purpose: to get married to the other person potentially.
Are there any reasons that you might want to marry him?
Here are a couple of pages from my website that can help you out.
I hope what I have shared with you has been of help. If you have any questions about what I shared, please feel free to email me back.
God bless you,
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Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “Choosing if a relationship is right for me”

Message Body:
Hello. My name is Chioma and I am just looking for advice from a Christian perspective.
I have this friend that I have known for about 7 months. He’s been such a great friend to me, he’s a good Christian and has an amazing character. Now, this friend has liked me for a while but never said anything, I’ve also been praying to God for a good Christian relationship.
Recently, I started considering if this friend of mine could be someone I could be in a relationship with, as he openly declared his feelings for me not too long ago. As I said, he has an amazing character, he’s very kind, reliable, caring, and again, a good Christian who loves Jesus. The problem, however, is that I’m not attracted to him. I’ve tried to see him in an attractive light, but I just can’t get past that hurdle. It’s been hard because I’ve never been in a Christian relationship before. All my other relationships have been worldly and a lot of them have been heavily based on physical attraction, but I’ve had a massive change in my life because of Jesus and I want to do relationships right this time around. I guess what I want to know is if the attraction is important in a Christian relationship? It feels like too shallow a reason to not date someone. As I said, he has a great character but I just am not attracted to him. Is that something I should overlook? This has been troubling me for a while and I’m not sure how to deal with it.
Thank you as you read this and give me your perspective.