Response Letters 5

Letter to the LordBelow are some of the questions people have emailed us about.

I am not a professional counselor, yet I have been a Born-Again Christian since 1986. Our responses are based on Biblical principles found in the Bible and through prayer and links to our website.

  • If you wish to ask a question of your own, please contact us.

 

 

 


 

Hi Ann,

I want to start by asking you if you have prayed specifically about this situation that you are in. First of all, we are all sinners, but the question for you is, have you decided to follow Jesus by faith?

If you answer that question first, your other problems will be easier to deal with.

Matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

You mentioned that he threatened to kill you and has beaten you twice already. You say you can not imagine being married to someone like that.

You are going to have to decide what you are going to do.

Why would I suggest you marry someone like him with what you have said about him?

Why would I suggest you break up with him if he is going to beat you?

I do not understand why you are with him in the first place.

You will do some soul searching and decide for yourself what the best thing for Ann would be. A restraining order is something to consider.

I will pray that God gives you wisdom and the ability to make the right choice in this situation. You have been divorced, and if you get involved with this new guy, it seems like you are asking for trouble. It seems to me, don’t you agree?

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Please pray about it and see where God leads you! I think you will get your answer from God, not anyone else.

 

Bill Greguska

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Subject: Living in sin

Message Body:

I am divorced and got into another relationship. I know it was wrong, but now I am unable to get out. He has threatened to kill me if I leave him, and he has beaten me twice. It has been almost seven years, and he wants to get married, but I can’t imagine being married to someone like that.
Should I marry him so I will not be living in sin or just continue living in sin? I pray and fast, but it is not practical since I don’t know if God listens to sinners. I do not take communion. Please help.

 


 

Hi Anna,

I am glad you reached out instead of carrying this burden alone. My advice to you is to pray about this situation.

I think you know what the right thing to do would be, but you seem to be allowing your weak flesh to torment you. You need to take a strong stance against the guy you had a crush on. You need to stay clear of him, but if anything, you need to make it clear that you are now happily married with a child of his.

Yes, you may be having feelings that are bothering you, but you need to put your intellect and God’s wisdom on top of any emotions that so easily entangle us.

Playing around with this in your mind will eventually lead you somewhere you do not want to go! You may never pursue the other person again physically, but emotionally you are risking having an emotional affair with him, which will directly impact your marriage and family.

This is not good for your marriage, and I am sure your husband feels it even though he might not know what is going on. I know I am saying this very firmly because if you take this lightly, you are bound to be a miserable woman and even jeopardize your marriage.

 

To recap what I just said:

  1. Pray about this situation how God wants you to deal with it.
  2. Cut all ties with this other person immediately (except possibly letting him know you are happily married and want to keep it that way!
  3. If you do not run from this situation, you are very foolish! And will deserve any repercussions that you get, including a weakened marriage and potential divorce.

I am speaking this strongly to you since you asked for my advice. You are blind to what could happen if you allow this childlike sparing with the person you had a crush on. It is over, so do not look back. Otherwise, your future will not be secure.

I pray that you heed my warning. I said these things because if I came to you for advice, I sure would hope you would be bluntly honest with me like I am bluntly honest with you!

I pray that you will be wise to flee from this danger and cling to the one you married, who has given you a child.

If you need to communicate more about this, please feel free to do so. If not, I pray that you take my advice!!! Renounce any thoughts and feelings for the other person. I pray that your marriage has not been too affected by this yet, but if you do not take a stronger stance, you will be like a moth trying to get closer to the fire, and you know what would happen.

You are a married woman with a child, and I am sure you want to stay that way!.

Please do not make a mistake in this matter. I have warned you the best I know-how. I pray that the Holy Spirit enables you to put this behind and move forward with your husband and child.

Hebrews 12:1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.

May God bless you and give you wisdom and strength!

 

Bill Greguska

Here is a link that could benefit you to watch… https://needencouragement.com/better-marriage/


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Subject: Help, I don’t want to feel like this anymore.

Message Body:

Hello, my name is Anna. I’ve been married to my husband for almost three years. We are both saved. We have a daughter. Lately, nearly every day, I’ve been thinking about another man that goes to our church. My husband and I broke up when we were dating, and I was kind of pursuing that guy until my husband said he was ready to commit, so I got back together with him.
Nothing happened between that other guy; I just had a crush on him. It’s been over three years, and I’m married with a child now. How do I stop thinking about a little crush I had. I know that’s not what God wants me to do. I don’t know how to fix this.

 


 

Hi JoAnn,

 

My question to you is, “Have you prayed about your excessive complaining?” That would be the first thing I would suggest for you to do. If you have prayed about this already, then I would go to God’s word in Galatians 5:22-23 But, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.

We all do things we know we ought to stop or start doing. In your case, it sounds like using some extra self-control would do you a great deal of help right about now.

Apostle Paul who the Lord inspired him to write in the Bible, Paul even said in Romans 7:14-25 14 

We know that the law is spiritual, but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is a sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is a sin living in me that does it.

21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ, our Lord!

So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature, a slave to the law of sin.

 

JoAnn, I am sure you have tried to stop complaining, but now, try asking God for His help with this battle that is waging war against you.

 

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

 

I hope these scriptures and my advice will help you in this area of your weakness. I pray that you turn to God for your strength and wisdom and that He will answer your prayers in that way.

 

If you feel the need to contact me back, please feel free to do so!

 

May God bless you and keep you close to Him!

 

Bill Greguska

800-633-3446

 

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Subject: Complaining excessively

Message Body:

I am desperately looking for ways to stop complaining about little things in life.  I never used to be like this.  I’m a young senior and live with my son and his family and want to make them happy, not miserable.  I am also a widow.

 


 

Hi Ab,

 

I will continue to pray for your exam on March 1, 2020. But I must suggest that there are more important things in your life than just your degree. I am not saying that your degree is not essential, but what I am suggesting is that your relationship with God is far more critical and more far-reaching than your degree. (even though your degree has importance)

 

We were all made for a purpose, and I believe if God’s purpose for you to be a doctor, that will happen in His time. I encourage you to do your best and lean on the Lord for your help and strength. Check out this link because I think Rick Warren explains things pretty clearly.

 

https://www.faithgateway.com/you-matter-to-god/#.XkLKFyNMEdU

 

Keep your eyes on Christ, and live your life for him. You will then find the peace and joy that we all are looking for.

 

God bless you, and I pray that you keep on having faith.

 

Bill Greguska




Thank you so much for the encouragement, sir Bill.

It means a lot to me. It was a great feeling knowing that God is using someone like you to encourage people like me. 
I talked to God earlier through prayers, and it refreshed me. He strengthened my weakness, and I feel so relieved more than ever.
Sir, can I ask for a request one more time? I need prayers for my incoming exam this March 1, 2020. 
Thank you so much, and God bless you more in this ministry. 
Ab.
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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Encouragement and knowing God’s purpose.”

Hi Ab,

I am very sorry to hear that you are struggling with your testing to become a doctor. My pastor’s wife, Sue Sauer, told me many times to keep an open palm with people and things in my life. Sometimes God chooses His will over our will. Yes, that can hurt, but I would not give up on your pursuing your doctoral degree. I encourage you to keep trying and pray about it more and study harder. I pray that if God equips you, that he will provide a way to pass your test next time. Have faith. God is in control of all of our lives as we submit to His will for us.
I did some searching on Matthew 21:22, and it can be hard to understand and take literally. This is what I found. I hope it makes sense to you and helps you:

Jesus is speaking TO his apostles for our benefit today in pointing out the power of prayer. 

He has just spoken of sufficient belief in him (the word, Jn. 1:1) to spiritually remove a mountain (maybe alcoholism for me, smoking for you, or vice versa) into the sea.  Jesus never said if you don’t have enough faith to cause a mountain to jump into the sea, your faith is insufficient miraculously.  Today it is a must to know the difference between a miracle and the providence of God.  A miracle being = the working of God contrary to nature.  The providence of God = the working of God through nature.  1 Cor. 13:10 tells us miracles are no longer in effect, so don’t go thinking it possible to say to a mountain, “be ye removed into a sea,” and it happens, just ain’t going to.  Spiritually, “whatsoever ye ask in prayer” is to be considered as whatever you need and ask of God you will receive if it is in your best interest as determined by God.  Remember the “rich young ruler” who asks Jesus, “what shall I do to inherit eternal life?” and Jesus answered him ” “you know what to do”  “don’t commit adultery, don’t kill, don’t steal, etc.”  And the young ruler said all this have I done from my youth, and Jesus said, “one thing thou lackest.”  Jesus knew even as God knows what is best for us.  May cause us to turn away sorrowfully.

I pray that you stay the course and do not give up! Keep in mind to pray and ask God for wisdom.

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Bill Greguska

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Encouragement and knowing God’s purpose

Message Body:

Hi, I failed my NMAT 3 times. It is a test to be taken in the Philippines if you want to pursue becoming a doctor. I asked God for his provisions about this and signs if I will continue. I doubt myself since  I will be retaking it for the fourth time this march 2020. It was my childhood dream, and I really want to become a doctor, but I always failed. I’m scared now because of the expectations of other people. I don’t know what to do, but God keeps reminding me of the verse in Matthew 21:22. 

 

 


 

Good morning Christy,

Let me reassure you that each one of us goes through difficult times in our lives. My two main suggestions for you are to do what it says in 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.

After you have done just that, I then, with great respect and care for you, suggest that you go to the nearest hospital and get a physical check-up. You might be experiencing some depression that if you do not take care of it, you might be feeling the way you do for a more extended period, unfortunately. I can not tell you what you ought to do, but as a brother in Christ, I can strongly suggest getting help from God first, and then from medical attention.


You say that you are hurting and need people to love you.

 

I am saying my suggestions to you because I love you as a sister in Christ, and I feel bad for the pain you are going through. Please trust me to reach out to someone in your community, such as a hospital or clinic, or simply call 911.

Here are a few links I believe will be of help to you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=127&v=nPPMgpcFmyM&feature=emb_logo

https://needencouragement.com/depression/

https://needencouragement.com/deep-sadness/

https://needencouragement.com/depression-or-sadness/

My other suggestion is not to isolate yourself from others. Even going to the store to be around people can be helpful.

Remember that God loves you and has a plan for your life. If you would like to contact me back, please feel free to do so. I am praying that the hurting you are feeling will be resolved for you shortly!

God bless you,

Bill Greguska

 


 

Hi Veronique,



I am glad you contacted us. I would like for you to understand that there needs to be ordered in our lives. God created us, and he knows what we need.

First of all, a woman needs to be loved, and the man needs to be respected. (this is pretty simple and straight forward)

If your boyfriend loves you in a non-marriage type of way (not having sex) and you are respecting your boyfriend, you are on the right track.

But if he is not loving and respecting you, there is a problem. If you are not respecting him, that is a problem too.

Are you both Christian? Do you attend a church? https://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/

Here are two links that will give you more insights into what it means to honor a husband as you requested.

https://www.gotquestions.org/wives-submit.html

https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-honor.html


Ephesians 5:22–24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

 

The scripture above does not mean a man is better, smarter, or more capable than a woman, but God who created us, designated man to lead and provide good orderly direction to the home.

Here are four practical ways women can honor their husbands:

1. Allow him to fail. Here’s a truth that may shock some people, but men are imperfect. They make mistakes. A lot of women damage their marriage relationship by trying to prevent their husbands from making those mistakes. So they correct their husband or tell him what to do. That’s not the wife’s role.

A better approach is to allow him to learn through failure. Let him make a wrong turn. Let him mess up from time to time. Don’t allow him to wallow in self-destructive behavior, but let him be imperfect.

2. Let God be the enforcer. Wives, it’s okay to speak up when your husband does or says something you disagree with. After all, you’re equals. But once you say what you want to say, remember it’s not your job to change him. That’s God’s job. Pray for your husband and rely on God to change his heart and mind.

3. Honor the man you want him to be. Karen did this for me. She treated me better than I deserved, and in doing so, she spoke destiny into me. She made me want to live up to what she saw in me. Men go crazy for honor and will become their fullest, healthiest selves in an atmosphere of respect.

What do you see in your husband? What first attracted you to him? Honor him at that level, and watch him rise to it.

4. Cover his faults and focus on his strengths. The devil wants us to be overly attentive to our spouse’s worst qualities. But God wants us to think about the best qualities in our spouse. I believe, on any given day, the good elements of our lives and relationships outweigh the bad ones.

Women, are you more likely to complain about your husband’s failings or praise him for one of his strengths? Marriage thrives in an atmosphere of praise. It’s a critical discipline to create within your home.

A man’s most crucial need is for honor and respect. Wives, are you honoring him? According to Ephesians 5:33, it’s one of the things God asks you to do for your marriage.

I hope what I have shared has helped you in some way to understand what honoring a husband looks like.

I pray that the two of you not only grow closer to one another but, more importantly, closer to God, the one who created us all.

If you have any more questions, please feel free to contact us again. I hope I answered your question well enough.

https://needencouragement.com/free-christian-counseling/

Bill Greguska




Subject: Relationship

Message Body:

I am having trouble understanding what honor my husband means. I am not married yet, but I have a boyfriend, and he says I don’t honor him. Hee doesn’t feel respected. I want to know spiritually what that means. I have a hard time talking to him because, In my head, I say he I shushing me, or I’m saying I’m not perfect, which I understand is the wrong thing to be thinking about, but I just do. He claims I don’t love him because I can’t follow up with what he asked me to do, which is accurate, and I understand that, but I just want to know spiritually what that means, need Christian counseling.

 

Hi Justin,

I can tell you that I have struggled with depression in high school and going through a divorce. If you were depressed, you would not have to question it. You would know for sure. 

Think of sadness compared to depression. With this analogy, our average body temperature is 98.6 F, so the analogy is that (sadness may be compared to somewhere between 98.7 F to 100.3 F, which would be like missing a bus or getting in trouble at work or school). Fever is listed at 100.4 F and above (which you could compare to depression potentially, such as losing a loved one, divorce, suicidal thoughts). I hope this illustration comparison was helpful to you.



People throw the word depression around way too freely. Depression is mighty to the point of crippling sometimes.


Justin, if you think you still are depressed at the very least, I would suggest seeking medical help right away.

Keep thinking those happy thoughts of gratitude, make sure you get enough sleep, exercise, healthy food, and make sure that you live a pleasing life to God. If you have any unconfessed sin, ask God to forgive you and repent from whatever that maybe? https://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/

Here are a few more pages on my website that might be of help to you:

https://needencouragement.com/deep-sadness/

https://needencouragement.com/depression/

https://needencouragement.com/depression-or-sadness/

If you have any more questions or concerns, feel free to contact me back via email. Or you can also call 800-633-3446

May God bless you and keep you strong and close to Him.


Bill Greguska

 

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Subject: Depression

Message Body:

I feel like I’m depressed. I don’t know what it means to be depressed, and I’m not sad all the time, so I don’t even know if it counts, but I have so many things to be happy about.
I can’t get out of my mind right now, and I’m just sad, and I feel defeated.

 


 

Hi Lynn,


When I was going through counseling with my pastor and his wife, Sue, to save my marriage back in 2004, they helped me very much, and I asked them what I can do to repay them for all their help. They both told me the following scripture. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we receive from God.

I started a phone helpline for a couple of years, then shortly afterward, I started my website NeedEncouragement.com in 2007, and I have been faithfully doing it ever since because God had put it on my heart to do. I tell you this because I would like to encourage you to start something of your own to help others. You have a tender heart, and you also have wisdom.
It can be anything but do something to help others.

Maybe help out at the VA with those who have had PTSD like your friend. Maybe print out some business cards and hand them to people you come in contact with each day. (you can put some encouraging words and perhaps some encouraging websites such as GotQuestions.org or BibleGateWay.com or DivorceCare.org or even my website since you said you liked it.

My point is to pay it forward to others so they too can know Jesus, and in doing so, you will be blessed at the same time. That is how I feel about my website. When I try to encourage others, it is like when you put perfume on someone else, and you can not help but get some on yourself.

Lynn, I am glad I could be of some help to you but remember. I just pointed you to Jesus, and you and He did the rest!

Enjoy your peace of mind! And please spread your faith and joy to others.


God bless you!

Bill Greguska

 

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Subject: Re: “Guidance”

Bill, you have already blessed me greatly with your guidance!  It’s more about doing God’s will than pleasing myself. We are fickle creatures. I know this!  I cannot picture myself living with these issues long term, nor do I believe that I hold the key to helping him overcome them, but perhaps praying for him is the best thing I can do to be of help.  More than anything, I want to represent God positively in this broken world–I did not want to let Him down by walking away.
I am so grateful I found this website and you!  God has undoubtedly anointed you with a gift of wisdom to help others!
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you!

 

Hi Ethan,

 

I apologize for taking so long to get back to you, I looked at your email the other day, but I did not have the time or words to share with you initially. I want to encourage you, yet at the same time, I am sorry I can not relate to your gender dysphoric and homosexuality. I did google some information, but I did not find much that I felt would be of help to you, but I do know since you are a Christian, you have been created in the image of God, and reaching out to God I believe firmly is the best thing you could do.

 

I am glad you have prayed about this. I am sure that you know that in the scriptures, it says in 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

 

My next thought is that even though you have NO desire to play sports, do hard work (in a physical sense). My encouragement to you would be to consider your body needing physical exercise. https://needencouragement.com/need-exercise/; I am not saying to join a gym or work out for hours upon hours, but I am saying that you need some exercise. I would start slow with walking and increase things in a week or so.

 

My next thought is your diet. Are you eating healthy or not really.

 

Your body needs fuel, and possibly the way you are not working out and most likely, not eating real good impacts your health and potentially hormonal deficiency if I may call it that.

 

I can understand you contacting me instead of sharing this at your church, but I think you would benefit from finding someone you can trust and who would be willing to walk you through this issue of yours.

 

I hope I have made some sense to you. I am not casting stones at you; I hope you can tell, but remember that we are all sinful creatures in some way, shape, or form, but God has given us all free will to change or stay the same. It seems to me, Ethan, the high road for you would be to seek God’s will, which I believe you already know, and ask God for wisdom, strength to be the man he created you to be. James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

 

I pray that something I shared can get you on the track you want to be and that you will continue to live out your Christain faith despite this obstacle.

Bill Greguska

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Subject:
Message Body:
Hello. So, for my whole life, I have been raised Christian, and recently was baptized.  However, I have a couple of problems that I used to suppress, but recently are starting to inhibit my ability to enjoy life. I am a male high school student, and I am a gender dysphoric and a homosexual.
I have never really felt attracted to girls as far as I can remember, and recently have been plagued by an onslaught of my male peers’ attraction and thoughts. I have never acted on these feelings, nor do I plan to. Yet, even with prayer and contemplation, these feelings and lusts are not going away. So my question is a bit theological. In the Bible, it is stated multiple times that men are not to “lie with a man as they would a woman.” Is it sleeping with sinful men, or does it have homosexual attraction? So, should I accept who I appear to be (homosexual) and just live my life in purity, or should I try to fix myself? Conversion therapy is illegal in Oregon, where I live, so that is not an option. If I do need to improve myself, what should I do?

Secondly, I have always been more like my mom than my father for as long as I can remember.

While I am substantial standing in the fact that I was born male, am male, and will forever be male, I am much more feminine than masculine. I have NO desire to play sports, do hard work (in a physical sense), or be dominant in anything. But recently (shortly after these homoerotic tendencies surfaced), I have become very dissatisfied with being male.
I want to dress more effeminately. I want to wear makeup. I want to be able to be interested in fashion, pop music, and wear heels. I have started to wish that I was born a girl. Don’t get me wrong; I am NOT going to become a transgender person. But are these thoughts mere daydreaming, or are they detrimental? And how do I get rid of them?
I know that was a lot. But I am out of ideas and had no idea where else to turn.
Thank you for your thought,
Ethan

 


 

Hi Nicholas,



I am glad you decided to reach out. It is good to get other people’s point of view, especially since you have already been praying about your situation.

One thought that came to me is whether you have reached out to others in your church or your pastor? I would suggest that you do that if you did not already.

My advice to you would be to keep your friend Riley in an open palm (that means with faith that God can give or take away anything or anyone He chooses).

Sure, if you love her, let her know (which you already have), then be a gentleman and respect her wishes.

If God wants her in your life, it will happen, but if He does not, it will not end up good even if you force the situation. I think telling her again would not hurt, but if she says no, respectfully ask her to explain why?

I hope what I shared with you helps and keeps up the excellent work turning away from alcoholism and your cigarette addiction. I quit drugs and alcohol in 1986 and cigarettes in 1988. God has a plan for your life. Seek to find out what it is.

Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.


Bill Greguska


—–Original Message—–

Subject: Relationships

Message Body:

I have a close friend today. She led me to Christ through her actions and helped me turn away from alcoholism and my cigarette addiction.
I think I fell in love with this young woman three years ago. Riley and I both met in high school and attended the same church. She doesn’t feel the same way. She is slowly drifting away because of college. I feel like we are naturally falling apart. She knows that I love her, so that isn’t the issue. I just don’t know what to do. I have prayed for many years for her.

 

 


 

Hi Tara,

I am glad that you have reached out for help. You mentioned meeting with someone periodically, and the first thing I thought of is that you do have someone like that already by the name of Jesus. I encourage you to keep praying for your marriage and get help from a counselor to so call “referee to hear both sides of the situation.”

https://needencouragement.com/free-christian-counseling

Not to defend your husband, who I am sure is a good man, but I would guess that he is under a lot of stress and does not even realize that he is doing what he is doing. Think of it this way, Tara, if your house were on fire, it would not matter who tried to get it under control or who is the one who called the fire department, right? Like in your marriage, it does not matter who attempts to get things under control, so I say you are doing the right thing. Keep taking your hurts and feelings to the Lord, and ask the Lord for wisdom.

 

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.



Your husband might or might not be willing to get counseling, so I would suggest that you talk to him and tell him just what you told me. I am sure if he is any kind of Christian man who loves and fears the Lord, he hopefully will pick up on your frustration and hopefully try to help solve this problem between the two of you.

https://needencouragement.com/better-marriage

If he is unwilling, then I strongly suggest that you go to counseling alone yourself. In the meantime, try to be the best wife you can be to him. It might be difficult in your efforts but ask God to give you wisdom, strength, and patients.

I am glad that you have spoken up. Now you need to take some action:

  1. Pray for your husband.
  2. Pray for yourself.
  3. Pray for your marriage.
  4. Pray that your husband would be willing to talk with a Christian counselor.
  5. Pray for the right counselor to help you guys.
  6. Get a counselor yourself.
  7. Call 800-633-3446 to talk to a Christian counselor on the phone.
  8. Do something enjoyable with your husband.
  9. Make a nice romantic dinner for the two of you.
  10. Attempt to strike up the romance in your marriage.
  11. Do something nice or buy him a nice little gift for no reason except that you love him.
  12. Instead of defending yourself when he blames you, ask him what he would have hoped you would do instead for next time?


Tara, I hope my suggestions help your marriage. Feel free to email me back if you have any questions or just need to vent.

 

I have done that with someone trying to help me in the past, and it sure does help. Listening to your concerns might help you, BUT first, take your worries to God. Keep praying and keep trusting God!

You and your husband are in my prayers!

Bill Greguska ><>


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Subject: Relationships

Message Body:

I am a pastor’s wife who has been hurt over relationships. I hold onto anger and my husband, who is also my pastor, is not the best listener as I often blame him for things. Our relationship has grown distant because of the walls that I have built and his lack of hearing me out. I would love someone to meet with periodically to open up instead of bottling it all up and festering resentment. I should have someone to talk to as well.

 


 

Hi Matt,


I am glad you decided to reach out by emailing us. My first thought is to ask you if you have prayed about the situation you have been in? That would be the first thing I would suggest that you do. https://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/

You mentioned having a drinking problem since you were six years old. What kind of help did you get in the past that was beneficial to you? https://needencouragement.com/my-drug-and-alcohol-problem/

You also mentioned that you are a Christian too. Are you going to church regularly? Are you involved with any fellowship or Bible study? These are ways of helping yourself.

Bottom line Matt, God has the answers for you, but you need to realize that you need to reach out for help. Do you have a close friend you can confide in, or possibly your pastor or someone from your church?



Matt, keep striving to do better and become closer to God,

He will show you the way you need to follow. On your own, you will not have the power to straighten your life but put your trust in God, and you will understand the power of prayer that I am talking about.


Galatians 5:22-24 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.


Against such things, there is no law.
Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.


Bill Greguska


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Subject: I just need help
Message Body:
I have had a drinking problem since I was 6. Usually, I’m quite agreeable when I drink. Still, as of October 25th, 2019, I physically attacked my brother. During the incident, I accidentally harmed my Mother normally. This is a hazard, but I am 5″11 and 222pounds. I could have severely harmed them, FYI she forgave enough to drop the charges, not that that changes the fact of what I did.
I am too proud to seek counseling, but I hoped to get insight from a fellow Christian. Please note I am fully expecting that whoever gets back to me will not be a medical professional, and I will not quote it as such I’m just hoping for a little guidance from my community I have let down.

 


 

Hi Rizwan,



It sounds to me as if you are on the right track, and your request about how I can help you, I would have to say that you need to find a church to attend.

https://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/

It would be great to start to pray to Jesus each day. https://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/

And with that getting a partner who is a Christian to help you walk through your new faith. You can find someone at your new church that I am sure would be willing to help you.

You said, “Jesus love me without any demand,” although He wants us to do His will, and to do this, you need to understand what His will is. The Bible will show you these things. You might want to start in the book of John and then Proverbs.

I pray that you will find the answers that you are looking for and that you keep your eyes on Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Check out https://needencouragement.com/got-questions/. I am sure you can find more answers there. But make sure you connect with a Christian at your new church with the link I gave you above.

God bless you!

Bill Greguska


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Subject: Hi there!
Message Body:
I’m Muslim, but I want to be Christian because I have known Christian is a true religion, and Jesus loves me without any demand, so how can you help me?
I’m 21 years old, and I’m intermediate, but I want to study, but no one helps me, that is why I searched on Google and found your website.

 

 


 

Hi Emmanuel,

I am glad that you have reached out for help. I am a recovered drug addict and alcoholic myself. I struggled probably similarly as you are struggling, and I, too, was open to helping. I got help, and the last time I used it, thank God, was when I was in treatment back on June 25th, 1986. I can remember clearly how much of a love-hate relationship I had with both drugs and alcohol.

I am saying all this to let you know that there is help, and it sounds like you are seriously seeking after it. You will need to quit because you will continue to struggle if you are going in with a half-hearted effort. You have to hate the drugs and alcohol and what it has done to you. That attitude and God’s help will see you through! That is my prayer for you.

I would suggest getting an accountability partner to help keep you on the straight and narrow. Do you have a church pastor you could go to for help? If not, it would be good to find a church for support and fellowship. Also, keep in mind that AA (Alcoholics Anonymous)  or NA  (Narcotics Anonymous) is helpful; I went to them for ten years when I first cleaned up. I remember that making it for 30 days was a significant accomplishment.

 

Whatever it takes to motivate you, Emmanuel, here are a few suggestions to consider strongly:

  1. Start praying to God for His help.
  2. Start to get away from places and people you are used with.
  3. Start to exercise, maybe start by taking some walks and use that time to pray.
  4. Start to take better care of your health, eat healthy, sleep 7-8 hours a night.
  5. Start to think about what your triggers are that make you want to drink or use drugs.
  6. Start to get honest with yourself and with God, for He loves you and has a plan for your life that you can not see yet until you stop abusing your body and mind.

If you have any questions, you can email me, and I will be happy to help you if I can.

In the meantime, I pray that you consider my suggestions and, most importantly, start praying regularly to God for help. Emmanuel, I quit using, and I never thought I could, but God is good and wants the best for us all. Check out these two pages plus whatever other pages on my site that you think might be of help.

https://needencouragement.com/my-drug-and-alcohol-problem/

https://needencouragement.com/testimony-of-bill-greguska/

You can also call 800-633-3446 if you want to talk with a person.

Bill Greguska


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Subject: Need help with addiction
Message Body:
Hello, I’m seeking help and struggling with addiction. Substance abuse and addiction to the flesh. I have been smoking Marijuana on and off for the past 5-6 years. Recently I’ve tried cocaine. I know I’ve crossed a line, and I see myself headed now a terrible path. I’m seeking help, guidance, anything.
I do believe in God, and I do have a relationship with him. I’m struggling to keep my faith. I’m not able to form a connection to him like I once had. I need to get ahold of my addiction. Email me any details you may have. Or contact me via phone.

 


 

Hi Rachel,

It was very nice that you reached out to your friend. If you and your friend are Christian, my first suggestion would be to pray and ask for God’s wisdom in knowing what to do. James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Rachel, I did a little research and found these four websites that might help you help your friend.


https://cerebralpalsygroup.com/resources/

https://www.cerebralpalsyguide.com/community/

https://www.cerebralpalsyguidance.com/cerebral-palsy/financial-assistance/

https://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2013/11/06/20-cerebral-palsy-resources-you-should-know-about/


I pray that these resources will be of help to your friend. You also mentioned that your friend is struggling with depression; this is a helpful link. https://needencouragement.com/depression/


Bill Greguska

800-633-3446

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Subject: Can you assist someone struggling with depression and is in a difficult family situation?

Message Body:

Hi! I’m writing on behalf of a friend who lives in another state from me. She has no one to help her, and she’s depressed, self-harming, and in a difficult family situation. She has CP, and she’s living at home with her parents. Her parents are not getting her the help she needs for her depression, and she has no friends or church people to turn to. Would you be able to assist her in helping her get the help she needs? Thank you ever so much!
Rachel

 


 

Hi Adrian,

I am not familiar with the political and governmental information you are seeking. Still, I can suggest to you, since you are now Christian, that you will benefit significantly by taking this to the Lord in prayer.

Besides that, I am sorry, but I do not know what advice I can give you. Have you talked to other people who you became a Christian? Maybe they have some information that could be of help to you.

James 1:5  If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Adrian, I will pray that God’s word somehow reveals to you what you need. Keep praying.

God bless you,

Bill Greguska

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Need Help

Message Body:

My name is Adrian, and I am from Afghanistan. A few months ago, I converted to Christianity, but unfortunately, my people have been subjecting me to sectarianism, and they are repeatedly threatening to kill me. According to Afghanistan’s basic constitution, I can not even go to the government because, which leaves Islam, its punishment is death. I would be very grateful if you can help us or give me some advice.

 


 

Hi Dennis,


It is excellent to hear back from you and to hear somewhat of a favorable report!  While I was reading your email, what came to my mind is that you need to balance what your parents say, with what the Bible says, with what you know is right. Often young people make choices against what their parents say out of rebellion or against what the Bibles says. Just keep calm and keep on doing the next right thing. You seem to want to do what is right, and in doing so, right now, your parents are not on the same page.

BUT, as me being a parent myself, my daughter did some things that I was very opposed to, and yes, I did set my boundaries, and there was a standoff for a while until the Lord spoke to my heart and the Lord’s love and wisdom melted away my cold and judgmental heart. I think that given some time, Dennis, your parents will see things the way the Lord wants them to do. It might take a while, but it seems to me you are on the right track and the correct train, even though the travel is not smooth right now.

Bottom line, keep doing what God tells you to do but be open to wisdom from your parents. It is your life; do not do anything out of anger or rebellion, and love your parents for where they are in their walk with the Lord right now, and pray they see the light as I did.

Thanks for keeping me up to date, and I pray that all things will work out for your good and the good of your girlfriend, baby, yourself, and parents. Have confidence in the Lord, for He is the one who is going to show you the way!

God Bless You!


Bill Greguska

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Dating”

Hi Bill,

Thank you for your admiration. I give God all the glory.
I’m getting back to you after a few days of deliberately trying to solve these issues. With a heart of gratitude, there has been some success of which I’d like to share.
Concerning your questions, my dad is a branch pastor serving under a senior pastor’s umbrella with branches worldwide – (God’s Church).
My parents are unconcerned about the baby as they disapprove of the mother, so it encompasses the child – which breaks my heart so much! I love this child; nevertheless, I believe God – Acts 27:25. There was a dream my Dad had lately, and it concerns me. And He has been latch onto the dream revealing its correlation with the girl and fear of being taken away from them forever.

In summary, the dream was about my dad guiding me on a path. On the way, we saw a woman in the stream, then she disappeared, but our plan to return was to no avail. Instead, there was also an obstacle in front.

Dad tried to negotiate a way out for us with the obstacle, but I was captured upon turn around. – That’s a big scary dream! I’ve been begging for Gods’ mercy and wisdom to show me what I need to do on this matter as this is serious. Likewise, I want the job to support my family, as well. But my parents dread that I will probably go back to her with marriage and or forget about them. I’ve made a mistake once, and it will be foolishness to eat the same vomit – Proverbs 26:11.
Furthermore, my girlfriend and I came to terms to settle ourselves with the child in mind as she’s growing. Nevertheless, she doesn’t know my parents’ decision yet, and it would be rather foolish to let her know at this moment. I intend to tell her later, face to face rather than over the phone. At this moment, I want to do the right thing in God’s sight and not to disappoint Him again. But with this matter, he opted to seek counsel from others and set conditions that determine my return.
I know the Lord’s hand is in this, and I know within me, I’m scared. This state of confusion turns to desperation. All I seek is God’s help.
Thank you for taking the time to read and encourage me.
God bless you,
Dennis.

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Dating”

Hi Dennis,

I have faith, and I believe that you will do the right thing even though your options are not that great. I admire your morals and ethics. My hat is off to you, young man! 

I must ask you, when you say your dad’s church, do you mean his denominational church (small letter) or God’s Church Jesus Christ (Big Letters)?

What is your dad’s solution concerning the baby? I do not promote divorce. Even though you are not married, it is like a marriage. It would be best if you talked calmly with your girlfriend and brings stability to the conversation. There is a chance that she will not cooperate, but do not give up trying.


It would be best if you prepare yourself right now.

To realize that you are in a storm and do not know how long this storm will last. I say that to prepare you, not to scare you. Keep calm, and keep praying. In the meantime, take care of your health, eat properly, sleep properly, avoid drinking or drugs, get some exercise, and keep praying for God’s mercy and His wisdom. Remember, you have a life to live, do not let this overwhelm you.

I do firmly believe that God knows your heart and the condition of your situation. Do not do anything foolish or react in a knee jerk response to your girlfriend or your parents. This might be one of the most significant tests that you will go through in your life. Make sure that you include Jesus every step of the way. He does not promise us a comfortable journey, but He does guarantee a safe landing!

Fly straight and do what the Lord wants you to do, and you will have no regrets! God has given you wisdom, although you need to ask for more concerning this situation you are in presently. I trust that this will all work out for good somehow.


Bill Greguska


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.


—–Original Message—–

Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Dating”

Hi Bill,

Once again, thank you for your swift reply; this, indeed, has lifted me.
Nevertheless, I understand her concern by expressing letting our daughter grow up without a father. I love this child so much, but now, my parents are not in support as it’s somewhat against our tradition. Since the child isn’t registered under me but her mother. I tried to get her to open up with me, but I discovered she rather not but defend herself. I’m trying to show her to be honest with me as I want the child’s best. 

My parents are bent on me, not going into marriage with her based on her spiritual life, and our goal is to raise a child in fear of God to bring glory to His name. I tried talking to them about an opportunity for her to change but to no avail. 

My father’s pain is I disappointed God and himself by having a girlfriend all these years with a child now and considering all the money spent on me.
Also, about backsliding from God. He called me a prodigal son! It hurts. My parents want to do what’s right, and their pressure made me act and say harshly to her, and I feel bad about this. I understand the decision is on me, but my father wants me to assure him that I won’t have anything to do with her when I get back from my job in Asia.
Honestly, it’s hard. Ideally, staying with your girlfriend and child would be the number one choice and trusting that God will see you through things. – This is precisely what I want to do, but I’m in a dilemma between my parents (dad saving his face from church) and my life since she’s not a firm believer. 
I shall take your advice and keep praying for God to intervene and wisdom to act accordingly. I want to do the right thing that pleases God.
Thank you for your kind words.
Sincerely,
Dennis.

 

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Dating”

Hi Dennis,

I am very sorry to hear about your situation, and it is not the end of the world, though. I am not sure if I have an exact solution for you that you want to hear, but I know for sure that you need to keep praying about this!

You have gotten yourself into something severe, which affects not only you but also your girlfriend and baby. My gut response would be to suggest that you take the high road instead of the road of avoidance or convenience, which is not going away by wishing it away. You will have a son or daughter that needs a father, you can not make your girlfriend say or do anything, but you can control what you say and do to glorify God with your words and deeds.

After praying more about this and considering your dad’s pastoral counseling, I would suggest that you:

  1. Make a plan to sit down and peacefully, rationally, and lovingly try to assure her that you want the best for her and the baby (if that is how you plan to handle this, which I hope is the case).
  2. Since you have known her for seven years, I hope your relationship is relatively healthy and can endure some waves because the waves will come.
  3. Keep in mind that there will be costs with having a baby that lasts at least 18+ years. (my daughter is 35, and I still help her out financially a bit)
  4. Find out what is in her heart and mind about what she is planning to do. Women tend to hold on to things longer than men, so be prepared not to hear the end of this for quite a while, possibly.
  5. Look at like there is going to be damage done, but your job is damage control. I believe if you stay the high road and do what is right in God’s eyes, the cost might not be as severe, but if you turn your back on God, you would be out of the umbrella of His protection, and life could get challenging and complicated.

On a personal note, I went through something like you are going through back in 1982 when my daughter’s mom got pregnant.

But in my case, she broke up with me, and I only saw my daughter once when she was less than a year old until she turned 12 and insisted on meeting me. That was music to my ears, and from age 12 to age 35, she has been in my life and calls me daddy, and we see each other and talk all the time. (but all those years, I know that I had a daughter, and when people asked me if I had any kids, I always had to lie because of embarrassment and shame). I thank God that He has replenished the fields that the locust has eaten.

I share this with you to give you a perspective. Ideally, staying with your girlfriend and child would be the number one choice and trusting that God will see you through things. You will have to decide yourself (let your girlfriend tell you what she wants to do. If you can agree upon it and it is godly, then go for it, but if it is not godly, then wisely fight for what you know what the right thing to do would be.

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Dennis, I am praying that God will give you the wisdom to know exactly what to do and the strength to do it!

Bill Greguska


—–Original Message—–

Subject: Dating

Message Body:

Hi,
Thank you for taking the time to read my queries. I have a girl I’ve known since 2012, from university days till today. We meet doing my travel abroad study in Asia. Now we have been going on, but along it all, we had a child a year ago out of wedlock, and it was a struggle to tell my parents, especially my dad, as he’s a pastor. I felt ashamed, sad, a disappointment to God and family. But I told my dad eventually in April 2019.
The backstory about this lady, she is a smart young lady and on the dean’s list every year. She has stubborn, unforgiving, and ungrateful behavior. During school days, I thought of leaving her by befriending another lady to help change my mind and maybe end the relationship, but it did work out. She found out about some of my lady friends and some I low Ed up, and she’s bitter till today. Her behavior has cost me friends, warnings about continuing with her, but I refused because I know she can change. Till lately, she got pregnant, and I had to focus on that.

Early this year, she found out about my past lady friends, and she has never been forgiven, although there was an affirmation that she did meet some guys during the relationship but denied.

Because of this child, I had to come clean to God, herself, and my family. Confessed and opened me entirely, which is amicably a dumb move. Nevertheless, this child is innocent, and I fought to keep the relationship knowing inside that she has a problem, but she’s stubborn to admit. I lost my job in early February 2019, and it hasn’t been easy. But God remained merciful to me. We tried to get marriages legally, but all to no avail.

The frustration here and there until I decided to go home was hard for me to remain in her country.

She is bitter about my past despite opening up out of goodwill to move to marriage for the innocent child (knowing fully well within me her personality but believe she can change). Still, she refused to let go of the mistakes. She randomly gets angry, bitter, says she doesn’t love me, and all she sees in me is a different person – liar, cheat, and user. This affects the peace in me. God blessed me with a job in the nick of time before my travel back home.
By God’s grace, I visited my hometown in Aug 2019 to be with family and discuss this issue. My dad is a lawyer and pastor, has his input, and wants to do things according to the Bible. He has his follies with this girl the same as my mum. Since this is a cross-cultural relationship, we both need to come to a mutual understanding, but she’s admitted about changing. Nevertheless, as I’m preparing to go for my job offer in the same country. My parent’s fears I’ll get back with her and jeopardize my life. Marriage is a serious business.

Yesterday I got fed up, and I told her to come clean, open up, and try and see to the points. I’m trying to help her change to be more convincing to my parents, but she’s rather stubborn.

It’s 1:23 am now as I write this and she’s been buzzing and begging to reconsider the child’s cons, and she promises to change, but I know her. This act is to secure the marriage, and it can worsen during a marriage – that’s my parents and my fear.
I’m 29, and she’s 27, but my father is scared of my going back for the job and meeting with her again. He said I’d instead not go, but this is my career in line as well. I don’t know what to do. I’m confused. What advice can you give me?
God bless you.

 


 

Hi Mercy,

I am glad you reached out for some help. It is hard to give you accurate advice because you have only shared a small snapshot of what is going on.
  1. Have you prayed about this together with your husband? 
  2. What is the reason he gives for not wanting to move?
  3. How long of a ride is it?

These kinds of questions you will need to talk about. Since you asked for spiritual advice, and God’s Word says in Chapter 5 of Ephesians in verse 21, you need to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. And your husband is the head of the family. So just with that, you might want to come to him and share your thoughts and feelings about this school change possibility? Your husband’s charge is to love you like Christ loved the church by giving Himself up for her on the cross. 

Please read this over a couple of times, and then decide what you and your household will do?

For me and my house, we shall serve the Lord. Whatever tactic you have been using is not working. Try a new approach by praying first and then going to your husband again with love and respect (not with the intent to win the debate) but to get an understanding of his resistance. It could be financial. It could be something else. That is why the two of you need to make a date alone uninterrupted to lovingly and prayerfully work this out. Read all the verses but focus a little more on Ephesians 5:21

Ephesians 5:21-29Instructions for Christian Households

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Focus on this scripture)22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

If your husband refuses to talk about it, then you need to consider getting your pastor or a mutual friend you both respect to getting involved. But I am sure if you go to your husband in a respectful, loving way, the two of you can reason together. I will be praying for the two of you to agree. No matter what you guys decide, do not forget to include God in your decision! I hope what I have shared will be of help to you both!
Proverbs 3:5-65 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Bill Greguska

800-633-3446
—–Original Message—–
Subject: Decision
Message Body:
I need spiritual advice for school change. Since a long journey to school is affecting the child’s health.  So I suggested shifting closer to his school, but my husband not supportive of the decision, somewhat not supportive of any of the decisions.

 

 


 

Good Morning Sara,

I thank you for trying to resolve your issue of homosexuality. I hope and pray that what I share with you will make things more clear for you.

It is a good thing that you are questioning your concern about homosexuality. That is wonderful that you love Jesus and that it sounds like you want to live your life to please Him. God’s Word makes it clear that all sin is an offense to God. Sin can take many different forms, from lying, cheating, stealing, anger, etc.

Here is a youtube video that can shed some light on your question.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=9&v=aQcZjjDr47k

Sara, below are a couple of scriptures that can shed some light on your situation and help to redirect your thinking based on the truth from God’s word. I do not judge you, but God’s word makes it very clear God’s will, as you read below.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, ten or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. 11 Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Romans 1:26-27 That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. 27 And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved.

Here is a page from my website that might give you more insight and encouragement. Since you said that you love the Lord, we need to obey Him and begin to do His will in our lives. Before you did not understand, I hope now that you know that it impacts your life to do what is right and Godly.

Bill Greguska

 

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Subject: Homosexuality

Message Body:

I’m a lesbian, and I struggled with my sexuality for quite some time. I think it is ok to be gay and love Jesus, but I’m just not sure. I have been in love with my straight friend for years and fantasize about her a lot. Should I ask the Lord for forgiveness, or is it ok to be gay?

 


 

Hi Christy,

 

I am sorry to hear about your situation. The first thing I would suggest for you to do is to pray to God about this temporary situation. I pray that you will experience God watching over you and that you will rejoice with happiness as you see Him working in your life. I pray for your physical protection that the Lord will provide for you like a shield, and I pray for your health and emotional well being, and I pray that you keep your eyes on the Lord for your guidance and direction.

 

The next thing that I would suggest you do is to contact 211 Impact at 414-773-0211

If you live in Milwaukee, here are a few more phone numbers that can help you.

  • City on a Hill 2224 West Kilbourn 414-931-6670
  • Healing Center 611 West National 414-671-4325
  • Marquette Women & Children Clinic 414-755-6970
  • Recovery Health Services 210 W. Capital  414-727-6320
  • Repair of the Breach Clinic  1335 West Vliet 414- 934-9035 
  • St. Ben’s Clinic 1027 North 9th 414- 765-0606

Milwaukee Emergency Shelters

  • Guest House 1216 North 13th   414-345-3240
  • Hope House (family)   414-645-2122
  • Joy House   414-344-3774
  • Milwaukee Rescue Mission 1820 West Wells   414-935-0200
  • Repair of the Breach 1335 West Vliet  414-934-9305
  • 211 Help Center 414-773-0211
  • Sojourner Truth House (battered women)   414-933-2722
  • UMCS Transitional Living   414-344-1818
  • Vets Place Central  (homeless vets) 3330 West Wells  (Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays, Fridays 7:00 am-10:00 am) 414-342-5000

 Milwaukee Meal Program

  • The Gathering 833 W. Wisconsin  414-272-4122 
  • Gesu Parish 1210 West Michigan 414-288-7101
  • Milwaukee Rescue Mission (Adult men only) Breakfast 6:00 am Lunch 11:00 am Supper 4:00 pm 1820 West Wells  414-935-0200 
  • Central City Churches 3022 West Wisconsin  (lunch 11:30) 414-342-1522
  • St. John the Evangelist 812 North Jackson Street (11:15 am -1:00 pm) 414-276-9814
  • St. Ben’s 924 West Wells  414-271-0135

 

To talk with a trained Christain counselor, call 800-633-3446

 

Christy, you also mentioned wanting a job. Check out this link. https://needencouragement.com/need-employment/.

 

For more information, if you are in a different city, check out:

 

https://needencouragement.com/phone-helplines

 

May God bless you and keep you close to Him.

 

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

 

Bill Greguska

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Subject: I AM HOMELESS AND HURTING BAD
Message Body:
I HEARD THAT I WOULD NEVER OWN A HOME AND I AM VERY AFRAID OF THE STREETS, AND I NEED PEOPLE TO UPLIFT ME, AND I LOVE YOUR ENCOURAGEMENT AND ADVICE AND PRAY FOR ME NOT TO LIVE ALL ALONE ON THE STREETS AND PRAY FOR ME NOT TO LIVE OUTSIDE ON THE STREETS, AND I NEED HOUSING AND PEOPLE TO TALK TOO AND A JOB THANKS

 


 

Hi Katie,

 

I am glad you reached out. I will try to encourage you the best I can.

 

My first question since you said you are a Christian, have you been praying about this situation?

 

Second of all, God is not the author of confusion, but rather satan is the one who has been having you struggle the past six months about your sexuality.

 

Here is a page that I think might be of help to you. https://needencouragement.com/homosexuality

 

Have you shared this with anyone, such as your best friend, parents, pastor, before? Getting this in the open will be to your advantage, but make sure who you share with is trustworthy. 

 

What types of things do you allow your eyes and ears to see and hear? Maybe that could be what is triggering your unhealthy sexual thoughts. Keep in mind that by praying about this and avoiding those types of situations, you will be able to clear your mind and get right with God again.

 

Until your prayers start to be answered, remember that temptation is not a sin. It is what we do with our temptations that are sinful or not. 

 

I pray right now that the Lord will answer your cry for help and give you the strength to overcome this temptation.

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

 

Katie, you need to find your way out of this strange temptation. Ask God for help so you can be free once in all.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

I hope what I suggested and pointed you towards will be of help to you. I would love to hear when you conquered this problem you are having. Keep me informed, okay?
May God bless you and keep you close to Him!

Bill Greguska

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Subject: Sexual orientation
Message Body:
For about six months, I’ve struggled with my sexuality. I’m female and like men but have been looking at women the same way I should be looking and feeling about men. It’s been having an increasing impact on my already poor mental health. I was wondering why God gave me this thing to battle with. I can’t cope with it. It’s a constant feeling of guilt and shame. And always thinking my life would be so much easier if I weren’t a Christian, and I can’t help but think that I need to be cured.

 


 

 

Hi Nic,

 

Speaking as one who has gone through a divorce back in 2007, I strongly suggest that you focus your energy on keeping your marriage alive. My marriage was complicated like yours, I imagine, but I choose to pursue keeping my wife and me and my stepson and me all together. She moved out for two years, and during that time, I refused to divorce her because God hates divorce. I tried and tried to keep the marriage going, and because of my trying and trusting God, He has given me a clear conscience even though my wife still ended up divorcing me, but at least I tried. I urge you to do whatever you can do to make things better between the two of you.

 

Have you prayed about this thought of yours to God? He is the one who has brought the two of you together, and it is Satan who is trying to pull you apart.

 

Are you and your wife going through marriage counseling? If not, that is what I suggest you do. Divorce is not a pretty thing, and it leaves scars that last a lifetime. It has been 12 years for me since my wife divorced me so she could find herself. I do not wish for anyone to get divorced. God has forgiven you for many of your sins, and you need to forgive your wife for what she has done or not done. Matthew 6:15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

 

I will be praying with you that you get the thought of considering divorce out of your mind and fill your mind with ideas of how you as a man can step back and do what you need to do to keep your marriage alive! https://needencouragement.com/prevent-divorce.

  1. Pray
  2. Forgive
  3. Get Christian marriage counseling.
  4. And keep praying with me that you can take the high road and get the thought of divorce out of your mind.

If you would like to email me back, please feel free to do so.

 

May God bless you and strengthen you!

Bill Greguska

 

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Subject: marriage
Message Body:
considering divorce

 

 

 


 

 

Hi Randal,

 

I am glad you have reached out. It sounds like you are going through a lot with CPS and the police. I would suggest considering what it says in 1 Peter 5:7, which says, Cast all your anxiety on Him for He cares for you.

 

You can do one of two things, contact me back and let me know what you are concerned about, and email me. Otherwise, if you would like to talk to someone on the phone, you can call 800-633-3446, and you will be able to speak to someone live. (if they are busy and do not answer the first time, you can try again later. They are a non-profit Christian group).

 

In the meantime, trust in the Lord that He has your situation under control, even though I am sure it is not a great place to be right now. Keep in mind that you are just in a season in life that this, too, shall pass. Be strong, and have faith! James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

 

May God bless you and guide your steps!

Bill Greguska

 

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Subject: needing support
Message Body:
Needing someone to talk to about what is going on with my family and the issues I’m going through with CPS and the police!

 


 

Hi Rhodesia,

 

You are very welcome! I hope that something I have pointed out to you will be of help to you.

 

Take all your problems to God in prayer, and let Him sort them out for you, all you need to do is follow His direction, and in time all things will work out for the good of those who love the Lord!

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding, in all your ways, submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

 

Bill Greguska

 

P.S. I know God has a plan for each of our lives. Your job is to find out what that plan is.

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Break up”

Thank you !!!




 

Hi Boon Min,

 

I am glad you felt like contacting me back. I am sorry to hear that life is kind of a storm right now for you. It will get better. Below are some comments and questions that I wrote inside your email to consider in red. I hope what I have written will be of some help to you!

Bill Greguska

 

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Healing from a chronic bladder infection..”

Thank you for replying and even doing research for me. You are very welcome!
I have been reading extensively and working with a specialist, but this condition, chronic cystitis, is a mystery to many urologists even now. I trust that your urologist has asked you about your diet, caffeine intake, exercise, and stress level. 
Going online has just shown me how much hopelessness there is on this, and all the fellow sufferers have suffered in all aspects of their lives. They are still trying to find solutions.

I am grappling, and various aspects of my life are suffering too.

I am just too exhausted. The urologist did some procedures on me, and they made things worse. What type of exercises are you doing? Bare minimum walking can be of help to you. NeedEncouragement.com/need-excercise
As this has gone on for about eight months, I feel drained and have begun to feel my faith shaking. God is still the same. This is not the only trial I’ve had in life. I lost my mum at 3. my father beat me a lot when I was young. My family was impoverished and sold a lot of things.
I worked very hard all my life, and I got to know God at a young age. I sought direction from God each step of the way, but it was a complicated path. Wherever God sent me, life was hard. I was always given a lot of work, more than others. To honor God, I tried my best not to complain and instead just did all the work to the best of my ability. I ended up sleeping only five h a day for a long time. After many years, I got promoted, and the job scope got better, and that was the very time I got chronic cystitis.

So even though life should be great now, it is not.

Then just now, while feeling unwell, I lay down to rest. Instantly I felt the need to go to the toilet again even though I just went. It was so frustrating and overwhelming that I said in my head, “you might as well just kill me/ruin my life” because that was what I felt as if God was doing. then I was so helpless, I drifted in and out of sleep and woke up hearing the thought in my head, which was just a repetition of “you might as well ruin my life.” I got freaked out. I don’t want God to ruin my life. I wasn’t challenging God. I just had the thought because I was so frustrated. It ended up replaying in my mind, and I am afraid that God will really ruin my life, or that the devil will do so, and God will just watch.
I am not sure how it works. I feel so unprotected by God. I wish I could feel more comfort and love from Him, but I pray and feel nothing. I hear your pain and frustration, but do yourself a favor and get a piece of paper and a pen and write down all the things you can be thankful for. Doing this, your problems will not disappear magically, but you will gain a better perspective on your life….NeedEncouragement.com/personal-inventory, it is all me trying to work myself into a state of faith and work myself to believe God loves me.

Please pray that God will draw me close to Him and help me to see Him as He is. I am so terrified of him now.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
I pray to God that you can get your health back a little by little each day. More importantly, I pray that you can realize what you are going through is not something God is doing to punish you. Have you confessed your sins to God and asked forgiveness? 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
If you think your urologist is not helping but rather hurting you, then you might want to consider getting a new urologist? But first things first, get back your faith and trust in God. Ultimately, He is the one who is going to heal you.
Keep your faith!
Bill Greguska
Regards,
Boon Min

Hi Boon,

I am very sorry to hear of the difficulties you are going through. It must be pretty painful for you. Boon, I hope that you have taken this burden of yours to the Lord. 1 Peter 5:7 teaches us to cast all our anxiety on Him because He cares for you.
Have you considered seeing a specialist who might be able to help you more accurately with your problem? I looked up some information that I have on my website and found this link. https://www.verywellhealth.com/urinary-tract-infections-4158392 (I hope this information is helpful to you)
I suggest that you take this to God in prayer and find more information to help you, specifically with your bladder infection. One article I pulled up says to drink plenty of water, which makes a lot of sense to me. 
I pray right now and trust that God will hear our prayer that your bladder infection can quickly heal even though it has been seven months. Because with God, all things are possible. In Jesus” name, amen!
May God bless you and help you keep your eyes focused on Him.

Bill Greguska

Subject: Healing from a chronic bladder infection

Message Body:
I have been waking up many times at night due to a chronic bladder infection. I have done multiple urine tests, but the culture could not pick up the bacteria. My bladder is almost perpetually inflamed, and for the past seven months, I have not slept well. This makes me tired and depressed, and the doctor has no exact solutions except to try things by trial and error. Please pray for God’s miraculous healing to be upon me.

 


 

Hi Dave,
You are wise when you said, “I don’t know where to turn except to Christ.” This life can be difficult at times, yet with god, he promises never to leave us or forsake us. Are you praying and reading your Bible as often as possible? Each morning I start my day with some reading, journaling, and praying, all of which only takes me about a half hour. Even a few minutes of praying to God each morning and reading a part or full chapter of the Bible will benefit from it.
  1. Get yourself into a church. https://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/
  2. Reach out to some friends you can trust.
  3. Avoid alcohol and drugs.
  4. Get some exercise, eat healthy, get 7-8 hours of sleep, and stay active.
God loves you and has a plan for your life. Your job is to find out what that plan is. Keep praying and keep your eyes on God!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Need God’s Help
Message Body:
Needing God’s help. I feel all alone and lost. Lost my mother recently and she was always my help when times got rough. I ask for my Father’s help but the days seem overwhelming.  I don’t know where to turn except to Christ.

 


 

Hi Natalia,
In this world, there are many luring temptations. If you believe in God or not, sin is sin, no matter how it is labeled.
I encourage you to stay strong and not be led astray by the ways of this world.
 
Galatians 5:19-21 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
I encourage you to pray and read your Bible. There is much to learn from the questions that you have!
I hope what I have shared has been of help to you.
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: LGBTQ STRUGGLE
Message Body:
Okay I am not a homosexuality exactly but I tend to enjoy LGBTQ related content which I know is sinful I am hoping for help to turn away from this.

Hi Micelle,
I am very glad you have reached out for another point of view. I see it through the eyes of being a parent myself. I’m just going to ask you some questions that might help you think this through more easily.
  1. What is your rush to get out of the house?
  2. Is there something about your parent’s house you do not like?
  3. Is your parent’s house an unhealthy place for you to be? If so, why?
  4. Do you have a boyfriend and want more privacy to do something that would grieve God’s heart possibly?
  5. What is the problem with waiting until you get married to move out? You would save money for when you do get married.
I hope these questions will stir up some answers in your heart and mind. Remember to put God first! Remember that both God and your mother love and want the best for you. Your Mom probably has at least 20-25 years more of life experiences to encourage you to stay home, yet on the other hand, maybe she is insecure about you leaving. Your job is to pray about it and think things over. You were wise to seek counsel, and I hope what I have shared has been of help to you.
May God bless you and give you the wisdom you need for this situation and all your life situations you will face.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Moving out
Message Body:
I’m 28 years old and still living with my parents. I got approved for an apartment and my Mom isn’t happy about it and keeps telling it’s not Gods will for me to move out he won’t bless me, and I should wait until I’m married to move out.
Hi Michelle,
If I were you, I would write out your concerns on paper and ask your mom to set aside time for the two of you (and your dad) and be mature about what is on your mind and your needs. If your parents try to listen and help you, that is a victory. No matter what, they are your parents, and you need to respect and honor the position of their being your parents. You may not like or agree with them, but at this point, you need to work with them. It can be a win-win situation. Please pray about this while you are writing before and during your meeting with them.
Please let me know how things turn out.
I am praying for you to be mature and pull your family together, not apart!
Romans 12:18  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Moving out”

1. I need to be to develop a sense independence, and how to be responsible and self reliant. 
2. The only peace I have in the house is my room that where I feel the most comfortable. 
3. It’s a stressful environment. Lots of yelling and demanding and when I do help clean it’s never done right according to her, and she does it over. I’m always running errands for her when she has her own car. 
4. I do have a boyfriend but we both have set boundaries and are waiting to have relations when married we want to honor God and what his Word says. 
5. I wouldn’t mind waiting to move out of the house until I’m married, but if the living situation was better We  argue a lot and she likes to manipulate and control me. If she was more understanding and just treated me with respect I would stay. 

 

Hi Micelle,
I am very glad you have reached out for another point of view. I see it through the eyes of being a parent myself. I’m just going to ask you some questions that might help you think this through more easily.
  1. What is your rush to get out of the house?
  2. Is there something about your parent’s house you do not like?
  3. Is your parent’s house an unhealthy place for you to be? If so, why?
  4. Do you have a boyfriend and want more privacy to do something that would grieve God’s heart possibly?
  5. What is the problem with waiting until you get married to move out? You would save money for when you do get married.
I hope these questions will stir up some answers in your heart and mind. Remember to put God first! Remember that both God and your mother love and want the best for you. Your Mom probably has at least 20-25 years more of life experiences to encourage you to stay home, yet on the other hand, maybe she is insecure about you leaving. Your job is to pray about it and think things over. You were wise to seek counsel, and I hope what I have shared has been of help to you.
May God bless you and give you the wisdom you need for this situation and all your life situations you will face.
James 1:5  If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com


Hi Toni,
You love your son and daughter, although if they want help, they can email us back, and we can help them to a point.
The type of counseling they need is to talk to their pastor or make an appointment with a counselor so they both can speak to someone in person.
Here are a couple of links you can share with them if they are interested.
I pray that your son and daughter-in-law are willing to be honest with themselves and seek the help they need. I would encourage you to pray also and be careful how much help you give them. God’s word reminds us that when they were married that the two of them left you and are now one. I mention this because parents of grown adults can sometimes become too involved with their children. It is their marriage, and they will have to work things out. You did well by contacting us, but now the ball will be in their court sort of speak after you share this email with them.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Marriage counseling for my children
Message Body:
My son and daughter-in-law can greatly benefit their marriage with Christian counseling.

Hi Asher,
I understand the loss of a loved one, especially a parent. I, too, was very close to my mom, I took care of her for the last 8 years of her life, and I still miss her, yet time heals, but remember that grief is like a waltz. You are best off if you slowly dance towards the sadness and then step back from it. Be gentle with yourself; you are hurting and need to take care of yourself right now!
I encourage you to try to do the following things.
  1. Pray.
  2. Read your Bible to find all the promises God has given us, such as that He will never leave or forsake you.
  3. Be around supportive people such as family and friends.
  4. Get some exercise.
  5. Eat healthy.
  6. Drink plenty of water.
  7. Avoid sugar and alcohol.
  8. Sleep 7-8 hours a night.
  9. Do not forget to laugh. Watch a funny movie.
  10. Count your blessings on paper.
  11. Try to help or encourage someone else (This website started in 2007 after my wife divorced me, my pastor and his wife encouraged me to encourage others, and that is what I did and still do 15 years later, and I see how it has healed me.
Asher, please check out these two pages; I think they might help you.
Keep close to God and keep praying. I know you are hurting, but remember that your dad would want you to grieve a little and then be happy again.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Grief
Message Body:
Struggling so much after losing my dad.

Hi Christal,
I would be happy to hear about what you are going through specifically.
There is help for both grief and anger.
Here are two web pages to help you with grief and also anger
And these two videos can help you with your grief.
Feel free to email me back, and I will help you as best as I can.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Counseling for Grief/Anger
Message Body:
I need counseling to manage grief and anger asap.

Hi Donald,
I am sure that in some ways you are a good husband, otherwise, you would not even be concerned about whether you were or not.
You are right, life can be a struggle at times. If you could share with me one specific thing you would like to ask me, I will help point you to Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith.
Here are four pages from my website that can help you. The first link has a video I think will significantly help you.
If you would like to email me back, feel free to do so with a specific question.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Seeking counselling to become a better Christian husband and parent.
Message Body:
Looking for some Christian counselling to be a good husband to my wife. I don’t no if I am the support that she needs from me . Life is a struggle right now.

Hi Quintin,
I can respect your desire to do what is right in God’s eyes. Below is some information from GotQuestions.org that will help you with your situation. I hope this has helped clear up your concern. But in the meantime, like any other habit we may have fallen into, keep doing your best to only use God’s name in ways that are appropriate and honor Him. Pray and ask God to deliver you from your habit and realize it may take some time to redirect your wording of things, hopefully not too long, maybe 21 days. I heard that it takes to change or make a new habit.

What is blasphemy?

Answer



To blaspheme is to speak with contempt about God or to be defiantly irreverent. Blasphemy is verbal or written reproach of God’s name, character, work, or attributes.

Blasphemy was a serious crime in the law God gave to Moses. The Israelites were to worship and obey God. In Leviticus 24:10–16, a man blasphemed the name of God. To the Hebrews, a name wasn’t just a convenient label. It was a symbolic representation of a person’s character. The man in Leviticus who blasphemed God’s name was stoned to death.

Isaiah 36 tells the story of Sennacherib, king of Assyria, and his attempt to demoralize Jerusalem before he attacked. After pointing out Assyria’s many victories, he says, “Who of all the gods of these countries have been able to save their lands from me? How then can the LORD deliver Jerusalem from my hand?” (Isaiah 36:20). Sennacherib committed blasphemy by assuming Israel’s God was equal to the false gods of the surrounding nations. The king of Judah, Hezekiah, points out this blasphemy in his prayer to God, in which he asks that God deliver them for the purpose of defending His own honor (Isaiah 37:4, 17). And that’s exactly what God did. Isaiah 37:36-37 explains, “Then the angel of the LORD went out and put to death a hundred and eighty-five thousand in the Assyrian camp. When the people got up the next morning—there were all the dead bodies! So Sennacherib king of Assyria broke camp and withdrew. He returned to Nineveh and stayed there.” Later, Sennacherib was murdered in the temple of his God Nisroch (Isaiah 37:38).

Followers of God are also responsible to make sure their behavior doesn’t incite others to blaspheme God. In Romans 2:17-24, Paul scolds those who claim to be saved through the law and yet still live in sin. Using Isaiah 52:5, Paul tells them, “God’s name is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you” (verse 24). In 1 Timothy 1:20 Paul explains that he had abandoned two false teachers to Satan so they would “be taught not to blaspheme”; thus, promulgating false doctrine and leading God’s people astray is also a form of blasphemy.

Jesus spoke of a special type of blasphemy—blasphemy against the Holy Spirit—committed by the religious leaders of His day. The situation was that the Pharisees were eyewitnesses to Jesus’ miracles, but they attributed the work of the Holy Spirit to the presence of a demon (Mark 3:22-30). Their portrayal of the holy as demonic was a deliberate, insulting rejection of God and was unforgivable.

The most significant accusation of blasphemy was one that happened to be completely false. It was for the crime of blasphemy that the priests and Pharisees condemned Jesus (Matthew 26:65). They understood that Jesus was claiming to be God. That would, indeed, be a reproach on God’s character—if it wasn’t true. If Jesus were just a man claiming to be God, He would have been a blasphemer. However, as the Second Person of the Trinity, Jesus could truthfully claim deity (Philippians 2:6).

Fortunately, Jesus forgives even the sin of blasphemy. Paul was a blasphemer (1 Timothy 1:13) and tried to make others blaspheme (Acts 26:11). Jesus’ own brothers thought He was insane (Mark 3:21). All repented, and all were forgiven.

Blasphemy, by definition, is both deliberate and direct. That being the case, a believer in Jesus Christ will not/cannot commit blasphemy. Even so, we should be careful to reflect God’s holiness and never misrepresent the glory, authority, and character of God.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

—–Original Message—–

Subject: Help with conscience issue
Message Body:
Hello,
Recently, for about a couple weeks or so, I’ve developed an extremely hyper active conscience, which appears to repeat the word “gosh” constantly in fear of Blaspheming  (to try to curb the simple possibility of blaspheming), and constantly keeps repeating the phrase “Thank you God for everything Amen” extremely frequently and fast during periods of the day. Sometimes, even if the word “God” randomly pops into my  mind without anything following it, I get an anxious shiver, and I’m constantly left reassuring myself that God still loves me and he is helping me. This conscience is extremely irritating, and also scary as it feels completely uncontrollable, and there is an even greater fear of  Blaspheming. The issue of blasphemy has almost never been an issue in my  Christian life, and it was only after I developed Insomnia due to my fear of sin that this became a lot worse.
Are there any tips or Biblical passages on how I can overcome this? I love the Lord more than anything else in the world, and this is really upsetting me and worrying me, and really exhausting me  mentally.
Thank you so much,
Quentin 

Hi Tereasa,
I am so sorry to hear about the losses you have experienced in a short amount of time. I understand your grieving to a point, for I went through a separation and divorce between 2005-2007. It was not only the divorce, but my mom went to the hospital ER about 5-6 times during that period. I was her main caregiver for the last 8 years of her life. I, too, had a dog who died during that time period that I had for 14 years. I lost my job building wheelchair ramps for a ministry since I could not emotionally function enough to work. Yes, life was difficult for me, as it sounds like it has been for you. I encourage you to keep your eyes on the Lord and know in your heart that this, too, shall pass because it will. Back in 2005-2007, I was in a very dark place in my life. My pastor Ron and his wife Sue encouraged me to encourage others, so that is how I started this ministry in 2007. I encourage you to do similar, try to look beyond your own pain and try to reach out to others who are experiencing the pain of their own and try to comfort them. This may sound backward, but believe me, through my experience, it does work.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
Our ministry is solely via email, otherwise, I would encourage you to call 800-633-3446 and talk to someone there. If you need to email me back, that would be fine, otherwise, I trust that your faith in the Lord will help carry you through your times of sadness, do not waste your tears. Please use them to heal your broken heart. I just went through a breakup on Jul 26 with a woman from church I really cared a lot about but realized it was not a good fit. We talked about selling our homes and buying a new home after we would get married in February. I, too, have been crying, and there is nothing wrong with that, feel your pain and push through it. Do not waste any tears God knows your pain! Allow Him to comfort you and heal you!
1 Peter 5:7Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
May God continue to bless you as you lean on Him even more!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Multiple Deaths Grief Counseling
Message Body:
I have known my Precious Lord Jesus for over 50 years. I was living in Ohio when my beloved Husband passed away in 2010. In 2014, my Mother, who lived in Idaho, fell and went into a very deep state of mental dementia and I became her guardian and conservator. Between 2010 and 2014, my Husband, Uncle, Dad and Brother in Law died. I was living in the country with no emotional support. I then moved back to the Northwest in 2017 to be closer to family and friends. I then bought a house in Idaho, a few minutes from my best friend. Since COVID hit, my best friend of 25 years died from COVID, my very close to me sister in law died 7 months later from a sudden heart attack, my Daughter’s  beloved dog of 13 years died, then my Mother died that November, all in 2021. Then my beloved soul mate of a dog, Maddie, died this last March, 2022. She was recovering from an emergency surgery and died a few months later from heart trouble. I had her for 12 years and 2 months. I was going to a church across the state line in Washington, but have found no support from them, so am looking for a church that is closer to where I live. The Holy Spirit has been a great comfort to me, but I still have bouts of crying and sadness. It would help if I had someone who would actually talk to me….  Thank you.

Thank you so much Bill for the encouragement and advice. I really appreciate 

Hi Marvin,
Keep in mind that we are ALL sinners, not just you. I am a sinner, just like you or anyone else. But I have been saved by God’s grace and mercy. If you are saved, ask God to forgive you and give you the strength you need to move forward!
If you have any questions that you may have, please feel free to ask, and I will point you to Biblical answers for what you need help with!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling”

Dear Bill

Thanks for getting back to me. I really appreciate having someone I can talk too. 
I have tried to pray about it though after a given time I relapse and go back to sinning again. I haven’t talked about it with anyone because I feel it’s a shaming. 
Regards 

Marvin 

Hi Marvin,
I am glad you reached out for help. Sorry, it took a while to get back to you; I have been flooded with emails this past week.
  1. Have you tried to pray about this?
  2. Have you contacted your pastor?
  3. What are you doing to fight your addiction?
  4. What are you willing to do to get back on your feet?
I will pray that you take this to the Lord in prayer and, with God’s help, fight this until you can have victory over it!
If you have any specific questions, feel free to email me back.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Counseling
Message Body:
I have been lately feeling like my Christian life is weakening because of an addiction and I don’t have anyone to talk to so please I will be glad if you can get back in touch with and help me. Thank you and God bless you

Hi Dennis,
We all have fallen short of God’s glory. You need to confess your sin to God and turn from it.
Remember that our walk with the Lord is not based on feelings. It is based on faith, obedience, and trust in the Lord. You may not feel all bubbly, but get your daily prayers and bible reading back on track each morning, and you will discover the peace you desire once again.
1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: My Salvation
Message Body:
Good afternoon.
Please I have been born again for 16years now in which I have had quite some experiences. By that I mean there has been times when I served God faithful and times when I seemed have slacked in walking with God. Recently I found myself in one of those times of slack where I lived in adultery. I have actually repented of this and has confessed to my wife but it seems I am finding it difficult to be aglow for God. I used to enjoy preaching the gospel, Studying topics of God’s word but struggles somewhat for all of those. Please I send help. I don’t want to loose my salvation. I need the Lord to reassure me of His presence with me. Thank you kindly

 


Hi Marcus,
I am sorry it took so long to get back to you. I have been flooded with many emails this past week or so.
If your partner is cheating on you, why would you be so concerned about wanting to stay with her? I would advise that the two of you talk and iron out your differences, and most likely, you will need to set up some boundaries if you still want to be with her. You have not shared much information, so it is hard to give you a direct answer, except that if you can not trust someone, you do not have much of a relationship.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Relationship
Message Body:
My partner has an addiction problem he is in jail, and he has been cheating on me.  I just don’t know what to do.  I am at my wits end I need help and God is the only one who can help me, but I have wandered so far from him I don’t think he can hear me calling to him anymore. What do I do?

Hi Yvonne,
I am checking back with you to let you know that what you are trying to do sound great. I am sorry to hear about your dad’s alcoholism and violence. I can understand your disconnect between God and the church.
There is an expression that says, “You do not throw out the baby with the bath water”  Your dad might not have been the best dad for you, but your Heavenly Father is!
You are right on with wanting to live the remaining years of your life for God. I would like you to do just that.
You seemed not to have a question for me, you seem to know what you need to do, which is wonderful.
Keep close to God each day, and you will begin to see Him working in your life more and more.
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counselling”

I pray every morning devotional and fast and read my Bible. 

My dad was a violent alcoholic and I used to read the Bible and was raised in church.
I prayed he would stop the violence to God but it kept happening. 
I lost trust in him. 
I want to trust him now. and love him really really.
But I don’t love and trust myself.
Now that I will be 50 on Sunday I want to dedicate the remaining years of my life to him.
I want to heal my inner child and grow up. 
And take God at his word.
Thank you so much for doing this. 

 

Hi Yvi,
You can feel free to contact me and I will not charge you.
Let me know what is going on so I can be of help to you.
Are you keeping your concerns in prayer to God?

https://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/

God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Counselling
Message Body:
All the Christian therapist charge and I just can’t afford it.

Hi Cheryl.
We have all done things to grieve the Holy Spirit. It says in the Bible in
Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,

That scripture does not give you a license to keep on sinning but points to the fact that we need God’s grace and mercy. Have you confessed your sins to God? That is where I would suggest that you start right now! 

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
I encourage you to confess your sins to God and then accept His forgiveness and forgive yourself too! Also, please tell anyone else that you have been affected by your behavior or what you have said.
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: I have somethings I need help with
Message Body:
I have made a lot of mistakes some that I can’t
Do anything about. I never taken life seriously now I done somethings that has caused my family a lot of problems I have hurt the Lord so so much that I don’t know how to face him or his word I need to be grateful for everything he has done for me and my family please for my family because I done things that has caused them pain as well that’s why I can’t forgive myself.

Hi Tomiwa,
I applaud your honesty and desire to want to overcome your problem of watching porn.
Here are a couple of pages to be of help. I pray that you will accomplish your goal and that you start to
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Overcome Addiction
Message Body:
I want to put a stop to pornography watching.

Hi
You are right when you mention the power of God’s word, but also keep in mind God’s will. 
Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
 
The first thing that came to my mind is the possibility that you have unconfessed sin in your life or that you many have confessed but not repented from. I would encourage you to be honest with yourself, and get right with God if that is the case?
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Emotional imbalance and maybe trauma
Message Body:
Good morning!
I gave my life to Christ 15 years ago, and i truly believe in the Power of GOD’S WORD, but i have trauma’s that hasn’t been dealt with because maybe i am saying the wrong prayers or i haven’t seen a Christian counsellor yet…
I really need to talk to someone regularly about what i am going through, i also need to be held accountable whenever i feel like i am falling into depression again. There is much more than i have typed. Thank you for taking the time to read.

Hi Elizabeth,
Have you prayed about this situation you are in? Have you thought about talking to your dad about this?
This scripture I am sure you have heard before gives you proof that you have been accepted by Christ’s death on the cross and that you accept that payment for your sins.
Romans 5:8  But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

I encourage you to start up your relationship with God each morning by reading His word, praying, journalling, and fellowship with other believers!

God bless you,

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: looking for encouragement

Message Body:
I was raised as a pastors child and worked in the ministry for all of my childhood. As a teen, I went to a different church when my parents moved out of state and attended there for years. Serving…but also making many mistakes. Being a hypocrite. I left the church various times and have returned very recently. I have begun to seek God more as a result of my awareness of my own sin and…also out of some fear. I want to know I’m on the right path and that I am believing correctly. I want encouragement that He has accepted me despite all of the horrible sins I have committed. I know that tomorrow is not promised, but I wish to serve the Lord all of the days of my life. Until I leave the land of the living and am resurrected through Jesus to live in His Kingdom for all of eternity.

Hi Lorraine,
You are right on! When you say that you want to follow God’s will. That is the start of something good to come. https://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/
I encourage you to take your burdens to the Lord in prayer. He is the one who ultimately helps us all. I would also encourage you to set boundaries to keep your ex-boyfriend away from you. If need be, you can always get a restraining order against him, and if he violates that order, he will go to jail.
I will also encourage you to talk to a close girlfriend, pastor, or even counselor if you need more help.
If what I have shared with you has been helpful, feel free to email me if you have any more questions or anything you would like to share. I pray that you take this and everything to God in prayer because He loves you and has a plan for your life!
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Relationship personal issues fear and anxiety
Message Body:
What I know is to follow God’s will.
I struggle with my own will and my conflicts with my ex boyfriend will trying to control me.
Its been and still is a unsettling and chaotic roller coaster.

Hi Ruth,
You are being pretty vague. I do not know how to respond to what you said except that God hates divorce, and if you have been praying about your marriage, then you need to keep working on it and not do as the world does and run to get a divorce.
As far as your feelings of depression, I am sure that they are connected to your marriage. Have you seen anyone in person like a pastor or counselor? Maybe your lack of sleep can have something to do with your diet, lack of exercise, alcohol, or drug use. It also can be due to an unconfessed sin in your life. The Holy Spirit could prompt you to do something good that is in God’s will, but sin interferes with such things.
If what I have shared has been helpful to you, please feel free to email me back if you have any questions about what I have shared.
God bless you, and keep praying!
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Marriage counseling
Message Body:
I need your help regarding my marital problems before taking final decision. I believe God uses people to fulfill his purpose and I can’t walk this journey alone. I am depressed and have sleepless nights I can’t cope anymore. Thank you

Hi Mary,
If you keep doing what you have been doing and expecting different results, you are simply fooling yourself.
Think about when you get tempted the most, and then set up options to do or think about other things, you have created a habit, and that habit needs to be broken.
You can do it, but you must set your mind and pray about it.
God bless you.
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Masturbation and pornography
Message Body:
I am tired of being addicted to it. I keep asking for forgiveness yet going back to it…I really need help.

Hi Paul,
You have done a good thing by reaching out for help. The first thing you need to do is keep your situation in prayer to God. Not just one prayer and done, but to pray continuously for the Lord to direct you and calm your wife’s spirit. What she is experiencing is likely something that has been festering for quite some time, weeks, months, or possibly years.
You asked your wife to marry you, and you said your vows. Now you need to practice your vows no matter how hard it gets. Maybe write her a loving note and give her some space if she insists on it. But if you feel you have an opportunity to talk, before you get to talking, Make sure you apologize to her for ANYTHING that you might have said or done in anger yourself. Dig deep in your heart and think of why she might be upset with you, and whatever it is, sincerely apologize to her. If you do not do this, any talking you might be able to do will be left to dead ears by her. So be wise, confess to her and God what you have done wrong, and turn from it.
Consider also doing something for her around the house. Keep in mind that she is struggling and needs your help and support. You are the leader and the man of the house; your weaker vessel has been attacked, and you need to fix it through prayer, guarding your mouth, and loving her the way Christ has loved the church.
I hope what I have shared has been a help to you. Check out this page and a short video about being a good listener.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Marriage and Family Counseling
Message Body:
I want help to be a better husband and better communicator at home. I am dealing with a situation now where my wife got mad at me yesterday, and she has barely spoke to me since then. When I say she got mad, I mean she was screaming and yelling and slamming doors and even trashed the bedroom in her fit of anger.
When things like this happen, how can I mitigate the situation?  What can I do to improve myself and hope these things stop happening?

Hi Anglie,
Sure, I will put you on my mailing list, I send out emails usually once a week or two.
As far as advice, if you have a specific question, feel free to email me and I will get back to you asap.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

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Subject: subscribe
Message Body:
Hi, my name is Anglie I came across your website by going on Pinterest i was wondering is there any way I can receive emails on some of your topics and activities
thank you in advance

Hi Dollan,
Please feel free to email me back and describe what seems to be your biggest problem. I will get back to you as quickly as I can.
God bless you,

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Subject: need Christian counseling
Message Body:
I need to talk to someone about my faith, I suffer from mental health issues, as well and need some guidance.

Hi Hanna,
It is your decision about what you will do concerning watching porn. God has given you free will, but with all that we do, some rewards and consequences go with them. As my older brother told me years ago, “You make your bed. You sleep in it.”

Sexual Immorality

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything.

If you are trying to follow the Lord and made Him your Lord and Savior, then you need to flee from watching porn. It may not be easy for you, but it is the right thing to do.
Here is a web page that can be of help to you.
God bless you,
Bill Pray

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Subject: Watching porn.
Message Body:
Hi,
I need your help. So there was a time I started watching porn. I know it’s not good, and I have been trying to stop myself which was successful; until today when I failed. Now I am angry at myself, and scared that someday when I become great, someone will use this against me.

Hi Lori,
To answer your question, it is not as simple as you ask. There are questions involve such as has this been going on for a few day, weeks, months? What is initiating his anger towards you?
  1. Have you been praying about your marriage?
  2. Have you looked to talk to a counselor in person?
  3. Are you guys having financial problems?
  4. Why do you think your husband is hurting you? Does he have an alcohol or drug problem that needs help?
  5. Is there anything that you do that make things better?
  6. Is he hitting you or is he verbally abusing you? Or both?
You do not have to be abused by your husband, if anything, staying at your parents house or a friends house temporarily my be a good idea. God hates divorce, so the wise thing to do is make sure you are safe, and when he is willing to talk things out rationally with you or with you and a counselor, that is the best suggestion to give you. Not to just go out and get a divorce, that would be the very last thing to do. You do have the option to call the police if he continues to hurt you.
If I have been of help to you, and you wish to email me back with any questions, please feel free to do so. In the mean time, I will pray that God protects you and your husband will not harm you any longer.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska


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Subject: Need help badly
Message Body:
Am I supposed to stay with a husband who hurts me repeatedly or does god say I have to stay?

Hi Destiny,
The Bible nowhere directly mentions bisexuality. However, it is clear from the Bible’s denunciations of homosexuality that bisexuality would also be considered sinful. Leviticus 18:22 declares having sexual relations with the same sex to be an abomination. Romans 1:26-27 condemns sexual relations between the same sex as abandoning what is natural. First Corinthians 6:9 states that homosexual offenders will not inherit the kingdom of God. These truths apply equally to bisexuals and to homosexuals.
Bill Greguska


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Call or text 800-633-3446 or Chat Here

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Is being bisexual a sin for Christianity? If so, I’m about to break up with my girlfriend, but it’s gonna hurt.

Hi Chantelle,

I am very sorry. I have been backed up with many emails.

To address your comment that you are a sinner and adulteress. Then I would suggest that you confess your sins to God and repent from them (turn away and do what is right)

Keep in mind that we are all sinners and have fallen short of the Glory of God!
Here is a scripture that I would suggest you remind God that in His word that you can have forgiveness.
1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
 
Whoever you are an adulteress with, you need to flee from him.
 
It is not that complicated. You need to do what is right and get right with God. https://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/
 
I pray that you go to God humbly and ask forgiveness. God loves you and wants the best for you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Broken hearted
Message Body:
But more complicated. I am a sinner I would say I’m an adulteress.

Hi Claudia,
Sometimes life can become very stressful. Sometimes, a spiritual answer is needed, but other times, a physical remedy is required. Have you gone to your doctor recently? If so, what did your doctor tell you to do?
I encourage you to take care of your health.
  1. Eat healthy.
  2. Get some exercise.
  3. Get 7-8 hours of sleep.
  4. Could you contact some of your friends and family members?
  5. Pray to God.
  6. Read your bible.
  7. I would like you to go to church.
  8. Talk with other Christian friends.
  9. Do something for fun and try to laugh.
  10. You can try to get out of your problem by helping someone you know who is struggling.
I hope what I have shared will be of help to you! And continue to reach out.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: I need a little encouragement right now
Message Body:
I am feeling very lonely,  like a burden, and like a failure.  My husband decided to separate because I couldn’t control my emotional state and I need help. I don’t want to lose everything in life. I feel like I lost so much already.

Hi Shimeka,
I am glad you have reached out for some advice. I am sorry to hear what you are dealing with; I am sure it is very frustrating. My first advice is to start praying about your children, husband, and yourself. God to God and humbly ask Him for his help.
You would benefit from making a realistic plan on paper List one thing you need to see changed with the behavior of your children and one thing you need to ask your husband to do differently. I only say one because I want you to succeed in this goal. If I said five things, they would become too hard to regulate and add more frustration to your lot in life.
Start this goal, and then you can add one more goal at a time.
Sit your husband and family down and become transparent by telling them you are struggling and need their cooperation and help.
I hope this has been of help to you. May God give you the power, patience, wisdom, and strength you need.
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Parenting
Message Body:
Hello,
I have a lot of anger, hurt and resentment feelings towards my children and husband. I would like guidance on how to get over these feelings.
Thanks for listening.

Hi Lina,
Marriage counseling works best if both people are in the room at the same time with a counselor. That is not possible due to two facts, first I only counsel via email and that is not a way that is best to work on marriage problems, the second reason is that I live in the USA.
Here are a couple of links that can help you.
May the Lord bless and rekindle your marriage, keep in mind that you can not change your husband, the only person you can change is yourself and how you react to him. You can pray to God about your husband, but the Holy Spirit is the one who is going to do the actual changing in your husband. So get busy and ask the Holy Spirit to start to change you. I encourage you to pray and work on your own life and how you react to him.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Marriage counseling
Message Body:
We are in desperate need of counseling, we have been married for 7 months now based in South Africa. There’s domestic violence, we need counseling with prayers.

Hi Karl,
Marriage can be a tough ship to sail. I strongly encourage you to talk to your pastor and ask him for some help for the two of you.
I pray that you do what I suggested, and also, each morning, pray for your wife and yourself. We live in difficult times, and Satan is trying to destroy marriages.
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Prayer for our marriage.
Message Body:
I am messaging on the behalf of my wife, I am her husband Karl, just for a prayer for peace and clarity in our marriage. To save our marriage by putting Christ in the middle and guiding us.

Hi Stacey,
I am assuming you are under medical care, right? What does your doctor suggest that you do?
  1. What phobia are you referring to exactly?
  2. Have you been praying and reading your Bible each morning when you wake up?
  3. Are you attending church?
  4. Do you have other Christian friends you can talk with?
  5. Do you have any unconfessed sin in your life?
  6. Are you avoiding alcohol and street drugs?
  7. Are you eating healthy?
  8. Do you get regular exercise?
  9. Do you get 7-8 hours of sleep each night?
  10. Do you drink enough water each day and avoid sugar?
I hope these suggestions will help you, and I am sure you have someone to talk to to help you. Confide in them but remember to take all your concerns to God in prayer!

1 Peter 5:7  Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Matthew 19:26  Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Anxiety”

Hi , well I have some certain phobias and unfortunately they are no longer avoidable, and it is causing me extreme anxiety and irrational thoughts, I feel like I’m having mental breakdowns  ,and I call out to God ,but he’s silent , no matter how much I pray ,,it just gets worse everyday , I try to give it all to God and not worry about it, but I can’t seem to shake it , I don’t know what to do 

 

Hi Stacey,
Please feel free to email me back, but I’m sorry, we do not counsel via the phone.
1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
 
If you let me know the most significant thing you are dealing with specifically, I will try to point you to the Lord and help you relieve some of your anxiety. Etc.
Check out these two links.
God bless you, and I hope to hear back from you.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Anxiety
Message Body:
I need to speak to a Christian Counselor, I have been struggling with Anxiety , excessive  worry , and some phobias…

Hi Alicia,

Thank you answered your own question pretty clearly. Yes it’s best to be honest with those who you love and love you.
Encourage you strongly to pray about this situation and all situations you get in life. God’s wisdom can’t help you from getting into situations that are not good for you.
Maybe this guy you met might turn into someone worthwhile dating, you will never know but keep your eyes on the Lord and He will direct your paths.
Go slow and try to ask him questions. But as far as your parents just sit down and talk to them like you normally would, you don’t need to make a big thing of it just let them know the facts. Conscious will be clear and things will work out better.
God Bless you,
Bill Greguska

Needencouragement.com

Subject: Dating advice
Message Body:
Hello, I’m 39 and single. I still leave at home with my parents. About a month ago and started texting a guy he is Christian and involved his church. Just like I am . He is divorced and 2 kids. I never dated before
You see I have 2 younger sister there were the once that will go out more . I wouldn’t go out much . There are more out going. They are both married and I stayed home. But recently I met someone who I really like and care about. We got out twice and I really like him. I want to continue seen him.
I know that I’m a adult,  I also love my parents and honor them. And  they are wondering how I’m texting because I’m on the phone a lot lately. I have a really great communication with them and I know that are going to surprise.
Should I tell them ( I know I should)
How do I approach them?
I don’t want to hide them anything 

Hi Warren,
I hear your concern, but I encourage you to know that God is in control. Have you been praying about this upcoming job that you want?
Here is a web page that can be of help to you. https://needencouragement.com/need-employment/
I join you in prayer for your new job, I pray that God equips you both physically and emotionally and that He will provide the right job for you and your abilities.
God bless you and trust that He has a plan for your life!
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Fear and anxiety
Message Body:
Please help me pray for strength and courage and help from the LORD JESUS  to help me get back up on my feet and find the job He wants me to have. Thank you. I had an accident at work  and have been un able to work but now I’m fine and I have so much anxiety and fear about finding a job and it is making me very unsure of myself and I just really  need prayer for God to help me through JESUS CHRIST my SAVIOR.  God bless you all.

Hi John,
I will give you the same advice that my pastor Ron and Sue gave me. My situation seems similar to what you guys are going through. I was a stepdad to a 14-year-old boy, my wife and I would disagree, and I ended up on the couch a lot for a while. This story does not have a happy ending, but I am thankful I took my pastor’s advice by not divorcing her. She refused to cooperate in marriage counseling and decided to move out. She said for four months, but it turned into two grueling long years.
Bottom line, God hates divorce, yet He allows it because of man hardened heart. I encourage you to take the high road and do whatever it takes to keep your marriage together. Divorce does not make life simple. It makes it even worse, believe it or not!
As one man to another, I encourage you to go to your wife and apologize for whatever you said or did and not expect her to apologize for anything. You most likely have wounded her spirit, and you need to humble yourself and beg her for forgiveness. Otherwise, your marriage will most likely dissolve painfully and slowly right before your eyes. Be a real man and be honest. You know you did or said something wrong, so be wise and go to her today and at least attempt to make things right with her.
May God give you the strength to humble yourself for the sake of your marriage, wife, daughter, and yourself.

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Subject: Marriage advice
Message Body:
We are a married couple that has been together for 17 years. We have a 13 year old daughter who is the world’s most amazing teen and the greatest gift God has given either of us. Our current situation is causing undue stress on her and has the potential to jeopardize her future possibilities.
    We have had disagreements throughout the years but nothing violent, nothing ever warranting the police to be called, and nothing significant to cause us to sleep in separate beds, save perhaps 5 times throughout the years where a night of cooling down was needed. A recent dispute was by far the worst we’ve ever had. One of us may feel that there is verbal abuse, and the other is willing to do anything necessary to change that. The person willing to change has turned their life over to God and would like to start going to church with the rest of the family.
    The question is, in this situation would God prefer that we try to reconcile the marriage and keep our family together, or does the criteria meet the standard for God’s approval of divorce. We truly don’t know what to do and, above all else, want to do what’s right in the eyes of the Lord.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated; a one sentence answer will suffice if time is tight.
Thank you – John and Jane Doe

Hi Barbara,
I encourage you to keep praying and trust that the Lord will never leave or forsake you.
Besides praying, I would encourage you to try to count your blessings. I know that might sound strange to you right now, but believe me, God is the one who will open the right doors for you.
Make sure you take care of your physical health, such as eating healthy, exercising, sleeping, drinking plenty of water, avoiding alcohol, praying, and reading your Bible each morning. Even start off with 5 or 10 minutes and increase. The more you pray and read your Bible, the more you will want to
May God bless you, and remember that this, too shall pass!
Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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Subject: Passing very hard times
Message Body:
Hello
Could you please help me I am passing very hard times, going trough court case where enemy try to work against me through betrayal I struggle with doubt in my heart because all looks so overwhelming.