Response Letters 6

 

 

 


 

Below are some of the questions people have emailed in to ask us about.

I am not a professional counselor, yet I have been a Born-Again Christian since 1986. Our responses are based on Biblical principles found in the Bible and through prayer and links to our website.

 

Subject: Looking for Encouragement and Someone to talk to
Message Body:
Hello,
Could you send me some more information about your organization and what you can do to help with discouragement?  How are you trained?
Thanks,
Linda

 

Hi Linda,
I am glad you have reached out for some encouragement. If you could be more specific, that would help us to help you.
As far as my training, I have been a born-again Christian lead by the Holy Spirit since June 25th, 1986, I know the Lord, and I am familiar with what His word teaches. Pastor Ron and Sue Sauer have mentored me. I have been involved in many Bible studies. I started this website back in 2007 and have been helping encourage people since then and even before.
I also have attended Elmbrook Church for 23 years. I do not have formal theological training, but God has taught me through His Word, and I also have learned through the school of hard knocks. I am equipped to point you to Jesus Christ, but I need to know your needs are?
Here is a link to our about us page… http://needencouragement.com/about-us/
I look forward to hearing back from you. I am not offended that you asked how I was trained. It is good to know a little about a person before opening up yourself to counseling. God bless you!
Have a blessed day!
Bill Greguska

 

 

Subject: Cost
Message Body:
Hello,
What is the price per session after the free one?
Many blessings,
Joann

 

 

Hi JoAnn,
I can tell you that the first counseling is free, but you need to ask them after that. 

 

Below is the phone number you can call to find out more information.

To request a conversation with Focus on the Family’s Counseling Department, call 1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays from 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. (Mountain Time), or complete our Counseling Consultation Request Form. Please be prepared to leave your contact information for a counselor to return a call to you as soon as possible. The consultation is available at no cost to you due to generous donor support and will be with one of our licensed or pastoral counseling specialists.
I hope they can be of help to you.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska
 
 

 

Subject: Husband problems
Message Body:
Hi, I’m a 68-year-old Christian married woman who is in a toxic marriage.  We’ve been married almost 10 years, and my husband is very verbally abusive to me (getting extremely angry over the tiniest mistake or “oopsie,” yelling, screaming, and cursing at me).  I have even left him several times and stayed with a friend for a few days.  He adamantly refuses to go to counseling with me and recently told me that he does not believe ANY counselor can help him because he has a demon.  I am not in a position to leave him permanently or divorce him, as I need his financial support.  He is 12 years younger than me and still employed. My only income is a small Social Security check.  I have even fasted and prayed about this and have shed “rivers” of tears.  Things get better for a while, and then when I least expect it, the volcano of his rage and anger erupts again.  Please tell me what I can do before I go insane!  I cannot afford to go to counseling by myself, and even if finances were not a problem, I do not want to risk contracting COVID.  Is there some way you can help me?  Please let me know ASAP. Joanie

 

 

 

Hi Joanie,
I am glad that you have reached out. It sounds like a heavy burden you are carrying, yet there still is hope. My first suggestion is to pray and pray strategically each time you have a meal. Ask God for His wisdom and protection from the anger of your husband. James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. Have you been praying for your husband too?
There must be something that is making him so upset? Hopefully, it is a temporary situation, and it will pass over, but maybe it is here to stay for a while. In any case, all relationships need healthy boundaries, or else in your case. You may become sick because of not having boundaries. http://needencouragement.com/toxic-relationships/
You might want to change the approach you have been using with him. There is a saying that goes, “Insanity is expecting different results with the same behavior.”Maybe for a while (a week or two or so) when he explodes at you, do not react to his foolishness, but rather allow him to see the calm in you, which just might defuse his anger and bring him to his senses.
Of course, this is only a temporary possible solution, but it might just do the trick. I am sure that you have been saying things (meaning well), but his ears are hearing you as the enemy possibly. You can not change your husband, BUT GOD CAN, SO PRAY FOR HIM and try to overlook his anger for a little while, except if he were to harm you physically, then that is a different story. Let’s pray it does not get to that point. Your marriage needs some fixing, and this video will shed some light on things for you http://needencouragement.com/fix-marriage-problems/.
Try to be even kinder to him than you usually have been. This will speak volumes to him and make him more receptive to you. Make a few really special dinners, take care of your inner and outer beauty, speak softer, even share a good clean joke from on the Internet. It seems by what you are saying that you have been assigned to keep the marriage alive. It should not matter who will do it, just as long as it will be done.
One more thought is to invite another couple over for coffee or dinner, to play a board game, but do not pressure him too much if he does not want to. Keep thinking for solutions, and the Lord will answer your prayers!
This page might help you since there is a video meant for men to learn about women, but it might help you listen more closely to your husband since you are the one right now trying to make things work. Let’s pray that he comes around soon too. http://needencouragement.com/improve-your-marriage/
If what I have shared with you has been helpful, feel free to email me back.

I pray that God gives you the strength you need, the wisdom you need, and the patience and love you need to keep the two of you together and find a better sense of happiness and joy together. Life is too short to be fussing and fighting.

Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
God bless you, and do not give up hope!
Bill Greguska

Dear Bill,

Wow! I am truly astonished. Since your service is free, I really didn’t even expect to get a reply, much less a very quick one. In today’s world, usually, when anything is FREE, you get “your money’s worth.” But your advice is priceless! I can’t thank you enough. You and I are total strangers, just two people using the internet to communicate, but you have taken it upon yourself to *empathize* with me. That is extremely rare, even among Christians.

Yes, I pray for my husband all the time, for God to remove or cast out the demon (if he DOES have a demon), and to give him a calm, peaceful, forgiving attitude. And I have read several books on casting out demons. I pray for God to *truly and completely* save him and FILL HIM with the Holy Spirit. He does claim to be a saved Christian, but No man can serve 2 masters. (Matthew 6:24). In fact, I have even fasted and prayed about my marriage and his anger issues. And I have told him that I am praying about *our* problems. Since this horrendous pandemic started, we have had to stop going to church, but we started in March of 2020, having home Bible study together on Sunday, and we’ve been pretty consistent with it. We’ve now almost read the whole Bible together, taking turns reading each chapter aloud. He looks forward to it, as do I. I just wish and pray that he would stop “giving in” to his anger and exploding — mainly at me, but actually, he stays in a constant state of negativity and anger. He says all the time, “That pisses me off!” He gets outraged at other drivers who cut him off in traffic and similar annoyances. Just yesterday, he found out that our music video playlist he had built up over several months and saved on his phone (over 800 songs) had been 90% erased/deleted or “stolen.” He actually said, “If I knew who did that, I would go murder them!” That attitude deeply disturbs me and downright scares me! BUT . . . I will implement some of the strategies you suggested (the ones I haven’t already tried).

I think this needs to be mentioned: he has a hard drug history (before he and I got together) but has now been clean for over 11 years. He has tremendous anxiety, and we visited our doctor last year in May and shared this issue with him. He prescribed an antidepressant for both of us (as I have battled depression for years, which I’m sure that doesn’t surprise you). I have also persuaded him to take vitamins and calming minerals & supplements, which he does, but not consistently. This is my 3rd marriage (2nd one was VERY abusive!) and his 2nd marriage. His former wife was very abusive to HIM, verbally and physically. This is true, as I have talked to other people who knew him back then. Plus, he has scars on his body from her clawing him with her fingernails. She had MAJOR trust issues. I know that this past abuse he endured for 23 years DEFINITELY has a bearing on his present behavior and that he’s transferring a lot of this to me. But he has to come to terms with all of that and STOP taking it out on me!

Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your caring, empathizing advice. You are a rare, unique person. And last but not least, please keep me (and our marriage) in your daily prayers.

Sincerely,

Joanie

 

Hi Joanie,
I was glad to be able to share my hope and strength with you. My wife and I had a challenging marriage, and because of it was birthed this website NeedEncouragement.com since my pastor Ron and his wife Sue Sauer counseled my ex and me for about a year, and when my wife gave up and moved out of our house for two years, then finally divorced me. It was devastating to me. I got very depressed and crashed and burned. Sue Sauer’s idea was for me to focus on encouraging others to get out of my depression. I listened to her and started this website in 2007, and it has been of great help not only for others but also for me. You might want to consider trying to encourage someone you know who needs some help too.
I built wheelchair ramps for ten years, and during that time, I learned and relearned that if you take a screw out of the wood and try to use the same hole to catch a piece of wood better, it does not work. Just like I am trying to tell you that you need to change your approach; otherwise, you will get the same negative results. (I hope that makes sense to you)
One more thought, I encourage you to put your energy into pleasing the Lord, and in doing so, your husband will benefit, and ultimately you will benefit. Here are a couple of things to keep in mind:
  1. Pray each morning and though out the day, especially when tested or tempted to get frustrated.
  2. Read your Bible at least 10-15 minutes a day.
  3. Try not to react to your husband’s negativity.
  4. Do not put a lot of thought and energy into knowing more about Satan. Put your energy into understanding God’s will better!
  5. Remember, for every step forward. It is one step away from how things used to be and one step closer to where you want them to be.
  6. Maybe both you and your husband could get a check-up from your doctor. There might be some physical issues going on with either one of you?
  7. Try to have gentle answers to him.
  8. Buy your husband a card or small gift as a nice surprise.
  9. Take care of your health – eat healthy, sleep 7-8 hours a night, exercise daily even walking is great.
  10. Don’t forget to laugh.
  11. Make it a point to encourage someone, and do that regularly. (your husband counts)
  12. Get back into your church and study.
  13. Be prepared ahead of time that your husband will lose his temper, but don’t let that shake you, and keep praying for him.
  14. Encourage your husband any way you can. When he is encouraged, you will be encouraged too!
Joanie, you are going through a battle right now, it can get better, but you need to prepare yourself w I have offered you.
Ephesians 6:10-18 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world, and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.  Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.
May you experience God’s peace more and more each day.
Bill Greguska

 


 

Subject: I feel lost
Message Body:
Since giving my life to Christ, I haven’t really been sanctified at all and continue to struggle with the same sins with no real progress. I haven’t also really felt God or the Spirit at all, and when I hear of the crazy things, He does in people’s lives, it makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. Both these things, along with recently really struggling even to pray or read the word have made me feel like I’ve lost my salvation or I’m just deceiving myself.
I’ve prayed to God but still feel like I’m being ignored. I don’t know what to do and still feel nothing from Him. I still love God and want to do all the good things, but I feel completely hopeless after cycles of sin, forgiveness, and repeat. I just need some help and direction, and assurance as to what I should do. Please help.
Dominic

 

 

Hi Dominic,
I am glad you have reached out to us, although I am sad to hear that you are struggling in your prayer life, and you say that you feel like you have lost your salvation. It sounds like to me you have already been saved by putting your faith and trust in God, but you are struggling with a habitual sin that you need to get rid of, not on your own, but through the power of God.
  1. Have you asked God for His help in your situation?
  2. Do you have anyone in your life that you can go to for accountability?
It sounds like you are struggling with spiritual warfare, which means you are getting beat up by Satan, and you are allowing it to happen. In your own flesh, you can not beat Satan, but with God’s help, you can. Here are a couple of scriptures that might be of help to you.

 

James 4:7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

 

1 John 3:6 No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him.
Do you read your Bible or pray each morning? That is something you need to start doing if you are not right now. Start off reading a paragraph or two for a week, then maybe add to your reading. Praying is very simple. It is like talking to a close friend who cares. Share with God what is on your mind, praise Him for your life and other things you are grateful for.
An old Cherokee Indian chief was teaching his grandson about life.

 

“A fight is going on inside me,” he told the young boy, “a fight between two wolves.
One wolf is evil, full of anger, sorrow, regret, lust, greed, bitterness, self-pity, and false pride.
The other wolf is good, full of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control.”
“This same fight is going on inside of you, grandson…and inside of every other person on the face of this earth.”
The grandson ponders this for a moment and then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?”
The old man smiled at his grandson and simply said, “The one you feed more.”
Dominic, if what I have shared with you has been helpful, and you have a question about what I have shared, please email me back, and I will try to help you more.
I will pray that you make it a point to pray to God the next few days and get into His word. Remember you are in a battle, and you need God’s help if you want to be victorious?
Bill Greguska

Subject: encouragement
Message Body:
I have a daughter with stage 4 brain cancer. She is doing the treatments but doesn’t seem to be working….also, I take care of a friend who has no family and is slowly losing her memory and has no family here. She is from Ecuador, and her sister is 90, so not much help. She never married, so she has only nieces and nephews who are not that close. This gets to be a bit overwhelming at times, and I do not know how to carry the load… Mary
Hi Mary,
You are an angel for taking care of both your daughter and your friend. You need to keep a pulse on how you are feeling yourself. You can not be of help to your daughter and friend if you do not so.
I would strongly suggest that you keep in prayer, get proper sleep, exercise, eat healthy, and keep looking for help from where you live through your government or community.
Use Google to look up possible free caregiver help or assistance for yourself.
I pray that what I have shared will help you and that the Lord watches over you and your daughter and friend. If you have any questions about what I shared, feel free to email me back.
May God bless you and give you strength and wisdom!
Bill Greguska
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
 
 

 


 

Subject: health
Message Body:
In May 2019, I was diagnosed with melanoma cancer (a small/tiny mole just above my left elbow.) I had surgery to remove the mole. The surgeon also removed five lymph nodes (under the left arm) 2/5 were positive.  Had on-going PET and MRI scans – all negative until this past August/2020.  Pet Scan found one lymph node (left axillary) mildly affected.  Second surgery – surgeon removed 22 lymph nodes – only the one found on the PET scan was positive.  A little story here:  30 years ago, they found a melanoma on my right ankle.  Before surgery, I went to a friend’s house for a farewell dinner with friends as I left for Kansas City, Mo, to have the surgery.
A friend asked if she could pray for me.  Of course.  As I sat on a couch, she knelt in front of me, raised her hands over my ankle, and prayed for me in a hushed voice.  Suddenly, a sharp, hot pain that shot down the front of my leg (about mid-calf) went down the leg, over my ankle and top of my foot, and out the toes.  I was stunned, never having had an experience like that before or knowing anyone who had.  I said nothing – left, made the trip to Kansas City, had the surgery – following surgery the pathology report:  “no signs of cancer – the doctor saying “it must have just been in the mole – in situ”  I believe God saw fit to drive the cancer out of my body.  So…. with that said… these many years later, I face the same cancer again—the same type but in a different place. 
I have prayed and asked others to pray for me.  I don’t have anyone to pray over me like in those years ago.  I have asked God to heal me as he did back then – but so far, nothing so spectacular.  I pray and hear in my “heart” – ” Your faith has made you whole”  I don’t know what that means.  Many years ago, following surgery in Kansas City, I relocated to Dallas, Tx.  Here I found the newly started Bent Tree Church.  Pete Briscoe was the new preacher.  My son and I made our first visit on the 2nd Sunday of their existence.  Pete was my pastor until he left the church. 
I would ask for your prayers.  I do not need a return call but would ask you to let me know you have received my message and maybe shared it with others.  I ask for your prayers and, of course, would love for our Father God to heal me as He did before.  I realize He might have a different outcome in mind for me this time.  I’m now 80 years old – Given the promise in His Word, I ask to live long enough to “hear His shout and the sound of the trumpet” as we live in these last days – I base that belief on the words He spoke regarding the generation that would not pass away after Israel was “reborn.”  Thanks for this opportunity to write to you. My son’s name is David.
Hi Judith,
It is a small world. I know Pete Briscoe and the Briscoe family. Stuart was head pastor at Elmbrook back when I first attended in 1989. I do not know Pete real intimately, but I know his brother Dave and his mom and dad. But I do know that Pete was a very good basketball player.  I also visited Bent Tree Church here in downtown Milwaukee a few times. Pete did a recorded message there. I love Stuart and Jill and even Dave. Dave helped me a lot when my wife moved out for two years and refused to work things out. Dave was a guardian angel to me, helping me keep my mind and emotions intact. http://needencouragement.com/pastor-stuart-briscoe/
Judith, thank you for your descriptive testimony, too. I had heard a testimony like yours when someone was praying over them. I never experienced it myself, but I believe what you shared was God’s truth. Praise God!!! It never stops amazing me how God works! Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. There is so much negative news in the media, and it is encouraging to me to hear your story!
May God continue to bless you and keep you whole…
Bill Greguska
Stuart and Jill Briscoe are some excellent people, and I am glad God put them in my life!

Stuart and Jill Briscoe NeedEncouragement

 


 

Subject: messed up sleeping pattern & problems with basic functioning because of sleep problem.
Message Body:
Need counsel & prayer to help me get back on track with my sleep. Betty Ann

 

 

Hi Betty Ann,
I am glad you decided to reach out for help. I am not a medical person, but I know some things about messed-up sleep patterns from personal experience.
My doctor instructed me and a couple of other people I go to for advice at times.
  1. Pray and ask God to give you peace and peaceful sleep.
  2. Avoid anything with caffeine in it, such as coffee or soda. Even chocolate has caffeine in it and should be avoided.
  3. Make sure you get some exercise each day, even walking can be good exercise.
  4. Drink decaffeinated tea before bed. There is a special bedtime tea you should consider.
  5. I have gotten into a great habit that seems to work for me. When I lay down to sleep, I take 5 deep breaths holding each for 7 seconds and let out slowly for 7 seconds with my lips slightly together to allow the air to exhale slowly.
  6. Another thought is to deal with anything you are worried about, or anyone you are withholding forgiveness from, or anyone you need to resolve any problems with.
Consider trying some, or all of these suggestions, and keep praying for your sleep to come back to you!
If what I suggested has been helpful, feel free to email me back if you have any questions or need to share anything else.
I trust and pray that you get your sleep back real soon.
Bill Greguska

Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

 

 


 

Subject: Marriage
Message Body:
My wife and I are going through a very struggling time in our marriage, and we need some counseling. Robert

 

 

Hi Robert,
I can help you through the positive and negative experiences that I have had in my marriage and how to build your marriage stronger.
Let me ask you a couple of questions:
  1. Do you pray for or pray with your wife?
  2. As the leader, have you attempted to sit down and talk with your wife about making things better?
  3. When your wife talks to you, do you listen to her?
  4. Do you keep your word to your wife or change plans often?
  5. Do you go to church with your wife?
  6. Do you go on date nights with your wife at least once a week?
  7. Do you tell your wife you love her and show her the way you behave?
  8. Do you approach her in romantic ways still?
  9. Does pornography tempt you?
  10. Do you have an alcohol or drug problem?
  11. Do you raise your voice to your wife?
  12. Do you spend enough time with your wife, or does she complain?
  13. What have you done to make your marriage better as of today?
  14. Do you believe that divorce is not an option?
  15. Are you willing to do what it takes to get your marriage back on track?

Your answers to these questions will shed some light on your marriage’s condition, and then you need to start to look at each item and do what is right. Otherwise, your marriage will continue to struggle unfortunately.

http://needencouragement.com/fix-marriage-problems/
Ephesians 5:25-30 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—  for we are members of his body.
I hope what I have shared has opened your mind to help you in your marriage. If so, and if you have more to say or have any questions to ask, please email me back, and I will try to help you some more.
God bless you and your marriage,
Bill Greguska

Subject: Prayer request
Message Body:
Please pray for my daughter Veronica as she is feeling lost in the world of sin and temptation.
It’s tough to watch her walk in her disappointment. Anita
Hi Anita,
I am glad that you reached out for prayer. I pray that the Lord would put someone in your daughter’s path that can be an encouragement to her. I also pray that the Lord convicts her heart to the point of her coming to God with a broken, contrite heart.
Continue to pray for her each day. You might want to even fast food or some other pleasure while you pray for your daughter Veronica. You did not mention if she is a believer or not. If she is not, talk to her about God yet be gentle while doing so.

In the meantime, continue to love her, point her to the Lord, and be available to her if she wants to talk about her sin and temptation. Try not to nag her about her sin. That will only pull the two of you apart. But instead, be positive and set a good example for her by the way you talk with her, and let her know that you love her, but not her sin. That is what the Holy Spirit is going to have to convict her of. Veronica is in the middle of spiritual warfare. View this link to learn more.
Ephesians 6:12-13 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.
Try to spend time with her and try to encourage her. Maybe take her out to eat or spend time with her alone. Maybe think of how you would like someone to treat you if you were involved with sin and temptation. I pray that whatever is going on with her will be exposed to the light, and Veronica will be freed from her struggles. Let’s pray that God will answer our prayers for Veronica!
God bless you, and I will pray for both you and your daughter…
Bill Greguska
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Subject: Scared about future
Message Body:
I’m a girl of age 18 and soon going to be 19 in few days. Recently I’m feeling scared about my future thou I persistently pray to god every day regarding this. My love life, family, education, and even finances lay a question mark in front of me. To be honest, it was within me for so many days, and today I had broken down thinking this. Everyone says it’s overthinking, but the truth is actually I can’t stop thinking about it. I want to have a breakthrough over all these obstacles. Please guide me.
Chelsi

 

 

Hi Chelsi,

I am glad you reached out for some advice. My best advice is to keep praying about your situation and get into God’s Word to give you the direction you need. I can offer you some advice, although it would be hard to advise you clearly. But I can tell you that you are doing what the scriptures teach us. You are examining your life, which is good and healthy. Right now, the world is fighting Coronavirus, which does not make things any easier.

Luke 14:28-30 “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? 29 For if you lay the foundation and cannot finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, 30 saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’
 
It seems as though you have your eyes set on the wave, keep your eyes on the Lord. Keep in mind what it says in God’s Word.

 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Here is a link that can help you with your finances. http://needencouragement.com/plan-a-budget/

 

The Bible also says to obey God’s word. I say this because you said below, “My love life,” which makes me question if you are married. After all, if you are not married, the Bible mentions that a “love life” is only for marriage. If you are not married, maybe that is why you feel scared and have feelings of guilt? Please accept my apology if I misunderstood what you were trying to say. Please forgive me. I am just trying to help you. It sounded like you were having sex outside of marriage.
 

 

James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
Here is a link to help you with praying. http://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/

God’s word also talks about what we ought to do with our fears and worries. Look back at your life and try to recall the times when you were afraid, and remember that I would guess to say, 3/4 of those fears never materialized, or God took care of them for you. Right now, you need to stop worrying and shovel all your insecurities onto the Lord.

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Here is a link to help you with fear. http://needencouragement.com/fear/
Here are a couple of efficient things that can be of help to you.
  1. Keep praying.
  2. Read your Bible at least a little each day.
  3. Get regular exercise.
  4. Eat healthy food, avoid garbage, food, and alcohol.
  5. Drink enough water each day.
  6. Get 7-8 hours of sleep.
  7. Make you keep in touch with close friends and family for support.
  8. Keep your sense of humor, and enjoy some laughter.
  9. Forgive anyone who has done you wrong, do not hold on to resentments.
  10. It may sound counterintuitive, but try to encourage someone else even though you have your own burdens.
 
I hope what I have shared has been of help to you. If it has been, please email me back if you have more to say or have any questions.
 

I pray that you put your trust in the Lord where it belongs and get it off your shoulders where it does not belong. Here is one more scripture for you to consider.
Romans 8:28  And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

God bless you,
Bill Greguska

 

 

 


 

Subject: Marriage advice
Message Body:
I can’t believe I am doing this online, but I am still confused after much prayer.  My husband of 21 years is not a Christian.  We are struggling to keep a loving relationship, trying to “force” it.  I have fallen in love with another man who is a Christian that I have an amazing connection. Although I have not met him in person, I can’t stop myself from dreaming of a future with him and feel that God has brought our lives together for a purpose. 
Is seeking divorce a complete sin in my case? My husband is not abusive. The worst I can accuse him of is being sarcastic and negative. He actually forgave me for infidelity in the past.  But maybe the loving thing would be to let him go.  I know the Bible says God hates divorce.  I’m very torn up and confused.  I would rather be alone and take my chances with the man I met, even if it doesn’t work out when I meet him in person.  Arghh.
Amy

 

 

Hi Amy,
I am glad you reached out for advice. I will be praying for you and your husband. I know that you are not the only one struggling in marriage. Look at what you, yourself, just told me in your short email:
  1. You are absolutely right that God hates divorce.
  2. Your husband is not abusive. The worst you can accuse him of is being sarcastic and negative.
  3. He actually forgave you for infidelity in the past.
  4. You have been married for 21 years.
Here are a few pages that I am sure will be of help to you
If you did not already, the first thing you need to do is tell the guy you are online with that you are married. You identify as a Christian, yet if you love the Lord and follow Him, it would be straightforward to solve your confusion that stems from allowing your emotions to get the best of you.
Here is what I would suggest that you do right away.
  1. Ask God to forgive you for wandering where you should not have been with the guys on the internet. 1 John 1:9-10 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar, and his word is not in us.
  2. Pray and read your Bible each morning.
  3. Talk to your husband about getting marital counseling. Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.
  4. Promise yourself that you will send one last communication to the man on the internet, explaining how cheating on your husband is wrong and that God is really convicting you of it. And as of now, you are not going to communicate with him after that email. Psalm 51:17 My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.
  5. How can you honestly say you are working on your marriage when you are emailing this other guy? Put that energy into your husband, and I am sure he will come around.
  6. For starters, tell your husband what you need from him specifically, say it in a way not to complain or belittle him, just let him know your needs. If he is such a wonderful man you say he is, he will come through to some degree, and things will start to improve. You have to start somewhere!
  7. You say you have been praying, and at the same time, you are cheating on your husband. God will not hear your prayers until you confess and repent of the sin you are in right now with the internet guy. This is why you are confused because you are not walking with the Lord.  James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Romans 7:1-3 Do you not know, brothers and sisters—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law has authority over someone only as long as that person lives? For example, by law, a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man.

Matthew 5:27-28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman [man] lustfully has already committed adultery with her [him] in his [her] heart.

I am sorry that I felt that I had to speak to you so strongly. I see a dear sister in Christ who is lost in her sin and needs to be rebuked and woken up. You are not a bad person, but the devil has tricked you, and you need to get out of that online relationship. I have warned you, and now it is up to you what you are going to do. Being torn up and confused is the Holy Spirit trying to guide you at the same time the devil is doing what he does best and is lying to you, stealing your joy, and attempting to kill your marriage.

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
If what I have shared with you has been of any help, and if you need to talk more about this or have any questions, please email me back. I pray right now for your marriage and your part to keep it alive. God knows what you need. I am just trying to point you in the right direction since you have strayed away.
May God give you wisdom and strength to do what is right!
Bill Greguska
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Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

 

When trouble comes, focus on God’s ability to care for you. ~ Charles Stanley

 

 


 

 

Subject: Bringing problems into a relationship
Message Body:
Hello,
I am a Christian (19, Male), and I am considering dating another Christian girl. I want God to be the center of our relationship and our focus to be a ministry. However, I have a lot of ongoing sins that I haven’t dealt with. Most of the time, I feel underprepared emotionally and spiritually to invest myself in a partner. Whether or not I should pursue a relationship with unresolved sin in my life or wait until I am right with God. Thank you for your time.

 

Hi Ruben,

That is great that you want to date a Christian girl, and you want to do things right! But remember first things first.

Matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

Since you mention that you feel underprepared emotionally and spiritually to invest yourself in a partner, I think you have answered your own question. But in the meantime, starting up a friendship with a girl just as friends until you are more ready might be something to consider. First, before you go any further, you need to confess all your sins to God.

1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Did you already ask God for what you ought to do? http://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/ It is okay to ask someone like me, but the real place to go is to the source, which is God himself!

http://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/

When the time comes and you are ready for a dating relationship, Ruben, check out this page. http://needencouragement.com/dating-advice/

If what I have shared has been helpful to you, please feel free to email me back if you have more you wish to say or have any other questions.

May God bless you and direct your path,

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Subject: I’m a sinner
Message Body:
Hi, I am 17 years old. Believe me all my life. I can say I was a spiritual, good boy. I had success. It was all from God. But I’m a sinful kid a lot of the time in pornography and masturbation. I see a decrease in my conduct, less spiritual, less wise, and the good qualities I had remained but decreased slightly. I do not know what to do. I have not really strayed from the faith. I always go to church with the family and love to praise God, but what will happen to me? How to return? At first, I only did it once in a while.
For the past year and a half, I have moved to once a week, regretting it and repeating it later it has become several times a week and repeating over the weekend, now because of the corona, we have closed the church for a while, and it is easier to sin now when there is no church. I need advice, how to get back to God. My heart is like a stone. I’m like a dog repeating its vomit. My main problems are the sin I mentioned and anger. How can I make my way back?
How can I spend time with God and not have to force myself?
I have another question, is it okay to watch series or movies sometimes or play video games?
Hi Joshua,
I am sure you know that God loves you and even died for you. Do you love God too? (I know you said you are not doing well in your faith), but that does not mean it has to stay that way! Romans 8:2 because through Christ Jesus, the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.
I am glad that you have reached out for some help. You are right. We are all sinners, Romans 3:23, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Yet by God’s grace, he gave us Jesus to die for all our sins, past, present, and future, for those who put their trust in Jesus. Do you trust that He can help you?
It is good that you reached out for help because, on your own, the odds are against you. My first question is, have you prayed about your situation at all yet? The temptation can be strong, yet anything worthwhile is worth putting the energy into doing what is right. Hebrews 10:26-27 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God.
You mentioned that you went to church with your family, but have you been born again at some point in your life yet? Romans 10:9If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
What have you tried to do to make things better as of now? 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
 
As far as your anger, that is another thing to address. But both your anger and your sexual sin can both be resolved when you honestly take them both to God in sincere prayer!  Ephesians 4:31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.
Joshua, I would disagree with your comment, “my heart is like a stone,” because you would never have considered contacting me if it were true. You need to figure out what is causing you to act out and sin? Billy Graham talks about the fact that sin is pleasurable for a short season but then comes to the consequences of separation from God that you are experiencing now. I do not have a magic wand to make things all right for you, but I can tell you that prayer works, reading your Bible (at home), getting someone to help keep you accountable, and just commit yourself to God and ask Him to deliver you from your lust and sin.
Here is a page that addresses pornography that can be of help to you. http://needencouragement.com/pornography/

If what I have shared with you has been of help to you, please email me back if you have any questions or have more you would want to say?
I pray that you take your concern to God in prayer each day and that you open your Bible for at least 5-10 each morning after you pray.
God bless you, and may He give you strength and self-control, which is one of the Fruit of the Spirit.

God Can Brake You Chains Of Porn And Anger!

Pornography or purity?


 
Subject: Self/mental sin
Message Body:
Good night. I am a 25-year-old female. I have a problem that I have been trying to correct on my own for some years now. However, I am always experiencing relapse on my journey of change.  Since I was around 14 years old, I have always had an issue of consistent arousal.  I knew, however, I was going through puberty, and it would get getting overtime. By the time I reach 18, it got worst to the point where I’ll be in class trying to focus with no success, something I experience spontaneous orgasm in class sometimes in the taxi home. I am now 25 years old, and it has not gotten any better for me, and I am so tired of living like this.  Please help. Thank you.
Thank you for your counseling 
Hi Monique,
I am glad that you reached out for help. Have you been praying about this situation of yours? http://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/ That would be my first suggestion.
After that, you might want to confide in your doctor. Maybe he or she could suggest something to help you.
Another thing you might want to look into will be to analyze if something triggers you when you get aroused.
Do you have a pastor or church you attend? That would be a good place to find support. http://needencouragement.com/find-a-good-church/
The last thing I can think of would be to find yourself an accountability partner to help you. http://needencouragement.com/accountability-partner/

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

Monique, if what I have shared has been of help to you, I pray that you apply these things to your life and ask God to do good work for you. Do not give up. God can do more than you can imagine.

James 1:5If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Keep praying, or if you have not been praying, start praying right now!
God Bless you,
Bill Greguska

Subject: Can Sin be forgiven by truly confessing to God and start a new life?
Message Body:
Hi there, I am here just wanna ask for advice based on God’s words. My English is not good, but I hope you understand.
I have three good friends, my best friend. But for about two years, I have lied to them about something. And until now, they believe it. I never tell the truth.
It is about my high school final exam result. I lied to them. I told them I got straight A’s.
After that, they are now studying at college. All of them are in a different college.
They ask me where I pursue my study.
I lied to them. I said, “I study at matriculation college.” it is a college of science.
I even lied to them about my college result.
I lied to them so many times that I cannot count.
So it’s been two years since I lied to them. I am afraid, to tell the truth. Because I know my friend would be mad and upset. I know they well, whoever lies to them, they consider the person is a toxic in their life forever just like what they did to someone who is dearest to them.
And then today, I cannot bear this sin anymore. I pray to God to forgive my sin that I lied to them.
Because of what I did to them this whole time, I don’t feel like I have a connection between me anymore. Sometimes they chat with me, I did not respond. I just wanted to stay away from them. I want to get lost contact with them.
I want advice. What should I do?  is it enough to just confess to God about my sin? I truly wish to be forgiven. Or is it a wise choice to confess to them? But I am so ashamed and afraid to tell them. I don’t want to be their friend anymore. What do God’s Words say?
Please pray for me.
Can I just pray to God and confess only to Him and not to my friend?
I don’t want to take the worst step.
Help me.. thank you. God Bless
Hi Janer,
It is apparent that you have lied to some people recently, and now you are wondering what to do about it. Have you prayed to God about this? Do you know you can have forgiveness of the sin of your lies? Read this scripture, and it will tell you what happens when you get right with God.
1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
But keep in mind that it is not only confessing the sin of your lies. You also have to repent (turn away from) your sins. It is up to your friends if they want to forgive you, but the scripture tells you that if you confess to God, He will forgive you. People are different than God in that way. Also, keep in mind that God can forgive you, but sometimes the consequences of our sins remain. (in other words, your friends might not trust you for a while, or possibly forever?)
You may also want to reflect on why you feel you needed to lie? Knowing that could be very valuable to you so you can stop doing that in the future now.
Janer, if what I have shared with you has been helpful, and if you have more you would like to share, then feel free to email me back. Otherwise, I will pray that the Holy Spirit can convict you and help turn you away from your sin. God loves you and wants to forgive you, but you need to ask for forgiveness and repent from continuing to lie.
May God bless you, and make His face shine down upon you, and give you grace and peace.
Bill Greguska
King David’s Prayer After He Sinned

Psalm 51

1 Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
blot out my transgressions.
2 Wash away all my iniquity
and cleanse me from my sin.
3 For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is always before me.
4 Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
and justified when you judge.
5 Surely I was sinful at birth,
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
6 Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
you taught me wisdom in that secret place.
7 Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
8 Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
9 Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit to sustain me.
13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways,
so that sinners will turn back to you.
14 Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O God,
you who are God my Savior,
and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.
15 Open my lips, Lord,
and my mouth will declare your praise.
16 You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it;
you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings.
17 My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart
you, God, will not despise.

Subject: Hardships
Message Body:
Want to discuss privately
Hi Hailee,
Our coaching ministry is only via email. If you want to email us, that would be okay, but if you would rather speak to someone, you can call 800-633-3446. It is sometimes hard to get ahold of them, though.
Meanwhile, before you decide what you will do, I strongly suggest that you pray about your situation. God is never too busy to hear your prayers. http://needencouragement.com/how-to-pray/
James 1:5  If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
I pray that you will seek counsel and that God opens the right door(s) for you. Remember that God loves you and is available to you.
Bill Greguska

Subject: trust issue
Message Body:
I am in a situation that I am willing to marry to handle my mental health, but the fear makes me not marry an unknown person.
Hi Mahi,
I am glad you reached out to share what is on your mind. Although I read what you wrote over a couple of times and even read it slowly, I am still unsure what you are trying to say ultimately, but I will do my best to help you.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
I will try to comment on your statement. God’s word says that it is not good to be alone, yet if you have any fear of getting married, I would suggest praying about it and asking God what He wants you to do personally. Some people are better off staying single, but at the same time, it is a blessing to be married to the right person.
Whatever you do, do not do it under your own will and your feelings. Make sure you pray about what God is telling you what is best for your life.
If what I have shared has been helpful and if you wish to clarify what you said a little better, please email me back. I will be praying for you to seek God and His will over your own will. You will be much happier if you do this.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways, submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
May God bless you, and may He clearly show you what to do.
Bill Greguska

Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “Forming a circle of Christian friends virtually, then meeting them near my house in-person for coffee.”

Message Body:
Thank you for such a wonderful ministry.  The world needs websites such as yours!  God bless you all and keep serving Him.
I have made some choices in my life and believe they will all have good consequences.  I’m sure most mature people know about choices and their consequences, good or bad.  One option I have made is to get married one day (for which I’m taking steps to be prepared for, and I need to be spiritually, emotionally, and financially ready, and I’m working on all of these), so I want to find guys and girls who live in my area, meeting them online first.  Kind of like a dating website, but I want to contact them through live text chat or phone calls in the beginning before meeting them in-person.
Then, I want my future wife to start “sticking out like a sore thumb” from the rest of the crowd.  Not because I’m adopting “worldly ways” to impress her and attract her to me, but for her to see that my walk matches my talk and think to herself, “Wow!  This guy really does seek first the Kingdom Of God, and he puts me and others first.  He asks me questions about my life and actually shows an interest in me and what I’m going through.  I want to get involved with him, make him my boyfriend, and marry him one day!”  Of course, there’s also the issue of making sure we’re both compatible with each other as far as culture, morals, and common interests are concerned, but I’m sure God will take care of that.  I live in the Palm Springs area in California, USA.
Please. would you guys pray with me about this and spread the word about where I live?  Advertise this prayer request and e-mail I’ve sent you anywhere you like.
God Bless, and I hope to hear from you guys soon!
Roy.
Hi Roy,
I hear you saying that you made some choices. I hope you prayed about them and sought counsel from those who know you the best.
It is just a reminder that marriage is a lot of work, yet it has many positive parts. Make sure when you do start to date that you keep romance out of the mix. The reason I say that is because romance fogs your mind up and makes it hard to make responsible decisions that will affect you for the rest of your life.
I pray that the Lord leads you and guides you every step of the way. I also pray that you seek wise counsel throughout your plans!
Proverbs 3:5-6Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways, submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
God bless you, and may He word mightly in your life!
Bill Greguska

Subject: Getting back on track
Message Body:
Hi, I am Abbie McDaniel. I am 21 years old, and I have just moved back home from an emotional, abusive relationship. There was a time I went my own way and pushing God out of my life, and it is still an issue. I feel like if I could have someone help me get back on the right path, I would feel myself again. To be honest, I never thought I would see the day where I would need Christian counseling.
Hi Abbie,
I am very sorry to hear about your abusive relationship. It is wise and fortunate that your parents could let you move back in. I can only assume that you were living with a guy, and he was not the gentleman you were hoping for.
Matthew 6:15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
My advice is to take an inventory of your life and decide what is going well and what is going wrong. Then sit down and pray and think of what you can do differently in the future. If you were living with a guy, I would strongly suggest not trying that again. But that is water over the dam. God is a God of second and third chances. I would advise you to confess your sins and ask God to forgive you to start with.
1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
Practically, it would be beneficial to consider the following suggestions to follow.
  1. Ask God in prayer to help you get back on the right path.
  2. Thank God for all your blessings.
  3. Make sure you eat healthy and drink plenty of water.
  4. Be sure to get regular exercise.
  5. Try to get 7-8 hours of sleep each night.
  6. Forgive your ex-roommate and anyone else you have bad feelings towards.
  7. Do not allow negative thoughts for the devil to get into your head.
  8. Make sure you keep social with your friends (with social distancing, of course).
  9. Be sure you laugh because laughter is good for us all.
  10. Try to avoid alcohol and drugs. They will only make things worse.
  11. Be good to yourself; learn to be best friends with yourself.
  12. Try to reach out to help someone else. Helping others can be a great way to not only help others but yourself too.
If what I have shared with you has been helpful, please feel free to email me back if you have more to say or have any questions.
Here is a link that you might like to help you avoid toxic relationships in the future. http://needencouragement.com/toxic-relationships/
I will be praying that your time living back home can be productive and that you can grow closer to your parents and, ultimately, God!
May you find the comfort of God during the next few weeks and months as you start to get back on track!
Bill Greguska

Subject: Opportunities
Message Body:
I am a former substitute teacher and have been jobless since March 15th of this year. I miss working with the children. I’m wondering if there are any opportunities for me with your organization. I am a strong Christian and enjoy mentoring women, children, and families. Thanks in advance for getting back to me.
Hi Vivian,
I am sorry to hear that you are not working at this time. I pray that God opens the right doors for you and closes the other doors, so you do not waste time on those fruitless pursuits. He has your life in His hands, just trust Him, and He will make Himself known to you in ways you may not have thought.
  1. As far as helping NeedEncouragement.com, it would not be a paid position, but we could use your prayers for those who email us for emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual needs. Please pray that God works through our ministry, and as a result, people will come to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ.
  2. You could get on our mailing and be encouraged by the emails that I send out weekly, and forward them to others on your mailing list.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Besides these ways of helping, God has been good to our ministry and reaching those in need.
Let me know if what I have shared is something that you are interested in helping us?
May God bless you and open the right doors in your life that need to be opened.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways, submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Bill Greguska

Subject: Complicated Relationship
Message Body:
I have been in a relationship with my significant other for a year and a half. He has recently got a promotion, and since then, the relationship has become an afterthought. There are little to no plans for us to see each other, and if plans are made, something comes up, and they are canceled without apology. No plans are made for the following day or week.
I want to understand that things at work have become more hectic, but his actions and attitudes have made understanding really difficult.
In addition to this, anytime I bring up a concern, he no longer says he loves me or calls me baby. He calls me by my last name instead.
Currently, he hasn’t texted in 4 days, and I really don’t want to text him this time. That way, I can tell whether or not he is as invested as he should be. It hurts, and he shows little concern for how I feel. Very little concern. I have been praying about it. But God knows best. I am asking for advice because I am open wide if he comes, but I don’t think he really appreciates me being here for him. He has reached a state of complacency and disrespect. And he is speedy to talk about how he enjoys being alone and his solitude.

I have important things doing as well, but I think he needs to learn how to be proactive and, in addition to this, regardless of work time, make time for the person you claim that you intend to marry. It requires work.

This is just a summary of my frustration. Chris
Hi Chris,
I am glad you reached out. You might think it is a strange suggestion, BUT did you ever think of talking to him face to face and get your questions answered?
As a significant other “girlfriend who is interested in more,” you might want to find out the facts before you make a judgment against your boyfriend. If he just got a promotion, I am sure he is swamped. That is probably why you heard him say that he enjoys being alone and his solitude. Also, if you remind him gently, he might say words of endearment to you again. Complacency can settle in a relationship without too much effort, but again, a gentle reminder to him can hopefully fix that. Since this is your problem (his too), you need to speak up probably via phone call to set up a time to talk.
Matthew 7:8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
You might respectfully ask him one or more of these questions. (you decide if the questions are appropriate for you and your boyfriend). By the way, are you guys living together?
  1. Have I hurt your feeling recently, and you never mentioned to me?
  2. Why haven’t you texted me for 4 days?
  3. Can’t you tell that we have drifted apart somewhat?
  4. How do you feel our relationship is going?
  5. How much do you really love me?
If what I have shared has been helpful, please email me if you have more to add or have any questions?
I pray that you take all your cares and concerns to God in prayer, and you use wisdom rather than just feelings to resolve your problems.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

Subject: I need Help
Message Body:
I really need help. I am struggling. I am walking away from the right path. I want to talk to someone about it.
Hi Florence,
Thanks for reaching out, I hope to help you, but you would need to let me know precisely what is involved in your struggle?
Unfortunately, we do not do phone counseling, but if you want to email me back, I will try my best to point you to the Lord! There is a phone number of a ministry that does phone counseling 800-633-3446. They seem to be pretty busy, so you would need to call them possibly a couple of times?
I think it would be good to ask you if you have taken your problem to God in prayer already? That is the first place to go, which would be right on your knees in prayer.

James 1:5  If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

I hope and pray to hear back from you. In the meantime, keep your eyes on the Lord and ask Him when you pray what else you ought to do to get help for your situation?

http://needencouragement.com/free-christian-counseling/

Matthew 7:7-8“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

 
God bless you, and may he give you the direction you need.
Bill Greguska

Subject: Counseling
Message Body:
Hi, my name is Aubree. I have been really having a lot of anxiety lately about the coronavirus and what this means. I am scared to go to heaven as I love my life here on earth. It is terrifying for me.
Hi Aubree,
It sounds to me that you are probably an anxious type of person. Please read the following scripture slowly and out loud.

Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Listening to you talk with me in your last email, it sounds as though you are struggling with your Christian faith. Yes, the Lord WILL come again. It says that we do not know when it could be in the scriptures, maybe in our lifetime, but then perhaps not.  If you are “Born Again,” you should not have any fear of your eternity. Live your life to the fullest to honor and glorify God, and if there are any unconfessed sins in your life, be sure you confess them and repent from them.
1 John 1:9-10 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar, and his word is not in us.
If you desire to find a church to help you with your insecurities, here is a link that can help you find a good Bible-believing church.
Hebrews 10:25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Aubree, if you are confused with anything I have shared with you, please feel free to email me back to help clarify anything you need.
Remember to try to live your life now while you are still alive, so that one day you can hear the Lord say to you as it says in:
“Matthew 25:21. “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’
God bless you!
Bill Greguska


Subject: Re: NeedEncouragement.com “Counseling”

Thank you so much for your response. My fear is also that the Lord is coming soon, as I’ve heard people say since the pandemic. I don’t know for sure, but I’m scared when it all happens. I love God, but I’m scared of how long it will take and being face to face with him. It’s all so overwhelming that it could happen.
Hi Aubree,
I am glad you reached out to share your concern. If it comforts you at all, you are not the only one in the world that Coronaviris is affecting. It affects each of us (me too), but I do not allow it to overtake my thoughts or emotions. I do not like wearing a mask. I am sure you do not, either, and all the restrictions that come with this pandemic.
Having said that, I encourage you to keep your thoughts and emotions things that you have control over. Notice carefully what is written in:
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
As far as your fear of going to heaven, I never heard it said that way before. I think I understand what you are saying, yet I used to think the way you think when I was younger, but now that I am 60 years old, I look forward to the time when the Lord takes me home to heaven. I not in a hurry. Whenever He says my days are finished, I am ready to go. My only “wish or fear” is that I do not have to suffer from bad health, but I am not afraid at all as far as being with the Lord.

 

John 12:25 Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
Maybe if you could follow my analogy of being here on earth would be like going to McDonald’s, (yes they have great hamburgers and fries and shakes), heaven will be a full banquette like you I have never experienced before. I can only assume that you are pretty young, but I assure you that Corinaviris will pass over before we know it, then there will be other problems here on earth to deal with. I say this to encourage you to keep your eyes on the Lord. There will be many problems in this world, but God equips us with more than we need to get by. He gives us our daily bread.

 

John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
I hope what I have shared with you has been of help. If it has been, please feel free to email me back if you have more to say or have any questions.
I pray that you will find your peace in our Lord Jesus Christ, even if you do not know Him real well yet. I pray that you will make it your goal to get to know and understand that God loves you and has a plan for your life.
God bless you,
Bill Greguska