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Below you will find questions and responses to those questions. We take time to answer each email that we get with the greatest care possible answering with Christian responses the best we can. Here are some encouraging scriptures having to do with finding hope.  ~Bill Greguska

 

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Question:

I am a 27 yr old mother of 2 beautiful and smart daughters, but I am also a hard struggling addict. I use to be happy and I could hear the lord when he spoke to me, like anything I asked of him would almost manifest itself he answered my prayers so quick, and I love him and respectfully fear him but I am afraid he’s given up on me after relapsing every other day I tell myself I’m going to quit. I feel hopeless for telling myself right before I stick the devil’s sword in me, ” Lord, please forgive me again, I’m so sorry, I’m sick, and I need you!” Please, can someone help me before I lose everything I love, or everything I love loses me? There are not many rehabs in Louisiana much fewer ones that let your children come, plus my husband doesn’t know my addiction goes this deep. Please help! Thank you and bless you if you can help someone as hopeless like me who seems to love their sin more than God our Father but I won’t let the devil take me that far, I still and will forever love my Father!!!

Response:

Dear Friend,

Thank you for reaching out to us, it is apparent that you have had enough of your addiction. My first suggestion that I give to everyone is to pray about your situation. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

I too had an addiction to alcohol and drugs when I was younger, I quit using when I was 26 years old, and it was one of the wisest and the best thing I could do for myself with God’s help. You can stop with God’s help too. (No God did not turn His back on you, you turned your back on Him, but He will take you back like the prodigal son, or in your case prodigal daughter) He took me back!

It does not sound like you are attending a church right now, but a church with good fellowship could be just what you need at this time. NeedEncouragement.com/find-a-good-church

Do you have anyone who can keep you accountable? NeedEncouragement.com/accountability-partner

You have two options right now.

  1. You can continue in your addiction and keep sinking lower and lower and harm your daughters with your addiction, and ultimately end up divorced.
  2. Or you can get sincere and transparent, and reach out for help so that you can find the joy that you so deeply miss.

Just the fact that you have reached out today tells me that you want help.

  1. Get on your knees and pray to God to remove your addiction.
  2. Level with your husband to let him know that you are struggling, if he is any kind of good man, he will want to help you!
  3. Stop seeing whoever is supplying your addiction.
  4. Get rid of any drugs or alcohol in your home.
  5. Get a counselor and or an accountability partner to help keep you on the straight and narrow.

I think these links might be of help to you:

NeedEncouragement.com/my-drug-and-alcohol-problem

NeedEncouragement.com/alcohol-and-drugs

NeedEncouragement.com/blinded-by-addiction

NeedEncouragement.com/recovery-principles

I will be praying that God heals you from your addiction and that the suggestions I have shared with you will be helpful to you. Keep I mind that God can take this addiction from you if you hand it over to Him and not keep taking it back.

1 Corinthians 10:13  No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

If you need to talk to a trained Christian counselor, you can call 800-633-3446

May God bless you and show you the way out of your addiction.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

Continued

Thank you so much, Mr. Bill, I will continue praying and having faith in the lord, and I will also read the links you sent, you can tell you yourself actually replied back to me, and I thank you for taking your time out to lend a helping hand. Nobody really knows what one kind word can do for someone. May God continue to bless you thanks so much!

Continued

Good Morning,

You are very welcome, now commit yourself to get back on the right track. DO NOT think you can do it in your power, because you can not; you need God’s help and the help of those people that God puts in your life to help you. It would help if you were very serious about this because unfortunately, a half-hearted effort will not accomplish your desired goal.

I will pray that you make it the rest of the week without using, then after accomplishing that, keep on moving forward, you can do it with God’s help, believe me, I did. With God all things are possible!

Proverbs 3:5-6  Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

God bless you,

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

P.S. I see you are up late at night sending this email, so try to get back on a regular sleeping, eating pattern which will be of help to you too, I say this because I care and you need your strength and health if you want to get clean!

 


 

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Hi Sarah,
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Take care and God bless you!
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Question:

I have a difficult situation, my brother James died in May, Mom had a stroke that day, and died in June. I had probate court, cremations, memorials, then clearing and shelling mom’s house (the family home), getting a new place, then my husband filed for divorce because I spend too much time in Ohio (we had been living in England). Now that I have cleared out of our English home, I can finally relax, and it is hitting me hard every morning.

 

Response:

Hi Michelle,

I am sorry to hear that you have been in a storm time in your life. It makes it hard when many things happen relatively at the same time. It is wise that you are reaching out for help. It sounds like you are going through some grieving and you need to be patient with yourself.  NeedEncouragement.com/grief

If you believe in the Lord, you can take refuge in him during these hard times that you went through, and thank Him for his faithfulness to see you through.

The first thing I would do would be to pray to God about all that you have gone through and thank Him and ask Him for wisdom what to do now. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

I have been through some difficult times in my life, and I have found that prayer, fellowship with other believers, taking care of my health, exercise, eating correctly, and being with good friends and family members for support.

One of my favorite scriptures is 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him, for He cares for you.

I hope and pray that what I shared will be of help to you, and I pray that you find healing and hope in Jesus Christ and your faith will grow because of all that you have been through.

Feel free to call 800-633-3446

May God bless you and keep you safe as you walk with Him,

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

Question:

Hello. May I please chat with someone online.

Response:

Hi Sana,

To get right to your question about wanting to chat with someone, you can visit NeedEncouragement.com/chat

It is apparent to anyone that life can be very complicated at times, but whatever you are going through, keep in mind that others like myself have gone through similar situations and have made been able to make it through.

I wanted to die two times in my life, once when I was in high school with all the pressures of school and problems because of drugs and alcohol. The second time was when my wife left me, and all it seemed I could think about was wishing that the pain would end in both circumstances. I am thankful that I reached out for help like you are doing, you are going to be okay.

A couple of questions for you to think about to get you started on the right path:

  1. Are you praying to God at all? Have you asked God to forgive you for everything you have done wrong? 1 John 1:8-9
  2. Are you getting enough sleep at night 7-8 hours each night
  3. Are you eating healthy?
  4. Are you getting any exercise?
  5. Are you avoiding alcohol and drugs?

The first thing I always suggest to anyone who contacts me, it to pray about your situation. Ask God what you need to do.

It says in James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

If you are not familiar with praying, check out NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

I encourage you to go to your pastor at your church, if you do not have a pastor, go to NeedEncouragement.com/find-a-good-church.

Whatever you are going through right now, I am not minimizing how badly you feel about it, so please trust me when I tell you.

Matthew 19:26  Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

God knows your pain, so how about doing what it says in 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.

May God bless you and keep you safe in His presence. I feel your pain, and I will pray that my advice to you will be of help to you!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

My husband and I are Christians he moved out Dec 12, and we have been in communication a little but only via text. Tonight he texted and said he was driving by and wanted to know if I wanted to be intimate with him. After spending 2 hours prior to telling me, I’m not a godly wife.

Response:

Hi Kandy,

I am glad you have reached out for some help.

  1. What does your pastor say about your husband moving out?
  2. Are you talking about getting some counseling soon?
  3. What is stopping the two of you from forgiving one another?

It sure sounds like some type of broken communication and or misinterpreting what each of you has said, without clearly understanding each other. Of course, you understand that leads to hurt feelings, which leads to angry feelings, which leads to feelings of revenge and bitterness, and attitudes of I am right, and you are wrong that is inevitable.

I strongly suggest each of you, at least you, for now, to take an inventory of your heart to God, and confess all that you have done, said, or thought of to your husband. Hopefully, he can do the same, but in the meantime, you take care of your business with God.

Next time the two of you talk, try to repeat what he just said so that you understood exactly what he meant? (for example, when you thought he said you were an ungodly wife, possibly he might have intended to say that something you said or did was not godly, which could be a possibility since we are all sinners right? None of us are perfect, and we have all fallen short of God’s glory)

 

My point is that if you backtrack to the point of why your husband left or was asked to leave, you will find a trail of unhealthy communication all along the road — each incident which leads to hurt feeling, angry feeling, feeling of revenge and bitterness pulls you further apart and is not pleasing to God.

 

You need to let go of the past and start to rebuild, if not you will be divorced before you know it. If you want your marriage to last, you need to take charge and do something about it. Forgiveness is a part of this equation.

 

Without knowing more about what is going on between the two of you. Seeing things through the eyes of a man, either this might be a way that he is trying to tell you that he still loves you. Or it could be a selfish, self-seeking idea on his part, and I have no way of judging his intentions.

 

But, if you want your marriage to stay alive, you need to be open to communication and spending time with each other, unless it is not a safe situation for you to be in.

 

If I were you, I would welcome him over, but before you got intimate, you need to do some talking and soul searching openly with each other.

 

Maybe he is thinking that he made a mistake by moving out. The Bible does talk about not withholding sexuality from each other unless you both agree that for a short time it would be appropriate. So bottom line, I definitely would entertain the idea for you to be intimate with your husband unless you are in fear of him.

 

I pray that you will be open to mending your bridges quickly because if not, your marriage will be in jeopardy!!!

 

Here are a couple of links that might be of help to you.

  1. needencouragement.com/how-to-forgive
  2. NeedEncouragement.com/better-marriage
  3. NeedEncouragement.com/marriage-tips

Here is some homework for you to do this week:

  1. Pray for your husband each morning and evening and during the day when you can.
  2. Pray to God to soften both of your hearts.
  3. Confess to God (and your husband also) anything you have done that needs to be forgiven.
  4. Be willing to forgive whatever your husband has said or done to you. (if we do not forgive others, our Father in heaven will not forgive us)
  5. Write a letter to your husband to tell him you are sorry for upsetting him and that you forgive him for upsetting you.

This is a lot for you to do, you can either work hard to keep your marriage alive, focus not on what he did to you or said to you, but instead focus on how you are going to get him to want to come back to live with you.

You have a chance right now to save your marriage, if you procrastinate much longer and refuse to go to God for help, you will find yourself divorced and very miserable for a number of years, believe me, I have been through what you are going through, I fought the good fight and did not give up on my marriage, yet my ex got weak and gave up.

I am asking you to be strong and not give up. Do whatever it takes to stay married. Divorce is extremely painful and leaves scars. Take the high road like I did, so that even if your marriage does not work, (which we hope it starts to mend right way), you will know in your heart of hearts that you did all you could do to keep your marriage vows. You can not control your husband, but you can pray for him!!!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

Hi, I really need advice on this relationship I am in. I am a Christian I believe in Jesus and I want to know what God is saying is best for my life. I need some advice on my relationship, please.

Response:

Hi Pteris,

You have not given me much to advise you on, but I can tell you one thing for sure, is that you ought to pray about it, ask God for wisdom, it says in

James 1:5  If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

I hope that what I shared can be an excellent start to resolve things in your relationship.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

Counseling question, I live in Sydney Australia do you offer free Christian counseling?

Response:

Hi Vicki,

The free Christian counseling is based in the United States, yet with the internet and phone, you can chat with someone. NeedEncouragement.com/chat or, you can call 800-633-3446 and talk with someone. https://chataboutjesus.com

Also, we have these Question/Response pages, that we share our responses to emails that we get.

Keep in mind the best counsel is that from Jesus Christ via prayer! NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

What about talking with a close friend or pastor at your church? If you are not attending a church right now, you would be wise to look into finding one, I have a tool to find a church, but it might only be in the US, but it is worth looking into. NeedEncouragement.com/find-a-good-church

I hope what I have shared is helpful to you.

Proverbs 15:22  Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed.

God bless you and may He keep you near to Him daily!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

I have a bunch of trauma throughout my life my faith in God keeps me going, but my anxiety and depression always get the rest of me can afford counseling I just need somebody to talk to supportive

Response:

Hi Ashley,

I am glad that you are reaching out for help, although I would suggest that you find a church with some church fellowship that would be able to meet your needs. NeedEncouragement.com/find-a-good-church

Another thing I strongly suggest that you start praying about your concerns to God and He will start to show you the way that you ought to go. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

Here are two links that will address a couple of your concerns.

  1. NeedEncouragement.com/anxiety
  2. NeedEncouragement.com/depression

 

You can also call 800-633-3446 to talk to someone who can help you, or you can chat at NeedEncouragement.com/chat

Philippians 4:6  Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

I hope that what I have shared with you will be something that will help you in your situation! Having a church to give you support and encouragement is very important. Keep praying and keep close to God, and I pray that God puts some special people in your life to help to continue to point you to Jesus.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

How does one go about forgiving someone who is toxic, but doesn’t wish to be around that person anymore? There is no love, honesty, or respect in this relationship.  A family member has chosen to judge my children and me. She has made it known her judgments.  I feel I can forgive her, but don’t know if I can be around her or expose my children to her as she is not in a place of reconciliation.

She has told me she wants to move forward but has warned me that she will still be sarcastic with me and that I need to thicken my skin. It would be great to move on as this has robbed me of so much time emotionally. You know, I have read all kinds of things on forgiveness, and I think I’m at a place to forgive. Realizing that she has some issues with grief (from a death in the family) and has taken it out on my children and me. I do have compassion for her and feel sorry for her that she is in a bad place.  However, I don’t want to expose myself to her. Does that mean I’m not forgiving?

Response:

Hi Ellie,

With what you have shared, it reminds me of a scripture from Romans 12:18 “As far as possible as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” I just shared that scripture with my grandson the other day because I know how important it is to be at peace with others.

Maybe taking a break from being around your family member for a while might defuse the emotions that seem to be flying freely.

You may just limit your contact just to text messages, so she doesn’t think you are running from her. Assure her that you are trying to figure out how to resolve things.

Before you do anything though, take this situation to God in prayer. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

He will give you wisdom on how to deal with your family members and protect your children at the same time. If you can think of something that you need to apologize to her for your part in anything, so that might start the healing process, find out what is she upset about specifically or what did you do wrong in her eyes specifically? Admitting your part would most likely defuse the situation. Humbly apologize of any harsh words or anything like you will discover the love in her heart that has been covering up by pain and anger begin to resurface in a good way again.

When we forgive someone, that does not mean we totally forget what they have said or done, but it does put it in the past where it belongs. Then you can proceed to allow the other person to build trust back into the relationship. God’s word says in Matthew 6:15, But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. That scripture alone was enough for me to realize how important forgiveness is.

I will pray for you, and I hope that what I have shared will help your situation!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

 

Hi Good evening,

My name is Blessing and I am 23 years old. I am confused, I am dating a guy who has 1-year-old child, he says he and his baby’s mother doesn’t see things the same way anymore and they had broken up before she found out she was pregnant so they decided to keep the baby but they aren’t dating anymore even their families are aware of it. I met him a month before the baby was born.

Am I wrong for dating him as a Christian? My family doesn’t want us together because he has a child, but to me, I feel no one in this world isn’t guiltless, so it isn’t a barrier as long as we are having a plan for a better future. I don’t know what to do about my family and make them understand that so far we are happy and I have never been this happy with anyone like him; with him, I don’t have to pretend to be something else, I can confide him, and he assists me however way he can. Plus opportunity they say to come but once I don’t want to make a mistake to let him go without giving him the benefit of the doubt that he means well for me.

He proposed that we move in together since we stay in the same city and on rent so moving in together we could save costs. What do I do? Am confused, I do love him

Please help me,

Blessing

Response:

Hi Blessing,

It is quite apparent that you are feeling torn in two directions, what your brain is thinking and what your emotions are feeling. I am sorry that this is hard on you to decide, I will give you my opinion and share what God’s word says. My first thought is that you need to start praying about the situation that you are in. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

Without knowing more details, it sounds like you are not wrong to want to date your boyfriend, but your parents who are seeing things more objectively are counseling you not to.

You are entertaining the idea of moving in with him which increases the probability to break up or if you get married to be divorced. (living together increase the odds for divorce)

Then try to put your emotions to the side for a minute and look at it from the perspective of the baby.

1. What does God want you to do in this situation?

2. Are you willing to have a baby that is not yours in your life having to share responsibilities with the mother every other week if that?

3. Do you get along with the mother?

4. How does your boyfriend treat you in general?

5. How does your boyfriend talk about his baby and the baby’s mother?

You have only been dating less than a year, and it sounds like you are putting your life on hold for him.

If you are having sex with him, my suggestion would be to abstain from sex until he would be willing to marry you.

NeedEncouragement.com/sex-outside-marriage

It is interesting that I have done similar to what you are involved in. Years ago I dated my daughter’s mother, got her pregnant, she broke up with me, life was chaotic.

I am not telling you what to do. You will have to decide for yourself. Re-read what I wrote and think clearly about the questions I asked and comments I made.

But the one thing I will firmly tell you is to NOT move in with him, especially since you are a Christian. Even if you were not a Christian, I would not suggest moving in together.

I will be praying for clarity in your decision, remember whatever you decide will make an affect your life positively or negatively down the road.

Proverbs 3:5-6  Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Bill Greguska

 

I hope that what I have shared helps give you some food for thought in making a wise choice!

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

Sometimes I feel like giving up on life I’m too stressed out I messed up in my relationship I feel like nothing is going good for me. Please Please Please help!

Casey

Response:

Hi Casey,

There is an expression I would like to share with you that says, “If you keep on doing the same things, you are bound to get the same results.”

  • Are you getting enough sleep? Exercise? Eating healthy?
  • Do you pray about things like your relationship? NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray
  • Do you have a close relationship with God?
  • Do you tend to say yes to things when you ought to say no?

If you believe your relationship has potential and you are willing to put effort into it, then that sounds like a good plan, but if your relationship is a toxic one, maybe it is time to move on if you have done all you can do to make it healthy.

I would suggest thinking about my comments, and if you need more help, you can call 800-633-3446 or chat with someone at NeedEncouragement.com/chat

Isaiah 41:10  So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Joshua 1:9  Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

I pray that what I have shared will be of help to you! Remember to keep praying!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

Hello,  I have struggled with alcohol for many years.  It would be great if you could point me to find a person that could talk with me and encourage me.

I love the Lord and have been a Christian my whole life. I am having a great desire to be a good wife and mom.  I am ready to be free of this. – Rochelle

Response:

Hi Rochelle,

I am delighted that you are ready! I would suggest that you pray about your situation and ask the Lord for His help. Besides God, there is no magic wand to rid yourself of your alcohol problem. If there were, I would tell you, and I would have used it myself!

Without going into treatment, I would strongly suggest considering the following suggestion that has helped me in my recovery. Figure out what makes sense to you, and what you think would work. Decide what you are going to try, and then give it all you have, trusting that God will help you!

  1. Pray and keep praying each day
  2. Get back into your Bible
  3. Start writing a journal
  4. Find yourself a good church if you do not have one already
  5. Rally the troops to help you. Your pastor, best friend, parents, husband, etc.
  6. Get honest with your husband about your drinking and ask for his help.
  7. Put a picture of your children in your bathroom mirror to remind you to stay sober.
  8. Replace drinking for some other activity
  9. Find an accountability partner
  10. Find a counselor
  11. Fill your mind with whatever is good, true, right, pure, lovely, admirable, or praiseworthy, think about such things.
  12. Reward yourself when you have gone three days without drinking (ice cream, etc.)
  13. Reevaluate your diet
  14. Get proper sleep
  15. Get exercise each week
  16. Drink more water
  17. Chew gum
  18. Stay out of bars
  19. Get all alcohol out of your house
  20. Avoid all people you have drank with without exception
  21. Consider going to AA or NA meetings
  22. Call 800-633-3446
  23. Visit NeedEncouragement.com/alcohol-and-drugs
  24. Visit NeedEncouragement.com/my-drug-and-alcohol-problem
  25. Visit NeedEncouragement.com/accountability-partner

Rochelle, just to inform you… you are in a battle, in other words, you need to know your weapons (God’s word, prayer, fellowship, and the list I made you above, and you need to know your enemy (devil) who is out to kill, steal and destroy your life.

It would help if you were in this effort 100% because any half effort will not be enough to have victory through my experience. I played games with alcohol and drugs for 10, until I got sober and sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Give God a try and the suggestions I have shared with you for 60 days, and you will see for yourself that there are hope and victory just around the corner! I have been clean and sober since June 25, 1986, and if I could do it with God’s help, you can too! I am 58 years old, and I do not miss drinking one bit! God even helped me quit smoking since January 10, 1988. All I know is that God loves us and that God is good!

May God bless you and give you the strength you need. 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

I need advice in a current relationship. I have a really difficult relationship, and I need the advice to confront it, and I want to know what to do.  It is complicated to explain through text.  We were living together with plans of getting married but now we separated, I believe The Lord wanted us to separate to make this right, but now it’s just hurt because she lives in another state. Marco

Response:

Hi Marco,

Your relationship with your girlfriend I can understand is important to you, and I think the time away from each other can be a good thing for the two of you to clear your minds and get a better perspective.

I hope you guys can talk problems out so you can get beyond the challenges to the solutions.

You are saying that you want to marry your girlfriend. You need to ask yourself some questions, like are her goals in life similar to yours? Are you both believers in Jesus Christ? NeedEncouragement.com/get-right-with-god

Are your values compatible? How long have you been dating, I would hope at least one year because anyone can put their best foot forward for six months or 9 months or even more than a year without any clue that there are any problems.

These are some of the reasons that the divorce rate is so very high. NeedEncouragement.com/divorce Another question for you is, “How is your relationship with, God?” Without an understanding of what God’s will is, you are going to have problems maintaining a relationship with your girlfriend.

If you are serious about your relationship with your girlfriend and she seems interested too, then you might want to step back and determine how realistic your relationship is and if you are compatible enough to get married. If I were you, I would take my time and carefully evaluate things and in the meantime keep in touch with her via text messages and phone calls.

I pray that the advice I have given you will be of help to you. Keep praying and seek God for your answers.

If you want to talk with someone that can help, you can call 800-633-3446 or chat at NeedEncouragement.com/chat

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com


 

Question

This person requested that I did not share her question or what she wrote about concerning a situation with the suicide of her friend, which is very understandable and personal. So I will only share what I have suggested to her to do while keeping her anonymity.

Response

Hi Anonymous,

First of all, I am sure it helped you already by writing this out, whenever I put my thoughts on paper it puts them into perspective. Also to I assure you that I will keep what you have shared private and not put it on the internet.

Of course, grief is appropriate when someone you have known has taken their life. My former pastor told me once a long time ago, that feeling grief is so very necessary, yet there is a time when grief needs to be let go of. It has been about six months now for you, and I am thinking that depending on how much pain you are still experiencing, I think you would do well to seek some counsel for at least a short time. I do not know all your details, but six months you ought to be experiencing much healing and life returning to so-called normal, but who am I to say, because God created us all different.

Here are a couple of questions I would like to ask you that I hope will be of help.

  1. Do you have someone from your church or the pastor able to talk with you one on one at least for a few times, or even more if necessary?
  2. Have you been praying about this situation specifically?
  3. Are you taking care of your health, eating correctly, sleeping 7-8 hours a night, getting some exercise, avoiding alcohol and drugs?
  4. Did you do all you could do to help this young woman?
  5. Did you do anything to make her situation worse?
  6. Are you keeping yourself busy, so you do not have too much time to dwell on negative things?
  7. If you still feel bad, ask yourself “why” I do not see anything you did that was wrong, it is in your head that the devil is trying to steal, kill, and destroy you mentally. Do not fall for the lies of Satan. Cling to God and resist the devil.

It would be easy for me to say that you ought not to worry about this woman’s suicide, you had nothing to do with it. Your compassion seems to have gotten out of balance. Real it back in and continue with your artwork and teaching and get more involved with your relationship with God. Daily reading of your Bible in the morning, memorize some important scriptures, do some journaling, have fellowship with your Christian friends.

Yes, having to deal with what you did, is without a doubt very difficult. But with God all things are possible. Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.

I hope this has been of help to you, please contact 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or 800-633-3446

Or you can chat through a link from NeedEncouragement.com/chat

Grace, I pray that you find the peace that God intends for you to have. Trust in him, and he will show you the way. Also, remember that when you encourage someone (even though you have your own burdens), the encouragement that you give to others will be an encouragement to you. Trust me. It does work that way!!!

If you still need more help, keep praying, keep reading your Bible, keep going to church, keep fellowship with other believers, and if you still need more help, I suggest that you check out a Christian Life Coach that I think highly of, you can watch her videos for free but she does charge a reasonable price for the counseling.

Her name is Kris Reese you can find her at https://needencouragement.com/christian-life-coach/

God bless you and keep you safe,

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

Please pray for my husband. He does not love or wants me anymore. Maybe pray for me because I’m the one that can’t get through the pain. We’ve been married 45 years.

Response:

Hi Peggy,

I am very sorry to hear about your husband. I can only imagine the pain you are going through after 45 years of marriage. Without knowing more details, my first thought would be to suggest that you do not give up, but rather give this over to God in prayer. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

I was married for almost ten years, and my wife moved out and divorced me two years later, so I understand to a degree what you are going through. NeedEncouragement.com/chat or you can call 800-633-3446 to talk to someone who is a trained volunteer Christian counselor.

Have you sought after marriage counseling? If I were you, I would do all you can do to keep peace and keep your marriage intact. NeedEncouragement.com/marriage-tips

The pain of a marriage that is suffering can be great, yet the reason I did not divorce my ex was that I felt that what God put together, let no one pull apart. That was a consolation that I received for being faithful, even though my marriage was dissolved. Keep in mind that the pain of divorce can be as great or even greater in some cases.

You need to tap into your resources of the friendships that you have that can offer you some support. Even if your husband does not want to get counsel, I would suggest that you go alone to get some professional help. In the meantime, continue to pray and lean on your church and support system to get you through this.

If you could go to your husband and tell him that you are sorry and apologize for anything that you have done, this might soften his heart and make him look at his part in the problems of the marriage. (not that you are admitting things were your fault, but opening the door for forgiveness.needencouragement.com/forgiveness

Take things one day at a time and trust that God still has a plan for you and your marriage, even though it seems your husband’s heart has hardened a little, but you do not be the one who pursues a divorce, let it be him if need be, and your conscience will not be as much of a hindrance to you if worse came to worse.

Be strong not to argue with him, but rather show him love with your words and action. In the meantime, keep up things in your life the best you can, your diet, get regular 7-8 hours sleep, exercise, friendships, etc. I pray that whatever got into your husband to so-called not love you anymore, will leave him and he will come to his senses.

Guard your heart and do not give in to the negative thinking. Do what you can do to win him back since he is in some type of fog. If he comes back to loving you, that will be great, if not, at least you did all you could do to keep the marriage alive!

I pray for your marriage and peace in your heart. Trust God, and He will sustain you!

Remember that God loves you and He will always love you! Keep following the Lord…

NeedEncouragement.com/follow-Jesus-Christ

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

Hey, brother Bill, it’s Raven again I don’t know if you remember me but I’m the mom with the drug addiction. I was emailing you bc I recently read in the Bible Hebrews about if you keep willingly sinning that’s publicly shaming God. I’m scared that when I finally get tired of the sin that God won’t take me back, plus I’ve been baptized like 10 times, and about 2yrs ago I thought I finally got saved like I realized what it was actually all about, but now I feel I need another new start that gods not done with me. I’ve accidentally drifted from him, so I can only hear bits and pieces of him. I need some serious help without a lot of constructive criticism, I can take it, but I do enough of that for myself every day. Anything you can think to tell me will help, thanks again.

Response:

Hi Raven,

Yes, I do remember you writing to me not too long ago. It is good to hear back from you. I hope my suggestions helped you a little.

The first thing I need to ask you is, have you been praying about this? If you have, that is great, keep up the excellent work. If you have not, then you need to start and be consistent if you want to break your addiction!

As far as the scripture in Hebrews 10:26 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sin is left. (I checked my footnotes in my bible) It mentioned that there is no sacrifice for sin left referring to after Jesus Christ. When you (or anyone) rejects Jesus, the person is on their own. I am assuming you did not reject Jesus, but rather your flesh is weak, and you keep falling for temptation. Natural consequences happen when we sin if you have not noticed those consequences already.

You need to find someone to help to keep you accountable, a pastor, good friend, counselor, cousin, or whoever God puts in your path to help you. (But someone!!!)

I would suggest you get professional help, even a 30-day rehab treatment would be a step in the right direction, yet all I know for sure is that you need help. What you have done up until now apparently is not working — another thing I can tell you for sure that willpower and self-control will not be the answer. The answer is God and the people God puts into your life to help you. 

As far as God turning His back on you, that is not true. It is us that turn our backs on God. I understand your addiction is tough to break, yet keep praying and keep reaching out to others like you have reached out to me.

Here is a phone number to call to talk to someone on the phone 800-633-3446

There is hope, keep searching for it. Set some realistic goals and try to achieve them.

Please start by praying more regularly.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

Thank you so much for the info! I hope I don’t bother you when I email you, and yes your right I use to go to “Life Church,” but it was while I was still addicted as I am now. I started to feel looked down on and weak. I went to that church for 2 yrs off and on, more on than off. Mr. Bill I want to ask a question, I feel so lost and can barely hear the lord and I know me, your right I am weak in the flesh and the pain on the inside tears at my heart and I know God feels it too but he’s waiting for me but I am afraid it’s too late for me I don’t know the purpose that God wants for me do you have any outlook on this please and thanks so much for taking the time out to answer me. Oh, and I was wondering where you’re at anyways, and do you have a church? I read it all on your website, but I forgot how to get back to it lol. Anyways thanks so much and I’ll probably write back spontaneously if you don’t mind.

Response:

Hi Raven,

 

I have shared a lot with you, so now please tell me what you think you need to do to get your life back on track?

1.____________________________________________________________________________

2.____________________________________________________________________________

3.____________________________________________________________________________

 

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

I would much like to ask for advice on the situation that I am in…

My boyfriend of three years (James) has become increasingly “emotionally numb”  since I moved across the country to him in Northern Virginia six months ago.  I love my job at a private high school and am very involved with friends, even though my experience being near James’ family has been painful.  We met in college and came from very similar backgrounds (both from families of 8/both faithfully Catholic, etc.). Tension has steadily increased in our relationship since my relocation to where he and his family live.  James and I love each other very much and we both desire to “work things out.”  Here is why I am reaching out to you:

James’ mother has never had a conversation with me, avoids me, and acts rude and uncomfortable whenever I have been in her presence.  His father is quite silent on the matter and tends to be very risk-averse, but separately supports and encourages James.  She (Diane) has only discouraged James in our relationship, and she feels betrayed, rejected, and “left” since he has been in a serious relationship.  She has told him that “he doesn’t know what he is doing,” and that, “she knows women and her judgment should be trusted.”  James is her oldest son, and she will admit that she knows that she has a problem and that she tries to change but doesn’t know-how.  (At this point, I do not think it is likely that she will change.)  James lives at home, and I had seen strong indicators of enmeshment within his family since the beginning of our relationship three years ago.  For example, currently, Diane has kindly told James that he could bring me home if he wants, but she will leave the house if he is to bring me over.  James seems to see this as a sacrificial act of his mother and “the best that she can do right now.”  Or, he will ask me not to come to events where his family is present because he “does not want to deal with it.”  The enmeshment is subtle, and they all act very kind to each other.  He has admitted that he feels guilty when he is with me and not with this family or has not spent enough time with them recently.  I have been watching him live a double life and believing that he can make this work … I truly am not a part of his family life or his home… Our relationship leads to a separate compartment of his life, in the same city.  I think that he believes that I have been the “cause” of his increased unhappiness and “emotional numbness” because I am the only thing that has changed in his day to day this past year, causing his disjointed experience.  How I see it:  James is trying to do the impossible by leading a double life, where I, the woman he loves and wants to be with, am separate from his family life.  Space and independence from his family have not seemed to be established, even though he is a successful adult now.  It’s an impossible balancing act, where there is no way for him to make everyone happy.  In this scenario, I see him believing that he should be happy because he believes he is “doing the right thing” to please everyone.  I believe that he is very fearful to “leave his family,” and doesn’t know how to take the steps.  Due to that, I believe he will never have a happy and healthy relationship and family with me or any other woman.  I do not believe that he is an individual independent adult emotionally.  So, all parties have recognized that there is a problem, and my main concern is that James has projected this “problem” or enmeshment onto me.

How can I help this man that I love to start seeing the bigger picture here? How can I love and support him best through this journey?

Response:

Hi Moira,

Answering your questions from a man’s point of view, I think you need just to plan a time to sit down and the two of you talk. Ask him the questions yourself, How can I help this man that I love to start seeing the bigger picture here? How can I love and support him best through this journey?

Here are a few questions to help you think about why your boyfriend’s mother is avoiding you and why things might be affecting your relationship with your boyfriend?

  1. Have you thought about praying about this situation and reflected on your part of this problem with your boyfriend’s mom and your boyfriend?
  2. Have you any idea why his mother is keeping her distance from you?
  3. Have you said or done anything to offend her?
  4. Does she object that you are dating her son?
  5. Does she have a problem with your personality or values?
  6. Are you and James living together? That could be a problem in her eyes if she is a Christian.
  7. Did you ever think about asking her why she is avoiding you? Or do you think you already know and are not willing to respect her wishes?
  8. What has your boyfriend told you when you ask him about his mom?
  9. Has she always been this way?
  10. When you say you are working things out, what does work things out mean to you?
  11. When Diane admitted she has a problem, what did she say her problem was? Does she want help with her problem?

I read your email over a few times, and the only real solid suggestion to you would be to sit down, and the two of you Diane and you, or the three of you sit down for an hour to start to talk things out.

I asked you the above questions because I thought it would help you reflect on what is going on and to help give you some insights into your problem. I honestly do not have much to offer you in terms of a solution, except that the two of you (you and Diane) and also (you and James), then together the two of you sit down and talk with Diane to hopefully resolve things out or at least come to some agreements after airing things out in the open.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

I need to be able to talk to someone that will listen and give me help… Roger

Response:

Hi Roger,

NeedEncouragement.com is set up primarily for the internet only.

My first suggestion to you would be to pray to God about your marriage, anger, and how to love yourself. Then after doing that, I suggest that you call 800-633-3446 and talk to someone there, or you can chat by going to NeedEncouragement.com/chat and follow the link to chat.

Sometimes people overlook things such as:

  1. Getting enough sleep.
  2. A healthy diet.
  3. Getting some regular exercise.
  4. Avoiding stress by not overcommitting your schedule.
  5. Unconfessed sin.
  6. Make sure you have a regular prayer life. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

I hope these suggestions help you, keep looking to the Lord, for He has the answers!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

 

Tonight my husband and I were knocked down.  We discovered that our 14-year-old daughter has been smoking weed, sneaking around, and now she has claimed that she thinks she is bisexual.  Then I found out that my 23-year-old daughter told her that she is.  Lord, I don’t know what to do.  My heart is breaking, and I don’t know what way to turn.  Please pray for my husband and me.

Response:

Hi Janice,

It is very wise that you are reaching out and asking for prayer. I encourage you to continue to do this because prayer is your best line of approach. Have you spoken to your pastor about this yet? Make sure that you and your husband are on the same page when dealing with our daughter(s).

NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

I will pray that these thoughts and actions of your 14-year-old daughter are just passing whims she is going through. If you have a close enough relationship with her, I would suggest trying to sit down and hear her side of the story and try to explain that God created man and woman to be together. Explain to her that God has given her free will, yet with that free will she does not have the freedom to the consequences to her actions and disobedience. 

Ask your 14-year-old some questions to open discussion. Putting up walls and anger will not be beneficial at this point. For example with marijuana, peer pressure is very significant not to mention the impact of marijuana or other drugs and alcohol.

You need to love her and also set up some boundaries that she ought not to cross without consequences. She is living in your home and needs to follow the rules like not breaking the civil laws such as smoking marijuana.

NeedEncouragement.com/marijuana

Or spiritual laws God has implemented such as having to do with homosexuality.

NeedEncouragement.com/homosexuality

The youth in our culture has elevated things like marijuana, bisexuality, homosexuality, and young people who are curious and searching for their own form of truth. Pray of both of your girls and pray for wisdom for yourselves too. Sin comes in many different, and God hates all sin. Try to be patient and understanding with both of your daughters.

Do not allow this to turn into a shouting match, keep calm in the spirit and speak the truth in love. After that, at some point, your hands are going to be tied, and your daughter will make up her own mind. Be sure to continue to love her no matter what she chooses. She needs to know that you love her unconditionally even if she makes the wrong choices in life. I am sure you did not grow up without giving your parents any heartbreaking news either.

Keep praying for both your daughters and love them as God would love them. Put your daughter in an open palm to the Lord and allow Him to work in her heart and her mind. Do not panic, just lean on God a little harder!

May God bless you, and make you and your husband stronger during this time as you put your trust and hope in Him.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

My fiance and I are struggling with the idea of sex “outside of marriage”. We firmly believe that Jesus looks to the heart of His people. And if our hearts have made the marriage covenant, they are “married” despite not having an official ceremony. Therefore, sex during engagement is acceptable. Thoughts?

Response:

Hi Elaina,

I am glad you have reached out and asked for advice. First of all, you are not alone, this temptation is common to all couples to some degree or another, but what you do with this temptation, will affect your future. You say that you are engaged to be married, then why don’t you wait until you get married?

Dating ought to be a long-term situation to get to know one another, and engagement ought to be a short-term situation after getting to know each other fully. I assume you are planning to be married in spring, in that case, wait the approximately 150 days or less and start your marriage off on the right foot. Have you brought this concern of yours to God? NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

There are more factors to consider. Do you guys attend church together? If so, what do you think your pastor would say about you wanting to have sex before marriage? Have you guys gone through marital counseling already? Has either one of you been divorced in the past? Are you living together?

With the extremely high divorce rate in the United States, you need to go into all of this with both of your eyes open and not be swept away emotionally with the carrot of sex driving your decisions. Divorce is very painful, something to be avoided at ALL costs! I know what I am saying because I have been divorced. 

NeedEncouragement.com/my-divorce-hurt

My thoughts are in agreement with God’s thoughts. So, if you want a straight answer to your question, it would be no not to have sex before marriage, for more information, read on.

Yes, Jesus looks at our hearts, but that does not mean he closes His eyes to things that He has established in His teaching.

Do you feel you know him long enough and good enough and trust him enough to be committed to you in all areas of life and visa versa? If so, then you guys ought to talk about getting married sooner. If he wants to have sex before you guys are even married, what would stop him from having sex with someone else once you did get married? Living your life to honor God with integrity and honesty, are so important.

You have mentioned, “We firmly believe that Jesus looks to the heart of His people.” The question I ask you is, “Is your heart wanting to please God or your own flesh?” I think you know the answer to your own question, and I can not or will not or will not give you counsel to go against God’s word. God has given you both a free will to do what you want, but you do not have the freedom to choose the consequences.

You did not mention if both of you are actively practicing your Christian faith or not. If not, that would be even more important to consider than anything else right now before you get married.

I am sorry that I could not condone your desire to have sex before marriage with your fiance. But I am sure if you bring this to God in prayer, He will give you the strength to be strong and start your marriage off the right way. 

I pray that you seek God’s word more clearly and follow His will not our own will. (you recall what happened in the garden when Adam and Eve did what was right in their own eyes instead of obeying God.)

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

Question:

I am interested in free Christian counseling if you still have it available.

Response:

Good morning Kerry,

Yes, there still is free Christian counseling available on the website. My apology that when you went to NeedEncouragement.com/free-christian-counseling, I am sorry that I did not have it more clear for you to be able to see how to get “Free Chrisitan Counseling.”

Thanks for pointing that out to me. I went to the back end of the site and fixed that for you and others too. Now you will be able to see more clearly. I hope this helps, and counseling helps also.

Keep in mind that prayer needs to be involved each day asking God to direct you and show you the way. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

I struggle day and day with emotional doubts in myself, and these doubts keep killing me with dark emotional feeling of the past, like a shame that keeps me from being me, and it’s just a really hard thing to deal with, and as I been looking for an answer I came across this person on youtube who said that in doubt I should trust in God, which is Biblically correct also, but I just want advice on like how to best trust in God and have better relationships because now I know that God wants a greater revelation for me. So that’s what I need advice on which I’m going to be praying a lot because its all started with doubts for a whole year now and it has taken so much from my life, and all God wanted to do is to help me and love me, but I just kept. Listening to the dark feeling of depression, anxiety, shame, but I know that in the end god will heal me.

Thank you-

Response:

Hi Steve,

Thank you for reaching out to us, I hope what I share with you will be of help to you. You are not alone. Each human being has some doubts about themselves. Keep in mind who’s the voice you are listening to whether it is God’s voice or Satan’s voice. But it sounds to me as though that you have been focusing on your weaknesses and doubts more than you have been focusing on God and his strength and power and great love for you. Read this scripture below slowly and try to understand what God is trying to tell you. 

Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Like any relationship here on earth, it takes time, energy, and effort to make it work. You do not ignore your friends, so then why do we think that we can ignore God and still have a strong relationship with Him? Here are a couple of ideas that I am sure will get you started in having a better relationship with God:

Keep it Simple

  1. First thing in the morning, pray, and thank God for a new day, invite God to direct your day, confess any sin you may be holding on to. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray
  2. Open your Bible and read at least three to seven short verses in Proverbs to start with (increase your amount of learning as you feel more comfortable in doing so) Read as much as you would like to, be sure to read it slowly so you can understand what it is trying to say to you.
  3. Eventually begin reading the Gospel of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. (I would suggest beginning with the book of John)
  4. Write a short paragraph based on what you read and anything else you feel a need to say to God or to ask God. 
  5. Find a Bible-believing church to attend, and find someone who can help you stay on track. NeedEncouragement.com/find-a-good-church

I hope this is going to be a good start for you to begin to rid yourself of depression, anxiety, shame. Here are three other pages that you might benefit from checking out.

  1. NeedEncouragement.com/depression
  2. NeedEncouragement.com/anxiety
  3. NeedEncouragement.com/shame

I will be praying that you continue to pray, but when you pray Steve, not only pray but listen to what God is trying to tell you when you pray and also when you read his word. Here is a phone number you can call to talk with someone live 800-633-3446, also here is a link to get started on a chat if you prefer to do that NeedEncouragement.com/chat

Also, take some time to look over our website to see other things that might be helpful to you.

 

May God continue to bless and keep you near to Him, and make your path more clear to you to follow Him! Don’t give up. Things will get better.

James 1:5   If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


Question:

Need to talk asap…relationship ended!

Response:

Hi Ven,

I am very sorry to hear that your relationship ended. Being rejected can be very hurtful. Maybe there was some misunderstanding between you and your partner that happened, and you could work things out. On the other hand, perhaps it was meant to be? Have you taken this to the Lord in prayer? He will give you the comfort that you are looking for if you ask for wisdom. James 1:5 says “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

 

Do you have a church that you attend? If so, I would suggest talking to someone at your church. If you do not have a church, I would recommend going to NeedEncouragement.com/find-a-good-church

Another good suggestion would be to visit and chat with someone online NeedEncouragement.com/chat

I know you must be feeling some pain and confusion at this point, but rest assure that in our lives, people can let us down and leave us, but always remember that God will never leave you or forsake you! We do not do phone counseling, but the link for chat above can be of help to you. Otherwise, you can call 800-633-3446.

May God bless you and comfort you during this time, if you contact your partner, be sure to be very respectful, and apologize if you have done them wrong. If they do not want to talk, then pray for them and respect their request. I am praying that you find comfort in God’s word and things will work out in God’s will.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

My mind seems to be overtaken with sinful thoughts most uncontrollably.

Hi Tracy,

Here are a couple of things for you to think about and consider:

Philippians 4:8  Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Do you pray about these habitual sins?

Do you read your Bible?

Do you have fellowship with other believers?

Do you confess your sins to God?

Do you put yourself around situations that are a temptation to you?

Do you have a church you attend?

Do you have a pastor to talk with?

Here are a couple of pages on my website that can be of help to you:

NeedEncouragement.com/chat

NeedEncouragement.com/alchol-and-drugs

NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

NeedEncouragement.com/got-questions

Also, you can call 800-633-3446

I hope and pray that what I have shared with you has been of help to you!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

Question:

Hi there,

I’ve been looking for someone to give me a piece of godly advice regarding a subject that’s been on my mind these past several weeks, but unfortunately, there’s nobody in my church who can help me as it’s a personal issue and I haven’t found anyone to chat to about it.

I didn’t want to make a habit of using the internet to solve problems but I was just hoping you would be available for just a one time piece of godly advice to a brother.

My wife and I are both in our late thirties, been saved since our mid-twenties, and have experienced a very fulfilling and blessed relationship both emotionally and spiritually.  But there has been something that has been bugging me lately which my mind can’t seem to switch off from.

My wife is 39, is in great physical shape, she has always had a real woman’s body: power thighs, big round hips, and buttocks, and she takes care of herself.  But the thing that’s bugging me is that she wears these leggings when she’s out in public, they aren’t see-through or anything, but they are very body-hugging, tight, and revealing of her lower body; every curve is on display when she wears them.

I don’t know why but for some reason I feel very insecure and start to feel very jealous when I notice other guys in public or at the grocery store staring at her buttocks or checking out her lower half – there is a lot to check out.  I was just wondering if you could tell me from a spiritual perspective if I am sinning by feeling jealous.  I don’t want to feel this feeling, and it would help tremendously if you could clarify for me if it is, in fact, a sin; that way I can fight it with scripture.

I don’t want to tell my wife what to wear, I just want to feel normal when she wears these leggings – most every other woman wears them in public, so why do I feel strangely jealous when she does?

I hope you can help me with this problem.  I have prayed about it but I can’t seem to find any answers and as I say, there is no-one else to talk to.

Blessings,

Ben

Response:

Hi Ben,

What you are saying is right on the money. First of all, you are NOT sinning by having feelings of jealousy in this case, and if you did not have those feelings, I would be more concerned. The ones that are sinning are the ones who look at your wife lustfully. My daughter did something similar years ago, and when I confronted her, she told me that it was not her problem, but the guy’s problem. Maybe your wife is not even aware of what she is doing and how men are wired? This is what I suggest you do:

  1. Pray about it. needencouragement.com/how-to-pray
  2. Talk to your wife about it.
  3. If your wife does not like what you say, after telling her how you feel, offer her to buy her some new clothes, and give her an explanation of how men I wired to be visually stimulated which is different than how women are stimulated.
  4. If your wife still does not like what you say, do not make an argument out of it, but rather bring it to your pastor as a concern for your marriage.

Remember you are a man in your house, but be sure you are a gentleman in all circumstances and when dealing with this potentially delicate subject. I hope what I have shared with you will help you and your wife!

May God bless you and your marriage and that your wife has ears to hear, and also she understands that you love her, and you want the best for her and your marriage!.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

More:

Thanks for your message but let me put it another way… if your wife wore tight, thin leggings in public that showed off her lower half wouldn’t you feel any pang of anger or jealousy over seeing other guys ogle it and want her to wear something else because her body belongs to you and you alone?  Or would you say that feeling was a sin?

Response:

Hi Ben,

I do not know what else I can tell you, except to re-read the email that I sent you. But read it a little slower. I am sorry I was not 100% clear to you, but if she does not listen to what you say about the way she dresses, then contact your pastor, and the three of you can talk things out.

Go for the solution rather than being stuck on the problem. Take this to God in prayer first, then talk with your wife, then talk with your pastor if she is not willing to change her ways.

I am sorry that you have to deal with this but be patient and I am praying that things will work out.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

Question:

Hi, id like to help with my relationship with God. In the summer of 2018, I’ve been the closest to God, but now I’ve lost faith. I feel like the reason why behind this is because of the stress and time from school. I’m not sure what to do, but I don’t feel a connection with him at all anymore. Please help.

Response Letter:

Hi Nina,

I would suggest that you pray to God and rekindle that relationship that still is there but has been overlooked. He has not gone anywhere; it is us that turn our backs on him. He loves us and will forgive us as a loving Father would.

Ask yourself what got in the way of your relationship with God? Often some of the things that get between God and us are our flesh, money, laziness, complacency, lack of prayer, Bible reading, and I would say most of all sin. Is there any sin in your life that is not confessed and repented from?

Whatever it may be, confess it to God and turn from it. As is says in 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

I  pray that your passion for God returns as you humble yourself to God and I know that He will greet you with open arms.

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com/relationship-with-Jesus

800-633-3446

 


Question:

(Two questions for you)

Do people go to hell because of self-perception?

Do people go to hell because they committed suicide?

Lulu

Response Letter:

Hi Lulu,

I wanted to answer both of your questions, but the first question I did not understand precisely what you were trying to say, but I can tell you this though, the only way to go to hell would be to reject Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. We are all sinners every last one of us, but if we are have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, hell is not an option.

Here is a link to a youtube video that will help answer your question about suicide. https://www.youtube.com/embed/YTUlnyv6mbk

I was not sure why you asked the question about suicide, but if you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or know someone who is, please go to NeedEncouragement.com/suicide-prevention

I got this information from an excellent website that I like, and I use often called GotQuestions.org

I hope and pray that what I have shared with you has answered your questions!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 

 


 

Question:

“If a Christian commits suicide, is he/she still saved?”

Response Letter:

It is a sad fact that some Christians have committed suicide. Adding to the tragedy is the false teaching that committing suicide automatically consigns one to hell. Many believe that a Christian who commits suicide will not be saved. This teaching is not supported in the Bible.

Scripture teaches that, from the moment we truly believe in Christ, we are guaranteed eternal life (John 3:16). According to the Bible, Christians can know beyond any doubt that they possess eternal life (1 John 5:13). Nothing can separate a Christian from God’s love (Romans 8:38–39). No “created thing” can separate a Christian from God’s love, and even a Christian who commits suicide is a “created thing”; therefore, not even suicide can separate a Christian from God’s love. Jesus died for all of our sins, and if a true Christian, in a time of spiritual attack and weakness, commits suicide, his sin is still covered by the blood of Christ.

According to the Bible

Suicide is not what determines whether a person gains entrance into heaven. If an unsaved person commits suicide, he has done nothing but “expedite” his journey to hell. However, that person who committed suicide will ultimately be in hell for rejecting salvation through Christ, not because he committed suicide (see John 3:18). We should also point out, however, that no one truly knows what was happening in a person’s heart the moment he or she died. Some people have “deathbed conversions” and accept Christ in the moments before death. It is possible that a person who commits suicide could have a last-second change of heart and cry out for God’s mercy. We leave such judgments to God (1 Samuel 16:7).

The suicide of a believer is evidence that anyone can struggle with despair and that our enemy, Satan, is “a murderer from the beginning” (John 8:44). Suicide is still a serious sin against God. According to the Bible, suicide is murder; it is always wrong. Christians are called to live their lives for God, and the decision of when to die is God’s and God’s alone.

May God grant grace and the psalmist’s perspective to each one who is facing trials today: “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God” (Psalm 43:5).

 


Question:

I’m having relationship issues, my man misunderstood God and ended the relationship, I need God to pls speak to him and bring us back before my birthday. We’re ready for a Fresh Start with God as the foundation.

Response Letter:

Hi Bello,

I am sorry to hear you are going through a relationship problem. My first thought would be to suggest that you take this relationship issue to God in prayer. Be patient and calm. 

You might want to write him a short detailed letter explaining why you believe he misunderstood God. Write it out for him. Let him read it, and then you can have something to talk over. You might want to wait at least a day or two to give him the letter.

After you talk on the phone, then talk in person would be the way to deal with things.

My pastor’s wife told me something very wise I like to share with you. Keep your boyfriend, and everything and everyone in an open palm often the problem is that we hold on too tightly to people and things, allow God to work in your boyfriend’s heart and your heart in the next few days to see what develops.

I pray that you guard your heart and trust that God will work out things the way He knows best how to do.

Bill Greguska

NeedEnouragement.com

Thank you so much this really brought relief to me, I plead that you also join me in prayers pls.

Thank you

Hi Bello,

I pray right now that God restores your relationship with your boyfriend it that is your will, Lord. If not, I pray that Bello will find her strength in you Lord, and the people in her life. It is apparent that Bello would love for the relationship to get back together and have it based on you God. Hear her plea Lord and give her what she needs. 800-633-3446

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com/healthy-relationships

Thank you, that means a lot. 

 


 

Hi Ben,

What you are saying is right on the money. First of all, you are NOT sinning by having feelings of jealousy in this case, and if you did not have those feelings, I would be more concerned. The ones that are sinning are the ones who look at your wife lustfully. My daughter did something similar years ago, and when I confronted her, she told me that it was not her problem, but the guy’s problem. Maybe your wife is not even aware of what she is doing and how men are wired? This is what I suggest you do:

  1. Pray about it. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray
  2. Talk to your wife about it.
  3. If your wife does not like what you say, after telling her how you feel, offer her to buy her some new clothes, and give her an explanation of how men I wired to be visually stimulated which is different than how women are stimulated.
  4. If your wife still does not like what you say, do not make an argument out of it, but rather bring it to your pastor as a concern for your marriage.

Remember you are a man in your house, but be sure you are a gentleman in all circumstances and when dealing with this potentially delicate subject. I hope what I have shared with you will help you and your wife!

May God bless you and your marriage and that your wife has ears to hear, and also she understands that you love her, and you want the best for her and your marriage!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

Do you provide any online or over the phone counseling? I could really use some, and so could my husband, separately.

Response Letter:

Hi Traci,

I do not do extended online or over the phone counseling myself, even though I do answer some questions when people write to me. I am a Christian that offers advice to those who inquire with the wisdom from God’s word the Bible and my personal life experiences of 58 years, although I am not a counselor who digs deep down with extended visitations.

I would encourage you to contact https://krisreece.com/christian-counseling.

Here are some very encouraging videos by Kris Reece

Also here are some excellent pages from my website that can also be of help to you both

  1. NeedEncouragement.com/better-marriage
  2. NeedEncouragement.com/marriage-tips
  3. NeedEncouragement.com/marriage-relationship
  4. NeedEncouragement.com/good-marriage

 

I hope and pray that what I have shared with you is helpful to you and your husband. I pray that your marriage strengthens and you can love one another like you did before you were married. Do not give up on your marriage as so many others do. God hates divorce.

Make sure you pray each day about it in your time with God. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

God bless you both,

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

Question:

I don’t know how to start. I don’t know why I am doing this either. In all retrospect, this seems like a stupid idea, and that is coming from me a 13-year-old girl who in the entirety of my life has made multiple stupid choices. I believe that I am sending this because I just want someone to listen. I believe I am doing this also for forgiveness and not just from God. Forgive me, father, for I have sinned, that’s what people do when they sin right, they confess, they beg for forgiveness of a person whom they don’t even know exists (please don’t get me wrong,  I was raised by a Catholic mother, so of course I believe in God).

So allow me to confess, I have committed 7 things the commandments have said not to do, I have lied constantly, manipulated, tricked many people even those closest to me. I have thought about suicide. I have thought of many things. Growing up my mother abused me, I sometimes as a child prayed for her, but now it seems they pray for me.

My mother believes that my family is punished by God for our sins due to the fact of my father lost his job, my sister almost lost her vision, me possibly repeating school, etc. She took me one time to church to talk to God, and I had no idea of what to say, sometimes I do believe that it is a punishment from God for my sins, I feel corrupted somehow, compelled to learn about evil( ex. I have been for the past 4 or 5 years been very obsessed to learn and read about demons, but I don’t because I’m too scared to). I feel depressed from within. I feel trapped only able to accept the choice already made for me. I believe that is why I doubt Catholicism.

It only shows one side of the story (God’s side) and not satans side of the story. We don’t know what truly happened. We can only believe that it is true. I can’t help but doubt if a God was so forgiving why do people go to hell. I can’t help but doubt, please forgive me, but whenever I was in trouble I turned to God, so why should I not turn to him now. Father help me, for I think I am damned.

 – Honorine

Response Letter:

Hi Honorine,

I am glad you reached out to share what is going on in your life. Since you believe in God, and loves you, you are not dammed. You have merely taken the wide road offered by the world and the devil, but you still have time to get on the narrow road which leads to life.

First of all, I encourage you to take time right now to pray to God, and He has not turned His back on you, it is us who turn our back on Him. NeedEncouragement.com/how-to-pray

Next, I encourage you to do what it says in 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.

It sounds like you have a lot on your heart and mind that you are dealing with. I understand what you are saying about the Catholic church. You might want to find a protestant Bible-believing church to attend if possible. If not since you are so young, I encourage you to check out our website and watch some good Christian videos and check out the many pages on different topics that we have. Needencouragement.com/false-religions

I pray for you right now that you can ask God to give you wisdom and direction in your life. I pray that you do not become overwhelmed with too many things all at the same time. Walk with the Lord, read your Bible, and begin a close relationship with Him. You are not alone, God is with you (Emanuel), and He will put the right people in your path to accomplish His will in your life!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

 


 

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Subject: NeedEncouragement.com “I’m feeling really guilty about what I have said to several loved ones in my life”

Message Body:
My son has been estranged from me for over 5 years.
I was a single mom and did the best I could with him juggling raising him and work. I let him have it the other day. I’ve tried to love him and have tried tough love. Neither has worked. Also, I have or had one Christian friend whom I said some awful things to last week or so. I made amends to her, but I feel like there is a big rift between us. She has been on the mission field and seems like a strong believer. Also, she has been my caregiver for 5 years. I finally had to let her go because she always came to me for financial assistance besides her normal pay. I believe her husband or her family should help her, not me. I disagree with her gambling issue and have helped her out over the years. I had a gambling problem myself and understand how hard it is to break away. My dad gave an inheritance to all his children and I don’t feel right about giving her extra cash, but still feel bad about the whole thing. She now is free to do her own thing, like Bible Study without me, to go to Church with me, or any else she wants to do She is a wonderful person and I still love her as a friend. I get this awful feeling that things aren’t right between us. I resent the fact that she comes to me when she needs financial help. I can’t do it anymore.. period. My inheritance was given to me and I saw her spend her whole paycheck on gambling. It breaks my heart to see my dad’s hard-earned money wasted away. I know it’s very wrong to feel resentful. I’m in a dilemma whether to keep helping her even though she is married and her family is more capable of helping her out. I need help with these two issues in my life.
Hi Lucy,
 
I am glad you have reached out to us. It almost sounds to me in your writing that you are almost answering your own questions.
 
As far as your son, if you have done all you could do, then just turn the page and wait on the Lord to make the possible next move, all relationships are not reconciled, but we need to listen to the instruction in the following scripture.
 
Romans 12:18  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
 
As far as your friend with the gambling problem, you are making it to become your problem, that is wrong, you are enabling her, and as you said she has a family who needs to be aware of what is going one. You can blame me if it will help you that you contacted some this weekend and he suggested that you do not give her more money.
 
It sounds like you have a big heart, and it has been crushed by your son, and your friend is taking advantage of you. Please pray about this, and I am sure the Lord will want you to forgive your son for whatever your part in the problem was, and leave it at that.
 
Remember not helping the friend with the gambling problem does not mean you are cruel or a bad person, you are just being wise, even though it is uncomfortable for you to do so.
 
Matthew 7:13-14 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
 
You will be happy that you did. If what I have shared has been helpful and you would have more to say, feel free to contact me back via email.
 
My God bless you and help you take the narrow gate.
 
Bill Greguska
 
 

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Subject: I’m scared I committed blasphemy against the Holy Spirit
Message Body:
I’m scared cause I have evil thoughts about God and not only that I’m scared I may have said something bad about God in the past and I’m scared cause I don’t want to go to hell
Hi Vincent,
 
Have to taken this to God in prayer? That would be my first and foremost advice to you.
 
I noticed that you said, I may have said something bad about God in the past.” Keep in mind that you are human with a human mind and emotions, and if you did say something in anger, you can come to Jesus in prayers and confess your sin.

It says in 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.


It is a very good sign that this issue is bothering you, and that you seem to want to make things right with God so you can be with Him in heaven rather than hell. https://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/

If what I have shared with you has been helpful and you would like to talk to me more about this, feel free to email me back.

God bless you!

Bill Greguska

NeedEncouragement.com

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I allowed my grown daughter to move in with my granddaughter who is 2 years old last year. I left for vacation in Georgia and came back home to find her and her boyfriend that she’s only known for two months in my own. I was told that they were staying here the week that I was gone. I also found beer in the house. I am a Christian woman I do not allow men to stay in my home and I do not allow alcohol in my home. My daughter knows this and she straight out didn’t care about it. What should I do? I really want her out of my house.
Hi,
I am glad you have reached out to talk to us about this before doing anything. God’s word says in Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed. You are in a difficult situation, but the answer is relatively straightforward. I hope what I share with you make it more clear to you. It is not a simple answer, but God’s word will shine the light you need to the right decision. James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
The first thing I suggest that you do is to take this concern of your to God in prayer. I am sure he will give you the wisdom you need to deal with this problem.
As for me, I would suggest that you sit your daughter down and tell her what you will allow and what you will not allow in your house and the reason why (this might impact her conscience and make her understand what she did was wrong. If this works, you have won her over.
But if it does not work, and she gives you an argument, you need to calmly remind her that the house she is living in is yours. If she still puts up a fuss, tell her you will give her one last chance to prove herself, and as my big brother, who is 15 years older than I am, used to tell me when I used to get in trouble and was disobedient, he used to say, you make your bed and you will sleep in it.
Joshua 24:15 But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
If the worst comes to worst (which we pray does not happen), then try to give her a 30-day notice, and in doing so, she might come to her senses and realize she has it made, living with you.
I had two kids myself, one natural and one stepson. The motto that I tried to base my parenting on was the words: FIRM, FAIR, FUN. That always seemed to guide me through difficult times.
1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins.
I hope what I have shared with you has been of help. If so, and you would like to email me back with anything else, please feel free to do so.
Remember, a carpenter uses the right size hammer to get the job done, so that is why I am suggesting that you stay calm. Also, remember that you are the mother, you are in control, it is your home, yet don’t forget that you love your daughter, and doing something harsh might have its long-lasting regrets.
I have confidence that you will do fine. I pray that the Holy Spirit leads you, and you do not lend your lips to the devil out of anger. You can calmly deal with this, set up a time you both are free to talk and be assertive and loving to your daughter!

You need to pray to God and decide what YOU are going to do, as it says in:

Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
May God bless you and give you wisdom, strength, and a confident, calm spirit in dealing with your daughter.
Bill Greguska
P.S. You might also wish to look back to when we were kids and the mess we got ourselves into, I am sure if you had a good mom and dad as I did, they were upset with me, but always God directed them to know how to deal with me. How about you? Please let me know how things turned out even if you do not need any more advice. I will be praying for you! Keep in mind, this could be a good learning experience for your daughter and draw her more near to the Lord!

Subject: Marital issues
Message Body:
Hey, I’m having issues with my husband. We got married really fast, and I love him but there’s a side to him I didn’t really notice at the beginning of our relationship and that’s that he’s really impatient and reactive. He’s spent years abusing drugs like pills and it could be a side effect. He is Christian and loves God but I’m afraid he isn’t as aware of his outbursts towards people. He has the right to be upset but it’s as if it happens way too often and in an aggressive manner. I’m feeling tired of bringing it up to him and praying about it. I don’t know what to do but it’s leading me to think have I made a mistake marrying him? Why did God not show me this side of him before? Or was I too blind to have noticed it?
He’s aware of his reactions and he’s gone too many therapies in the past. When he was a kid he was left by his biological mother at 2 and his stepmom physically abused him. He says he’s forgiven them but maybe that’s why he’s still angry. As much as he’s reactive, he’s also very loving and caring.
Advice, prayers, and ears to hear me out are appreciated right now. Thank you for helping out. God bless you in Jesus name
Amen
Hi Bianca,
When you say that you have been having issues with your husband that does not surprise me at all. The reason I say that is because whenever you get two sinners (saved by God’s grace or not, there is bound to be sparks flying.
I would try to get your eyes off of your husband’s shortcomings and set your eyes on the Lord to help you find out what you can do to help your marriage. If anything we ought to look upon our own shortcomings and how you can improve. (I am not taking his side, but most people when we get a little older get set in our own way, so trying to “FIX HIM” will be MUCH harder than to ask God to make you better, you will win him over to you faster that way than trying to fix him, believe me!!!
I believe you when you say that he is “impatient and reactive” that he abused drugs in the past. Your job since you married him, is to be his helpmate, by that I mean, encourage him and build him up, do you try to not engage in issues that are so very minor that tend to make him reactive? Have you been doing that?
You also mention that he is “very loving and caring”. You need to tell him how very loving and caring he is. Give him examples of what you mean when you say that he is “very loving and caring?”
If what I have said to you has been helpful, feel free to email me back if you have more to say?
May God bless you both and you can both have more patience and understanding with each other in your marriage!

 

Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Disappointed
Message Body:
Hi my question would be should a Bishop pray over a couple that he has just Married I’ve searched the Word of God I’m still not sure how it works the Bishop had not shaved  and his clothing was dirty very noticable he rushed right in it was over in less than 10 min .we are Faithful members for almost 2 yrs we pay our dues and we always try to walk in love were still getting to know the Saints the Bishop was rude he rushed us in and out so fast I wasnt able to introduce my Brother who gave me away nor my 2 step kids we Blessed first lady with a nice gift and also paid a nice blessing to the Bishop I’m so disappointed and was so embarrassed by his action I’m that was Our Special Day he was not prepared at all I also believe that he was out of order my Husband is also not happy about how he treated us like a fast buisness Deal  maybe we were and it showed Praying for a better understanding I’ve been hurt so many times by Leaders that I love and trust to a point we havent been back to Church since the doors are back open we watch online but we dont pay  tithes anymore I would rather bless my Family with it
Hi Tracy,
I read your email this afternoon, but I did not know how to respond to your inquiry. So I saved the email, and I am now looking at it again. I can understand your feeling of hurt and disappointment. I am sorry that you feel that the day was disappointing to you and your family. I hope other parts of the day kind of made up for it?
I can not speak on behalf of the Bishop, but my guess since he too is human, maybe he was having problems of his own. (sick parent, a child on drugs, financial difficulties, etc. I know that I am not always on top of my game, sometimes life pressures can be overwhelming, and I do and say thing to hurt others as a result.
The way I look at it, even though it was a very important day in your life and the lives of your family. I would suggest a few things to consider.
  1. Take this whole situation to God in prayer.
  2. Forgive the man who hurt and disappointed you.
  3. If you have it in you to be loving towards him, talk to him on the phone. Maybe I am right that he was having troubles of his own. (forgiveness and reconciliation with you as a goal).
  4. Keep in mind what it says in Matthew 6:15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
If anything that I have shared with you has been of help, feel free to email me back if you would like to talk more.
May God bless you,
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Coping with Breakup
Message Body:
I broke up with my bf yesterday because he was yelling at me and left in a rage and wouldn’t pick up the phone when he left.  He’s not even sorry, and it seems like he doesn’t care how much he hurts me.
Hi Sara,
Of course, I do not know all the details, but it sounds like he has shown his anger one too many times with you. If I were you, I would not try to even think about it right now until things cool off, get some sleep and take care of yourself. He had no right to yell and leave in a rage, but maybe when he comes to his senses he might humbly come to apologize to you. If not, maybe it is for the best to leave him.
You do not want to be married to someone who treats you like that, especially while you are still dating. Maybe this is a blessing sort of speak, but maybe when he regains his mind, you might willing to at least listen to his side of the story. We all can lose our cool sometimes, right, but if you think this is a regular pattern with him, then maybe saying goodbye is the right thing to do. Breaking up can be very hard!
Please pray about this and see what your boyfriend does in the next few days.
A couple of things to remember in life:
  1. Always use your head and guard your heart.
  2. God commands us to forgive one another, yet reconciliation is not a command.
  3. If you are not a Christian, I suggest that you take a look at my website and see if it speaks to you in any special way. https://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/
If what I have shared with you has been helpful, feel free to email us back if you need to say more? I pray that you leave your relationship in an open palm to God, and allow God to direct your path. God will never leave you or treat you like that!
God bless you,
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Bored. Other
Message Body:
Seems like family, friends are so scared about these perilous times that no one wants to stay in touch. Seems like people are getting more self-centered. As a believer, I realize Jesus is with me but thought God gave us fellowship in this life. Unless God wants me alone this way. As a disabled Christian family should be more caring. But with. plus I’m not sure where God wants me to go live. As I’m almost poor. I never wanted to be homeless and have tried to apply for work. parents gone life seems a bit gloomy
A Christian friend seems too busy to give advice as he used to, he is overseas.
Is God separate people from me, or setting me apart from them?
Hi Matt,
You have some excellent questions, I am not sure if I can answer them the way you need, but I know who does, and that is God Himself!

Reading your email, my first thought was that since others are not stepping up to the plate in social areas, why don’t you take the initiative to contact them on the phone, write a letter, send an email, and start-up some conversations. Since you mentioned God, I assume that you have a relationship with God. You say you do not have people to care for you, but keep in mind that God cares for every one of us! You can cast your worries on to His shoulders, as it says in 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

If what I have shared has been of help to you, feel free to email me back if you would like to mention anything else?

God bless you, keep you company, calm your spirit, and walk with you each day!
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Prayer
Message Body:
I feel like I have lost my salvation. Words can fully describe how scared, sick, alone, and helpless I feel. It is constant and I cannot go on this way
Hi Sandra,
Remember that feelings are not facts. Why in the world would you think you have lost your salvation? Even if you did commit a huge sin, God’s grace is sufficient.

1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.Once we are saved, nobody or nothing can snatch us out of God’s hand. How long have you been saved?

Here is a scripture to give you some encouragement and assurance of your salvation.

Romans 10:9-10  If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.

Pray to God right now, and tell God what is on your heart, do not listen to the lies of the devil. The devil is our enemy and wants to kill, steal, and destroy our lives.
Psalm 46:1-3 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth gives way and the mountains
fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.
If what I have shared with you has been an encouragement to you, feel free to contact me back if you have more to say. Here is a link for your encouragement. https://needencouragement.com/get-right-with-god/
God bless you!
Bill Greguska

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Subject: under attack
Message Body:
I have been returned to the Lord for two years now. in the last year, I have been reduced to not having enough to eat and no water atm. the local cop tried to arrest me and accused me of being a meth addict. the people around here all think I’m something I’m not. I keep trying to show apples and they see pinecones. I’m so broke I eat every other day. I thought I was living right and been asking for God’s help. it’s starting to feel like he isn’t listening anymore.
Hi Ellis,
It sounds like you kind of hit bottom and are looking for a way back up. Have you prayed and asked God what He wants you to do? Is there someone you know who can help you get your feet back on the ground? How about your church? Is there anyone you could talk with and get some help from. You seem to be having doubts about God, but believe me, God is real and He loves you and has a plan for your life, not to harm you, but give you hope and a future. Have you been living your life for the Lord? If not, He will always welcome you back with open arms.
You might want to google local shelters and food pantries so you can at least start to eat healthy and get your strength back. In the meantime, keep praying and try to understand what God is calling you to do at this time in your life. I will pray for you that God opens up the right doors for you and closes the ones that will lead you to nowhere.

Matthew 7:7-8 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

God bless you,
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Detrimental Family Matters
Message Body:
hi there! i really need some assistance with a decision. my mother has been dealing with a meth addiction for as long as i can remember. my siblings and i have dealt with it for years. we’ve been taken away once before when i was about 9. anyway, it’s reached the point where we barely have hygiene supplies in our bathroom. it’s almost a privilege to have toilet paper now. and my younger siblings don’t attend school much because my mother and her boyfriend, don’t care enough to make an effort. the school principal had to come to our house today. my mom does meth every week. there’s no “only on the weekends” anymore. it’s whenever she gets money from her boyfriend. and they’ve been in countless domestic fights. police have been involved many times. anyway, i don’t know if i should make an anonymous cps call or give it God. I pray on it every day, but it’s just something nagging at me 24/7. i can’t focus on schoolwork. I’m a senior now. and i feel this year deserves my effort. i think i’ll just end this here. i appreciate you taking the time to read this by the way. i just don’t know what to do.
Best Regards,
Hi Karina,
Thanks for reaching out to us. I saw your email early this afternoon, but after reading it, I wanted to put more thought and also prayer into it before responding to you.
I noticed that you mentioned God in your email. I take it that you are a Christian. I am sure you must wonder why God is allowing this to happen to you and your siblings. First of all, I would suggest that you keep praying and sincerely ask God what He wants you to do? Pray for your mother, yourself, your siblings.  I can understand that you are in a terrible situation. What do you think about trying to get drug treatment help for your mother? Would she possibly cooperate, or is she still pretty strongly active in her addiction?
Please do me a favor, if it ever gets to the point where you feel you or your siblings are in serious danger, please do not hesitate to contact 911. In the meantime, do your best to focus on your schoolwork, and try to be a good role model for your siblings. I am sorry that you have to be experiencing this, but keep in mind that God is in control, so keep close to God and use the good brains that He has blessed you with to do good!
If what I have shared has been helpful, feel free to contact me back if you have more questions or need more help!
I will be praying for you, and I trust that God will be watching over you. So try to keep calm and trust God!
This scripture has given me strength and encouragement many times in my life…
Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
Bill Greguska

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Subject: Life, Love, Family & Salvation
Message Body:
Hello, my name is Charles, I am contacting need encouragement representatives to gain more insight on my “walk”  and communing with God and his people.
Hi Charles,
I am glad you contacted us, what do you mean specifically when you say, “to gain more insight on my “walk”  and communing with God and his people.”
  1. Have you prayed about this, and if so, what do you believe God wants you to learn more about or change in your life?
  2. Have you talked to anyone else, and if so, what did they tell you?
Please feel free to email us back with more specifics so we can possibly be of help to you.
Bill Greguska