Conflict Resolution!
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Conflict resolution is crucial for several reasons. If you choose to avoid conflict, conflicts that are allowed to fester unaddressed will not sometimes, but ALWAYS increase and have negative effects on relationships with each other. The goal of conflict resolution is unity, and the devil who will use every opportunity to take advantage of unresolved issues, especially those involving anger, bitterness, self-pity, and envy.
Ugly Emotions Are Involved In Most Conflicts. Scripture Tells Us That We’re To “Let All Bitterness And Wrath And Anger And Clamor And Slander Be Put Away From [us], Along With All Malice” (Ephesians 4:31). Failure To Obey This Command Results In Division And Grief To The Holy Spirit. We’re Also Told Not To Allow A “Root Of Bitterness” To Spring Up Among Us, Leading To Trouble And Defilement (Hebrews 12:15). Clearly, A Biblical Method Of Conflict Resolution Is Needed!
The New Testament has multiple commands to believers that are demonstrative of living at peace with one another. We are repeatedly instructed to love one another (John 13:34; Romans 12:10), to live in peace and harmony with one another (Romans 15:5; Hebrews 12:14), to settle our differences among ourselves (2 Corinthians 13:11), to be patient, kind, and tenderhearted toward one another (1 Corinthians 13:4), to consider others before ourselves (Philippians 2:3), to bear one another’s burdens (Ephesians 4:2), and to rejoice in the truth (1 Corinthians 13:6). Conflict is the antithesis of Christian behavior as outlined in Scripture. I learned that when I practice conflict resolution, I need to make sure I am calm and open to hear what the other person has to say. Otherwise it is wise to wait until I have a better attitude. If I rush into a discussion that I am not ready for, the results will not be favorable. Praying is my best line of defense when dealing with conflict resolution. ~ Bill Greguska
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
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Biblical Conflict Resolution In A Nutshell!
Seven Steps to Resolution
- Rejoice in the Lord always (Philippians 4:4).
- Let your reasonableness be known to everyone (Philippians 4:5a).
- Remember the Lord is at hand (Philippians 4:5b).
- Don’t be anxious about the conflict, but ask God to resolve it (Philippians 4:6).
- Guard your heart and mind with the peace of God, even when it does not make sense to do so (Philippians 4:7).
- Find something—anything—praiseworthy to focus on in your situation (Philippians 4:8).
- Find good role models and continue practicing these things as you experience God’s peace (Philippians 4:9).
The Do’s And Don’ts In Solving Conflict!
Despite All Efforts To Reconcile, Various Issues Can Stop Us!
There are two places in the New Testament that clearly and unambiguously address conflict resolution where sin is involved. In Matthew 18:15-17, Jesus gives the steps for dealing with a sinning brother. According to this passage, in the event of conflict involving overt sin, we are to address it one-on-one first, then if still unresolved it should be taken to a small group, and finally before the whole church if the problem still remains.
The other passage where this is addressed explicitly is Luke 17. In verses 3-4, Jesus says, “Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” An essential part of conflict resolution is forgiveness. Any kind of disciplinary procedure should always have restoration of the sinning person as the ultimate goal.
A Biblical Way To Deal With Conflict!
Sometimes Conflict Has To Do With Style Preferences ~ Or Personality Clashes!
In such cases, we do well to check our own motives and remember to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3–4).
If we do have a genuine disagreement with someone over stylistic preferences—the best way to accomplish a certain ministry goal, the church budget, how a church service should flow, etc.—we should engage in discussion and come to mutual agreement.
In Philippians 4:2–3 Paul pleads for Euodia and Syntyche “to be of the same mind in the Lord” and for others to help them. We must humble ourselves to truly listen to one another, striving for peace within the body (Romans 12:16-18). We should also seek God’s wisdom and direction (James 1:5). It is true that sometimes it is best to part ways in recognition that God has different calls on our lives. But we should do our best never to divide in anger.
The reason conflict resolution is so difficult is that we’re hesitant to place ourselves in uncomfortable situations. We’re also frequently unwilling to humble ourselves enough to admit that we might be wrong or to do what it might take to make amends if we are wrong.
Those who do conflict resolution best are often those who would prefer not to confront others about their sin, but still do so out of obedience to God. If the matter is relatively minor, it may be that the best thing to do is to practice forbearance and overlook the offense (Proverbs 19:11). If it cannot be overlooked, one must pursue reconciliation. This is such an important issue to God that peace with Him and peace with others are inextricably entwined (Matthew 5:23–24). Gotquestions.org
Conflict Resolution!
Some Specific Scriptures To Encourage You:
Philippians 4:6-7 ESV
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
1 Peter 5:7 ESV
Casting all your anxieties on him because he cares for you.
John 14:27 ESV
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
Matthew 11:28-30 ESV
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Psalm 23:4 ESV
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
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